What do you think about people who don't want to have children?

Question

By the way, My best friend is the kindest person i know and he does not want to have children

Answer 1

I think its a very personal choice for them alone to make, my hubby and I have been married 22 years this coming Friday, we have no children and chose not to have them, it wasn't a decision we made lightly at all, we sat and talked about it over a long length of time before we decided it was a choice we were both happy with, my reasons for not having children are very personal and too upsetting to talk about on here, my husbands reasons for not wanting children are because he has a very rare heart condition, so rare nothing can be done for him and he is one of only 5 people in the world with this condition, after disgusing things with his specialist we chose not to have children, far too many risks involved and too painful to lose a child before it reached 5 years old as was our prediction off his specialist, we have found it quiet hard over the years not having children, but some choices have to be made in life and that was ours, the one thing that really hurts us both is when people find out we have no children and it was our choice not to have them they think were child haters or wierd for not taking the risk, yet these same people have expected us to give our time up together of a weekend to babysit their kids for them so they can go out as they have such a hard life with there horrible kids been monsters all week long, double standards for them as always, but for us no, were just the odd couple for making the right choice for us.

Answer 2

I didn't want children I now have 5 children 9 grandchildren 3 great grandchildren.If I could start over I would start with 10 children and let then snowball from there Damn I love my choice.
My bunch is the best thing that ever happen to my wife & I if you want children and he don't you have some sole searching.Please don't make a choice you will regret love &luck to you both.

Answer 3

I think that people who do not want children should stand by how they feel and not have them. Not every one is here for the purpose of population. As a friend of mine told me that has no children, if he was to become a parent he would probably not be a good one. I thought this was strange but over the years I see his point, even though he is a wonderful person, he would be unhappy as a parent. However he is there for any child that needs him :-)

Answer 4

Is good (and often quite brave) for them to admit it instead of following the crowd and having a child they don't really want. I think alot of people decide they don't want kids when they're young, i know i did. Just thought the world was so awful that to bring another life into it would be cruel. Usual teenage angsty stuff. I don't know many adults who genuinely don't want to have children at some point in the (albeit distant and vague) future, though.

Answer 5

I don't have a problem with people who don't want children. One of my best friends has always maintained she didn't want them, and at 40 , she hasn't - it's her choice entirely.

Of course, some people say they don't want children, when they mean the time is not right for them to breed. The day may come when they find they've changed their mind.

People have all sort of reasons for not wanting kids - you just have to look at the world to wonder what sort of life you're condemning your children to, in this war-ridden world.

But, thank goodness, there are far more people who do want them and do have them - imagine the mess we'd be in if people didn't procreate?

Answer 6

I have three boys and four grandkids, and I can understand why people choose not to have kids. It is a personal choice to not complicate their lives with children. When they get older, they may feel that they made a mistake, but there is a price to pay for raising a family - some people just simply choose not to get caught in the loop.

Answer 7

a lot of people are kind and wonderful and love children but don't want to have any of thier own. It could be because of health reasons (they are at high risk for genetic disease and don't want thier children to deal with it) thier view on the the world (don't want to raise children in the modern era), rather devote thier time to the children that are already here and need help rather than add to the population, etc. There are many great reasons to not have childrent that aren't selfish or children-hating.

Answer 8

We are not ever having children. Its just a choice we made. We have very full lives and are both happy with the way things are. I think its just a personal decision. Everyone knows what is best for them.

Answer 9

I don't want to have children. There is nothing wrong with it. I love kids. My neices and nephews are precious to me. I get all cooey and stuff when there is a new baby around. I just don't want my own. I never really did, guess I'm just not wired that way. Not saying I can't "handle" raising children, it's just not what I see when I think about my future

Answer 10

I don't think anything - I just think that they don't want children. It's a big responsibility for 18 years, so - I can kind of understand why some people don't want kids. I myself - only wanted 1 and that's all I have. And now I have a Granddaughter and am very delighted. And my daughter now doesn't want any more kids - it's a big responsibility.