My girlfriend has an ex who use to be a stripper and she use to put on all of these performances for her. I have never been a stripper and i probably wouldnt be all that great at doing it!! (im a great dancer, just kinda shy i guess) I know my girlfriend is happy with me and satisfied but i also know she LOVED getting her own provate lap dances & strip shows. Im worried that she'll want that from me & i wont be good enuf.....:-(
2006-11-06 06:59:02 · 8 answers · asked by Raynebow_Diva 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
If she loves you then you can do the salsa in a raincoat and you will be good enough!!!
You don't have to dance the same way a stripper does. Just be yourself then again your girlfriend may not even expect this form you and if that's the case then it will be a good surprise. But I understand your point. I dance for my G/F and I'm not a stripper and she couldn't careless what I'm doing she just liked the fact that I'm doing it just for her.
A good trick is to light A candle. This will make it not only romantic but also hard to see any mistakes!!! So all she really can see is you silhouette. So if you are blushing or nervous it doesn't show. Or one day when you are home alone pick out a slow song that you and her like listen to it until you can get a feel of how your body should move to the beat of this song. This should make it less nerve recking when you actually perform for her because it will kinda feel like a rehearsal. I did this and honestly it took a lot of the fear away because I had practice so much and listened to the song so much that when I actually did it for her on her birthday it was just like I was doing it alone in my bedroom. And She LOVED it.
But with all jokes aside it is up too you. Don't feel like you have to compete with the ex G/F. Because if the relationship was all that then they would still be together. She is with you now so don't make it an issue to do what she did. Like you said she is happy and thats what mean the most. And you have something that other girl don't so just be yourself.
2006-11-06 09:18:12 · answer #1 · answered by Some1Special 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know what? Your GF is with you now. Obviously she likes things about you beyond your stripping and lap dancing. If she does want you to try it... give it a shot and know that it's not just about the dancing and stripping but it's about your relationship -- that she wants you to feel comfortable enough with her to enjoy being uninhibited (even if you feel awkward at first, just loosen up!). You both should feel comfortable to be yourselves with each other -- isn't that why we get into relationships in the first place? Why not have your GF give YOU a sampling of the lap dances and stripping that she enjoys? Have her go first, then trade places. But, never feel like you wouldn't be good enough (she's with YOU now, isn't she???).
2006-11-06 07:06:43 · answer #2 · answered by Shibi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have basically answered your own question. Your insecurity comes from your childhood experiences and from the example set by your father. Therefore, you need to build your self esteen, tell yourself that you are a good person, bright, cute, intelligent, fun to be around and that you have alot of things going for you. You also need to tell yourself that any guy would be lucky to have you. If you work on theses things and BELIEVE in yourself...the sky will be the limit. Good luck.
2016-05-22 04:52:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're worried, learn how. Lap dances are so easy! Buy some how-to DVDs or videos. Practice when she isn't around. When you're confident try dancing for her. Use a short song so you don't have to do it for long, LOL.
I could recommend some video titles if you need help.
2006-11-07 12:54:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If ya'll are TRUELY meant to be together then she will love you for YOU and not for what kind of dancer you are. Talk to her about your insecurities. Communication is the key, sweetie!
2006-11-06 08:51:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the really great thing about having that special someone is that they overlook what you may not be very good at and they focus on they great things about it. something tells me she will love whatever you do for her...and over time you will become more comfortable doing it. =)
2006-11-06 07:01:55 · answer #6 · answered by beckdawgydawg 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure she does not expect you to give her lap dances! And if you did give her one, I'm sure she would love it no matter how good or badly you did it because she loves you!!!
2006-11-06 07:04:13 · answer #7 · answered by The Edge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can only be who you are and she can only really love you if she accepts you for who you are. So I would not worry about compare and contrast. Just be as loving as you can be and I know it will be fine. And talk with her about your feelings. Don't suffer in silence. :)
2006-11-06 07:03:52 · answer #8 · answered by Isis 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋