Am I wise to let her continue - i just have a bad feeling about this!
2006-11-06 06:34:36 · 13 answers · asked by enthios2000 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How do you even know this? Did she actually tell you? That was kind of stupid. Curiousity such as this is normal, but it can cause a disproportionate amount of damage if shared with the significant other. My guess is that perhaps your wife hasn't had that many sexual partners? I can't really imagine caring much about finding the first guy I'd ever had sex with, I mean it was a long time ago not just chronologically, but emotionally as well. However, I do chat with my more recent "flames" occasionally (a couple of times a year); I don't report to my husband about it, and it doesn't interfere with our relationship or my current life in any way, shape or form.
If you don't feel comfortable with her "searching", you could certainly voice your concerns. My guess is that it's just innocent curiousity - but you know your wife, so you should have a gut feeling whether or not it's crossing into obsession.
2006-11-06 06:42:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
And rightfully so you should have a bad feeling about this. I would say that you should both sit down together and ask her whats going on? In a nice way of course...ask her what she's feeling and why? If she doesn't feel she needs to be defensive with you then maybe she'll open up and tell you what she's feeling. Maybe she's just feeling bored with your relationship and needs things to be spiced up a bit. But.....don't be passive about this. I would make it plain as day that you will not put up with any contact with this person. What's the point. She needs to get out of the past. Hope things work out for you. Wendy K.
2006-11-06 14:45:01 · answer #2 · answered by Wendy K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have a bad feeling about this. Are you not fulfilling your wife's needs? And I mean emotionally as well as physically. Apparently she is lacking something in the relationship to do this. Sit down with her and ask her why she is doing this. You may get an answer you don't like but at least you would know and could make changes.
2006-11-06 14:39:25 · answer #3 · answered by teashy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk about it with her. She may just be curious to see what's become of him. But definitely talk to her about it, to see if there's anything behind it. I learned the hard way. My ex-wife looked up some old friends, including a guy that used to like her. I figured it was all in the past and didn't think much of it, but it came back to bite me in the butt.
2006-11-06 18:00:36 · answer #4 · answered by Jack R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems like she is trying to rekindle an old flame or something...maybe wanting to see if the sex is still the same as it was. i would have a hear to heart talk with her and tell her you dont feel comfortable.
2006-11-06 14:39:58 · answer #5 · answered by B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mid-life crisis? I often wonder about my 1st boyfriend, not because I still want him, just because I'm curios! And yes, I'm married!
2006-11-06 14:40:16 · answer #6 · answered by lisasal1229 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't you talk to your wife about it? Find out what her motives are and go from there. Hopefully, it's all over nothing :-)
2006-11-06 14:46:49 · answer #7 · answered by DivaDynamite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you insane? Talk to her, tell her how you feel and ask her to stop. She has no respect for you apparently. I am sorry for you, really!!
2006-11-06 14:39:43 · answer #8 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummmmmmm Id cancel my internet IMMEDIATELY
2006-11-06 14:36:28 · answer #9 · answered by Ashley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her way she is looking for the ex love of hers.. and if it a good answer then help her find him if not you no what to do.. PULL THE PLUG..
2006-11-06 14:41:42 · answer #10 · answered by celticdragon 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋