how do i tell my mum i am pregnant?

Question

i have just found i im pregnant and im 15 16 in 1 mouth

Answer 1

There isn't an easy way - and she's probably not going to be happy.

Perhaps if you have an older sister you could tell her first and go to your mum with a 'United Front'. But you're still going to have to say 'Mum, I'm pregnant'.

Don't let it get on your mind for too long. The sooner you tell her the sooner you find out her reaction.

Answer 2

You just tell her. . . you have no choice in that. Your choices will come after you tell her. Keep the child or put the child up for adoption. I would recommend the later because through an adoption agency your medical expenses would be covered by the adoptive parents and they certainly would be in a better position to take care of a child financially and with maturity. If you decide to keep the child you MUST establish paternity and file for child support. You would also need parenting classes, a job, and financial support from others. You possibly could qualify for WIC, ADC, and welfare. You MUST finish school. . . no question.

You have a tough road ahead. You've made a BIG mistake. Now it is time to step up to the plate and be responsible for your sake and your child's. Lots of decisions. Remember. . . you have some time to make the right decisions. Get outside advice from people you trust (your pastor/priest, school counselor, a social worker, mental health professional and most importantly your doctor). Don't rush into ANYTHING.

Answer 3

It's never easy. I was 22 when I got pregnant, with a stable job and a partner, and I still was nervous about telling my mother- my advice is to tell her. In 24 hours, you will have done it and know that she knows, rather than just being worried about when to mention it.
You will be shouted at, probably ignored for a while, and expect this because you have done something your mom will not approve of. But, once the shock has worn off, she will be the best source of help you can imagine, because she has gone through it before.
Be sure about what you want to do school-wise, she will be less likely to go off the deep end if she knows what you have planned with your life once you have your baby.

Answer 4

i think the best thing you can do is make her a cup of tea/coffee and when you give it to her say "can we have a chat mum cos i have something very important to tell you" she wiil probably be stunned, she may shout or be hurt but at the end of the day she will realise that there is worse things in life than being pregnant. once the initial shock has worn off she will be able to go over all the options with you and help you make an informed choice about what to do next. whatever you decide to do about the baby you will have to make an appointment at your local doctors - you're mum can go with you if you want.

the sooner you tell her the easier it will be for you - i know it will be hard but you will feel better afterwards cos it must be terrible keeping news like that to yourself. good luck.

Answer 5

It doesn't really matter how you tell her, as long as YOU tell her and not someone else and that you do so SOON!

The best way is to be very direct about it, something like:

"Mum, I know you're going to be mad and disappointed in me, but I have to tell you the truth, I'm pregnant."

Be prepared for her to be angry or upset at first. She might yell at you because she is angry that you have done something that will affect the rest of your life. She may be very sad about it. But if she is a good mother she'll come around and help you out and take care of you and even be an excellent, loving grandmother.

I know this is hard for you, but it is very important to tell your mum as soon as possible so that you can get good prenatal care and so that you don't risk her finding out some other way.

Answer 6

If your mum knows you have sex, no problem telling right? Well not true, nobody's in your situation, so they don't understand. If she doesn't know you have sex, it could be harder. Just explain how you feel and hope she understands. She had to tell her mum she was pregnant with you, didn't she? She won't be hard on you because she knows what it is like. She might be mad for a day or two, but she'll get over it and help you. So, remember, just relax and sit her down. She might put you on the pill if your not already so it won't happen again.
Good Luck!!!!

Answer 7

I would write a note and leave it for her one day when you will be gone for a little while (but preferably not before she has to deal with work). This will let her work through some of her reactions before being face to face with her.

Let her know what you are thinking of doing and how you are feeling. I wouldn't put the name of the daddy in the note, or if you do/she will know who it is. Ask that you be present when she talks to the daddy/daddy's parents.

If you are really uncomfortable with talking to her at all I would talk to the school counselor or Planned Parenthood and have someone there for the discussion. Although if you are meeting at Planned Parenthood she will probably know the reason.

You need to tell her as soon as possible though.

Answer 8

Well, you need to find a way to tell her right away. If you can not muster the confidence to tell her, you must find someone. If you want to keep the baby, you need to get in for prenatal care and get on vitamins. Even if you are not sure right now, you must act as if you are going to keep the baby and take care of your body and the developing baby. The first tri-mester is critical in developement. If you decide not to keep it, the vitamins won't hurt you.

Now, for the actual deed.... She is your Mom. She does love you, even if you are having a rough go. I would want to know if I were going to have a grandchild, even if my daughter were 16. Just be prepared for the yelling, and 'what were you thinking!!!!'.
The sooner you get it over with, the better.

Answer 9

These are just the stupidest questions ever. There is only on way and that is saying that your pregnant, there is no other way. She will find out eventually. I'm 15 and I have seen this before with girls at my school. Maybe she will be mad but it won't be like that forever. You will just have to take responsibility for what you have done.

Answer 10

Well, you must ask yourself, What type of mother do I have? Telling people news you know they do not want to hear must be done when they are not receiving too much bad news that day. I would say tell her while she is cooking. Ask to help, she probably think something is wrong just by that action. Know that she will cry and she will scream, but her love for you will not allow her to disown you. Please say something. Do not go through this pregnancy alone and feeling guilty. I promise you, a weight will be lifted off your shoulders once you tell her. Remember a baby is blessing. Later