My wife ended up having a few more drinks than she usually does.
I was getting ready to leave , and I found her in the basement making-out with a guy! His hand was in her shirt - they were really kissing deep unil they heard me.
They both started saying sorry...it was the alchohol...etc..
I know they guy, he lives in Virginia and is only in town once or twice a year to visit my brother-in-law (who was having the party).
I'm certainly not worried about him trying to see her often - or them having an affair - he was leaving the next day.
Anyhow - when my wife and I got home, we had the best sex we ever had in a long time. I kept thinking about his hand touching and squeezing her boobs! Why was THAT a turn on?
Should I be upset with her about her kissing the guy? Or
should I just put it down as an isolated alchohol-related incident?
I know i should be more upset - but the end result was fantastic for both of us -
2006-11-06 06:43:47 · 32 answers · asked by play_ball 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To each his own.
2006-11-06 06:46:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's pretty scary my friend sounds like she has very little respect for you.
You do realize this is a precursor to her having an affair or relationship with another man while your marriage heads straight down the tubes correct?
9 times out of 10 women(drunk or not) stick with the man who in many ways pleases them the most. Fact is a few drinks wont cause a woman to stray if shes truly satisfied.
Sorry but it sounds like the bags are half packed and youre on the way out the door partner. Wont be long now if you all dont sit down together and start having some serious heart to heart discussions concerning reality.
2006-11-06 07:03:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is both a turn on and a hurtful incident. Don't let the sex rush keep you from seeing your pain or it will catch up to you.
I would keep her if she would accept the same from you. Ask her to let you make out and feel up a woman and see how she reacts... if she does anything but say, 'sure' then I would leave right then and there...
I would bet every dime I have and will ever make she has or will cheat on you for real!!!!!!!!!!!
After my wife cheated I told her if she wanted to stay married that I get to do exactly what she did. She slept with a guy 6 times so I did the same. She was mad as hell but I dont hold it against her anymore and she knows how much it hurts so she wont risk it agian.
Everyone wants to play but no one wants to pay.
2006-11-06 09:13:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isolated alcohol-related incident? You know, I just read back through your other questions and you said she had an affair and that she keeps ending up at places where her "former" lovers were...Are you sure this guy was in town to see your "brother in law" and not your wife? Either this all a bunch of bull and you are just yanking everyone's chain with your porno thoughts, or you are too dense to see that she is doing guys left and right and you are taking her where she needs to go to get laid.
2006-11-06 06:56:45 · answer #4 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The alcohol just helped bring out what she always wanted to do. It is a turn on to see your wife with another man. The sex will be good for a while but talk to her about want you guys want to do in the future. I had a somewhat similar situation if you want to discuss.
Sounds like you could be swinging soon.
2006-11-06 08:48:49 · answer #5 · answered by dwnaz1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wife Can't handle her Booze What Happen's next Time When You Find Her With Her Pant's Down?
2006-11-06 07:01:52 · answer #6 · answered by bob r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be more concerned about the potential of infidelity from your wife. This is a horrible situation. The next time you will not be so lucky in stopping her from going through the sexual act. Why this would turn you on, I have no idea. Furthermore, you can't blame the alcohol. The two of you need counseling and have boundaries in your relationship.
2006-11-06 06:48:07 · answer #7 · answered by Randy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You & your wife need prayer. Prayer is very powerful. Don't give in to satans lies. He is trying to destroy you & your marriage by using alcohol, men, sex, infidelity.
Save your marriage and find a Christian church to attend.
A verse for you.
Jer 29:11-13 For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope. 12 Then you will call upon Me and go and pray to Me, and I will listen to you. 13 And you will seek Me and find Me, when you search for Me with all your heart.
2006-11-06 10:45:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the first thing you have to do is ask yourself out it made you feel. Were you jealous or did it turn you on in a way. Next you need to determine how solid is the core of your relationship. If you both feel you can truly divide sex from emotion then you might want to think about some swinging.
Sometimes women just want to know how it makes you feel to reasure themselves how strong your relationship is.
2006-11-06 06:48:52 · answer #9 · answered by Patrick B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It could be a lot of things. For me, seeing my wife even look at another man fills me with a kind of dread that I find unbearable, but if I am able to "fight him," so to speak, and "win her," it hightens everything. If I feel like I'm loosing against him, then every touch my wife makes on me makes me feel ill, but if I saw something like that, and then I took my wife home and he went home empty handed, I'd feel like the victor and my wife would be the prize... I'd cherish her.
2006-11-06 07:06:13 · answer #10 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't upset then you aren't. I would personally be very upset, a similar event has happened to me before. If you are worried about maybe a future attempt a cheating or if it isn't the first time, you should consider checking out...
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2006-11-06 06:54:00 · answer #11 · answered by drew.bryant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋