When a man and woman get married - they take vows that they will only be with each other. So why is it when one partner cheats, friends, family and society (especially the spouse) blames the other person. That person did not take a vow that he/she wouldn't hook up with people! It should be the responsiblility of the Married person to stay commited to theor spouse not the rest of society's ... but no the other person is labeled home wrecker... if it wasn't already broken chances are they would not be cheating in the first place... thoughts?
2006-11-06 06:39:48 · 16 answers · asked by ice_princess 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I agree with you about placing the responsibility on the person who broke the promise they made to their spouse. I don't think "the other person" is at fault - they are not moral police, and are pursuing their own goals here, they can't be held responsible for not "enforcing" other people's vows. I also feel, somewhat harshly, that the spouse who was cheated on is at least partially responsible - they have made their choices of whom to marry, and it certainly takes both people to make or break the marriage.
2006-11-06 06:47:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is really no right answer to your question.I always blamed my wife for me cheating.That was a cheap shot.After leaving a few times I realized that I was married to the most wonder full girl in the world[will be 49 years new years eve] I think it is ego or so much in love with self.What ever excuse they use you can bet they won't take the blame even when they know they are dead wrong.
Here they go wreackingtwo families destroying there own self respect and wont except responsibility hope this helps
2006-11-06 06:58:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called morals, dear. Married people take a vow and as far as the people they cheat with, if they know the other person is married then that person is OFF LIMITS! Believe me the cheater rarely leaves the spouse and the other person is left in the cold. People should know better!
2006-11-06 06:43:39 · answer #3 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Both are to blame, but the married one is the most to blame. I agree that it is easier to blame the "other". But for a single person, why bother with a married person?? It isn't so much blame as confusion. Who in their right mind would step into that sh**?
If there are kids involved...the "other" is ethically at fault. The parent maybe a thoughtless loser who doesn't realize they are messing up their kids' family, but it takes two to have an affair. So the"other" is at fault too when they are stepping in on someone's mom or dad just to get their own rocks off.
2006-11-06 06:48:10 · answer #4 · answered by happyface 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the spouse cheating should be to blame, if a woman goes after a man she knows is married then she should also take some blame in the situation.
2006-11-06 06:42:27 · answer #5 · answered by S 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
While I absolutely agree with you, its becomes a moral question in regards to "Hooking" up with a married person. I personally am no saint, but I would NEVER try to win the attentions of another woman's man....let alone sleep with him......that is just wrong.
2006-11-06 07:02:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are 2 sides to every story. Both partners agreed to love, honor and cherish. If 1 isn't doing that, they have also broken their vows.
2006-11-06 06:43:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The person who cheated should be blamed, but the other person should know the consequences and one of this is being the one who usually get blamed for.
2006-11-06 06:47:47 · answer #8 · answered by L!LO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
'Everyone' doesn't 'always' blame the other person. Its rare but some people are actually mature enough to take responsibility for their actions.
2006-11-06 06:46:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it is beacuse they know the couple, or at least they think that they know them. where in most cases the ohter person is not known to them or not part of the family. it is just easier to blame them.
2006-11-06 06:46:53 · answer #10 · answered by ats02171 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋