Is this wrong?

Question

Recently I made contact online with an old friend. We actually dated for a short time about ten years ago and have not talked since. But over the past couple of weeks we have been exchanging emails. Nothing romantic or intimate or anything like that. Just catching up. I am in a serious relationship already and I don't want to do anything to jeapordize my relationship, but I don't really think I am doing anything wrong.
Do you agree/disagree?
What are your reasons?

Answer 1

It sounds a little bit dangerous. If you would be comfortable letting your partner know about it, it is probably ok. If you feel like you have to hide it, it is wrong. The fact that you posted this question also raises doubts about the wisdom of continuing the e-mails.

Answer 2

If the talking is purely to catch up and just chat, then there is nothing wrong with it. If you are feeling any type of feelings for the other guy, then it is. You are allowed to have friends and to talk to other guys when you are in a serious relationship. Just don't cross the line. If you feel yourself having any type of romantic feelings, then you should cut it off.

Answer 3

but why were you interested in contacting an old friend you used to date in the first place? does your partner know about the email exchanges? do you plan on continuing to catch up? these are just some things to think about...the only thing that would make the situation wrong is what lies in your heart...or your intentions for reconnecting.

Answer 4

If you have to hide it from your serious relationship, or won't write the email with your partner in the room, or haven't told him about the emails, or don't want him to read what you've exchanged, or feel weird about telling him that you looked up an old friend, it's probably wrong.
If it's innocent catching up, you should be able to tell your partner. If you don't feel comfortable doing that, you might want to consider yourself caught up and stop emailing now.
And ask yourself how you'd feel if he caught up with an old female friend he dated and didn't tell you.

Answer 5

If E-mailing someone is reason enough to jeopardize your relationship, you need to sit down and consider what you did wrong in selecting a partner that could possibly have a problem with your correspondence with anyone.

Answer 6

If you have to question it...probably should not be it! Sounds to me like your being sneaky...whether they are innocent emails or having internet sex.....if you think your significant other wouldn't approve...why would you even consider it?? Is this old friend from 10 years back really worth the risk??

I've been in your boyfriends shoes...it HURTS! my suggestion....stop...your betraying trust!

Answer 7

if i found out that my gf was doing what your doing i'd be pissed (wouldn't you be if the shoe was on the other foot) BUT as long as it s just catching up and you let this guy know your in a serious relationship then i suppose itd be cool

Answer 8

if you haven't discussed this with your present mate then ask your self why?there is some curiosity there and although you aren't admitting it to your self you are curious about this person.make good decisions.ones that won't bite you back later.if the shoe were on the other foot how would you expect your friend to handle this situation?

Answer 9

i agree, nothing wrong so far. it could later become complicated. tell both parties about the other so there are no surprises

Answer 10

As long as you don't act on it it would be fine, but as experience has tought me , we are human and we are weak, watch you don't cheat on your man, I agree to the friendship.