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Question

Im easily intimidated by people but I want to make new friends and have more guys like me. Im afraid to step out of my comfort zone and every day at schoo at lunch,I hide in the library and play with this yahoo thing. Could you ppl help me be more confident and comfortable with myself and less intimidated by others?

Answer 1

For starters...at lunch time go in the cafe and TALK to people. You have to put yourself where the people are if you intend to meet them. I truly dougbt they are going to come to the library.

Answer 2

Being shy is crippling and stressful. It took me years to deal with it. If you let your fear control you and base your decisions on fear it will only keep you down and you will be encouraging more of it. This behavior results in giving your power away and you never want to give your power away. You have control over your life even though you may not feel like you do. Maybe consider seeing a therapist, they can help. You've got to learn how to be comfortable with yourself, proud of who you are. Maybe find a group that's proud of their heritage, same heritage as you, and learn about it. I bet you coudn't even give a reasonable answer as to why you think so low of yourself? If you are not comfortable with yourself, it will project outward and people will read it and treat you accordingly. What you give out to the world is what you get back. If you project fear, fear will come back to you. It's probably related to some feelings of self worthlessness deep down inside. If you can step outside yourself and ask, "is that true or false?" you'll probably find that much, if not all, of the self talk going on in your head doesn't even make sense. Everyone is on the same level as you, you are not beneath anyone and they are not on any pedestals. Are you intimidated because you feel they have more of a right than you do? Nonsense. There are many others that feel the same as you do, have you noticed any of them around? Have you considered saying a few things to someone, starting small so you don’t get too overwhelmed? Sometimes faking what you feel about yourself works too when trying to combat negative self talk. For example, when you’re nervous or scared, tell yourself, "who cares" and "I deserve this" and "they're no better than me." When I look back, I realize now that I made a big deal about things that were not and therefore I created the problem internally and it snowballed. I felt silly at the time I recognized it, but glad I finally did. You'll find it easier to talk to someone if you can find something in common with them for starter conversations. Have you considered joining any groups or clubs? Is there someone you've been wanting to strike up a conversation with and haven't? Go for it. You have no reason not to? The only one holding you back is you. Ask yourself often, what the worst that can happen and is that really so bad? If they don't respond the way you want them too, thats ok. Onto the next. Others don't define who you are unless you let them. When you can do this, you’ll feel a ton of weight off of your back. Changing your perception is key. I was too shy in school and didn't know what I know now, but I'm glad my best friend to this day started a conversation with me. She read my body language and was glad to find that someone was just as shy as her. Our fears (just like you) is what actually created our bond. I've known her for almost 20 years now and am so glad she had the courage to approach me.

Answer 3

I used to be very shy and timid when i was younger, i always had friends but my comfert zone stoped at them and never grew past that.

I came to the conclustion that no matter what you do with your life people will have their opinions on you, good and bad so why bother trying to be something your not. Take pride in the fact that you can have as much confidence as you want to, only to be lost if you want it to be for ultimatly you make your life the way you want to live it.

Now saying this and doing this is two totally different things, change is a hard thing to deal with but it is nessesary for progression.

Answer 4

First of all the number 1 thing you need to do is be yourself the world is full of fake people.sometimes its just hard enough to just be yourself the new friends you are looking to meet need to be real and not fake dont worry so much about the A list or B list crowd just look for the Real people.The next and most important thing you need to do is get out of the librery you just have to put yourself out there and hope that the people you try talking to and hope to make friends with accept you for who you are and if they dont it is there loss because they will never know the kind of friend you were willing to be and wanting to be. so in short just get out of the library and be yourself and put yourself out there or you may someday find yourself all alone. always remember any one person is no better than the next keep your head up and you will be fine always look people in the eyes when talking and remember to speek up when talking so that all around you can what you are saying.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

start by being a total slut and dress more kinky if they dont notice i will