I'm still very much in love with my ex boyfriend and we have become decent friends agian over the past 3 months or so. I just got a message from my friends that his ex lindee who is also a mutual friend of mine is pregnant. They dated about 6 months ago and i guess he just found out. Im scared of how to react i don;t know hpow to react around her or my ex. Or my other friends who are friends with lindee if i freak out too much i could push someone away. Im kind of scared and shocked idk how to react im about 2 hours away from home and in college im trying to look at the situation as no big deal im here they are there. But when i go home it is a situation i will have to deal with face to face and im not sure how. Considering i still love My ex. I wonder what this will do to mine and his friendship. Im afraid our bond will dwindle.i need to talk to someone about this situation but i cannot turn to any of my friends back home. They're all friends with lindee so i dont know where to turn.
2006-11-06 06:42:16 · 25 answers · asked by bobbo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
you are away from making a new life for yourself, don't dwell on this situation with your ex bf and your friend. congratulate both of them and move on. you can still care for him, but right now neither one of them need you to be feeling needy and stuff.. they already have enough to deal with. You can still be friends.... but don't put your ex in a position to have to choose. that just ends up being messy. And right now.. its not about you. people grow up and move in differnt directions, nothing wrong there but it can be hard to come to terms with. Your growing up too... and life "back home" goes on without you. good luck
2006-11-06 06:51:22 · answer #1 · answered by grapelady911 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay all these people are being really insensitive and its wrong. Yes he is your ex and part of you will always love him. But there is a child on the way. I guarantee you that your friend feels sorry that she ever slept with your ex but right now your friend is pregnant so you need to be there for her. And this guy might or might not be in love with you but thats not the main concern, you have two friends now who are having a baby. I take it you guys are all young, you guys need to stick together because that baby is going to need all the support he/she can get. Esp if you guys are all in college, you know how hard it is to raise a child in school. D*** near impossible.
2006-11-06 07:03:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are on the side not in the center of it. What to do with your ex to be father or you to be future wife. Stay in neutral place. Let the time solve the problem. Do nothing is the best. This is too much of very series life decisions to be made. Better forget about love with your ex in this moment. Sometimes no help is the best advise and help to can keep you safe.
2006-11-06 06:52:10 · answer #3 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the only thing to do is to stay away from them until you can be comfortable with the situation keep your distance your going to need space and time to get over it and you will never feel okay with the situation until your over him for as long as you still love him it's only going to hurt to see her pregnant or to see them together you don't have to do that to yourself it doesn't make you a bad person to push them away for a while,you cant help or change what your heart feels and right now what it feels is pain don't make it worse on yourself by trying to force yourself to feel okay around them feel your pain and when your ready and over it then if you chose to be friends with them that's up to you but shes not a very good friend anyway if she got pregnant by your ex without even considering your feelings
2006-11-06 06:57:30 · answer #4 · answered by bellababi44 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. He is your "EX" not your current. You can love a person from far away, just stay friends.
Be happy for Lindee and wish her well, Ask for pictures of the baby when it comes and coo like everyone else over it.
Then move on with your life, Get your college degree and meet someone else.
Yea, i know, you having these emotional feelings but they will fade with time.
You are the master of your future, decide to take control.
2006-11-06 06:49:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He was your ex when it happened and he`s still your ex.What`s the problem.Look at what it`s doing to you now.You still have these feelings and he`s somewhere else. your problem is in you ,you need to get a grip be cause it seems like you are the only one trip`in over this.Love is hard sometime.We have got to bite the bullet sometime and just keep on going for our own good and sometimes for the good of others.You can handle it,at least I think you can.Good Luck!!
2006-11-06 06:58:51 · answer #6 · answered by Step 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hello i think you do have a hard situation like im still friends with my ex boyfriend i still love him there where so many times i want to go back to him but it wount work out. best thing i cold tell you is make a list of the things you do like about him and the things you dont like about him then if the things you do like is more then the things you like about him there is your answer or other way around but about your friend pregnant by your ex well its up to him realy what you realy have to do is lisen to what they both have to say and go from there if that was me i would realy let that go there are plenty of fish in the sea and you have to realy think about you bc there no one else that will tink about you but your self just be strong and live life if its ment to be it will hope i helpt
2006-11-06 06:48:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it's probably better to let this friendship with the ex and with the pregnant friend dwindle. You really don't need to be in the middle of his drama. It won't be healthy for you to "be there" for him- he and the pregnant girl have a lot of issues to work out. This situation is kind of disgusting and you really should focus on happy, healthy, positive things. This isn't your problem. The 2 parents with their families need to sort it out.
2006-11-06 06:46:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have a serious problem, but the fact that your friend is pregnant is no the end of the world unless your ex is in love with her, he can support the baby but just keep being friends with them, who knows what will happen at the end, maybe you can get him back at one point. good luck.
2006-11-06 06:46:33 · answer #9 · answered by PERCY R 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should move on and forget about the whole love. He is your ex-boyfriend for a reason. Just be friends with both of them and find someone else!
2006-11-06 06:46:52 · answer #10 · answered by Babe 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋