how can a man with 4 kids not pay child support yet buy a new car for his 21 yr old gf and himself.move into a nice house ina better neighbor and not help with the financial respocibilites of the children.......is he selfish or just stupid he is 42.....will the kids ever realise what a piece of shyt he is?
2006-11-06 06:35:39 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Pray! Only God could change people like that!
2006-11-06 10:48:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sure sounds like he is in denial, and afraid he is getting old.
Yes, he is being selfish (indulging himself and neglecting his family) and he is being stupid (child support is not a nice thing to do, it is required by law). Also he is being stupid and blind if he is with a new girlfriend that would accept a car while knowing he has kids and a wife (or ex-wife) that also need at least his financial support.
Yes, the kids WILL realize what a piece of poo he is, but it is very important that they make that realization on their own. I know the ex-wife (if this is not you) is hurting, and rightfully so. However, if you spout negative comments all the time, it will just sound like you are bitter and bitching. If you stick to the facts.... the fact is that Daddy bought so-and-so a car instead of paying child support, so we have to buy food instead of going to the movies...
Or, no, I can not afford those new shoes, I just don't have the money. Maybe you can ask your Dad to help you with that?
Then, it may take years, but they will see the truth, of BOTH sides.
Best of luck to you!
2006-11-06 14:44:59 · answer #2 · answered by Hurricane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your children aren't always going to be kids and also kids are smart and soon they will see their dad for what he is and they will ask him many questions like why he failed to provide for them or why he felt the need to turn his back on them,why he chose to live better yet thought that they didn't deserve to live better,instead he chose to buy a car so he sold his kids out for a 21 yr old who will probably leave his a ss because the car is probably all she wants or shes using him for financial gain and when she does drop him and she will maybe he will see what a D ick he's being and take responsibility for his children.
2006-11-06 16:10:34 · answer #3 · answered by CaliMa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he is selfish and stupid. The kids will realize what kind of person he, but that is for them to figure out. Don't talk bad about him to the kids no matter how you feel. He will get what is coming to him. As much of a responsibility as children are they are also a gift. One that he is not worthy of. Just do the best that you can for them and make sure to pursue all legal means of getting support for them.
2006-11-06 14:41:45 · answer #4 · answered by bttrfly0724 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because he's a loser all my friends who have children with men who there no longer with dont receive a dime in child support and most likely never will the only man I know who pays child support is my boyfriend he has a 4 year-old daughter from a previous relationship and has it set up so they take the money right from his pay check automatically every week for child support.... as for your question i dont know if the kids will ever realize what a piece of s*** he is but hopefully maybe one day he will realize what a piece of s*** he is!!
2006-11-06 14:43:17 · answer #5 · answered by bellababi44 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are, he can not afford the car or the new house and he is just trying to impress his new girlfriend. If he can afford them and is not paying court directed child support, you need to go see the judge. It sounds like you know where he lives and if you do, then you can get the court to help you out...
2006-11-06 14:42:07 · answer #6 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his kids will find out about his actions one day. but it is best for them to find out on there own what their parents are like. don't talk bad about the guy it's not your place to do so. If you are the mother of the children or know the mother of the children the best thing that you can do is get picture evedence of him and his new girl and their car and house. so they the jugde can see that he is ducking his payments and where the money is going.
2006-11-06 14:40:37 · answer #7 · answered by ats02171 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes you just have to prove to yourself and to him what a strong mother and female you are. yes a man should pay child support to his children, but just because he doesnt gives you the opportunity to prove what a piece of shyt he is without even having to say it
2006-11-06 14:39:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because in life there are just a lot of people who are irresponsible jerks. I am sure the kids have already figured out what a horrible person he is.
2006-11-06 14:44:56 · answer #9 · answered by Patrick B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they do but it is usually when they are older and have been hurt by him. they will realize someday for themselves , no need for mama to put **** in thier head eighter. he is pretty low to not pay child support an drive a new car! that is so dog-down dirty! sorry this has happened to you an the childern.
2006-11-06 14:42:53 · answer #10 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is selfish and an a s s. Yeah, one day the kids will see this idiot for what he really is.
2006-11-06 14:37:40 · answer #11 · answered by redbeansandrice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋