my husband in the marines and he's going to iraq in 2 months!!! help?

Question

well my husband called me and said that hes going to iraq and i cant stop crying!! right now hes 7 states away from me and i get to see him for thanksgiving but i don't want his visit to be a sad one!! 'm afraid that i just might cry the whole time he's here!! does anyone have any husbands over seas???? please tell me your storys!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

I'm sorry to hear that you are going through this but like so many other families who has a loved one in the war zone you have to be strong for him because trust me he's more worried about you than you are about him my husband's already been there he's also a marine and I can tell you from experience I had to be strong even when i felt like I was walking on egg shells I was strong when I talked to him or emailed him in tears I never let him know it because he had to stay focused in order to do his job send him emails daily and pictures he may not be able to check email everyday but when he does log in he will be happy to find emails from you just do what you have to do to be strong for him and be there for him as much as you can because when he returns he's going to need you but while hes away hes going to need you the most try not to cry until after he leaves because he doesnt want to leave you but he knows that he has a job to do,so do everything that you can to make the most out of your visit during Thanksgiving if at all possible celebrate Christmas and Thanksgiving at the same time be blessed.Also try the web site Navywives.com they were helpful when my Husband was deployed.

Answer 2

I'm also a military wife except my husband is in the army but, he returned exactly one year ago from Iraq and will be going back sometime after next summer. I know how you feel. The key is no matter how hard it is for you, you have to be really strong for him when he comes back because it is just as hard for our men if not harder. I tried as much as possible to keep myself busy while he was deployed so I didn't have time to sit at home by myself and think about what could happen, where he was, what he was doing, and if he was alright. It makes it 100 times more hard if you do that and not get out and be with friends and family. I became a workaholic during his deployement and quit when he returned. Just believe in him and know he knows what he is doing and is highly trained. The good thing is this will make you a stronger married couple. Good luck

Answer 3

I am a retired Marine and I can only tell you one thing. You need to be stronger than he is. You can cry and feel sad when he leaves but you need to be a rock when he is gone. Write him everyday or close to it. Chances are there will be days your the only one that will keep him going. Don't get lonely! You don't need a man to fill your void why he is gone. I've heard many women say that they would be faithfull and a few months after he's gone they are at the E club slubbering on another guy. You will be lonely but don't even let yourself believe it. Find hobbies and keep in touch. If you step out on him he's as good as dead. Your a Marine yourself by being married to a Marine. If you let him down you let your country down. Be strong. I've seen to many good Marine lose it because of their woman. Semper Fi !

Answer 4

I'm not in the marines, but it was a different branch of the military. My girlfriend missed me for so long, she didn't like it that I had to go away. One thing I did learn from this experience, enjoy the time you have with your significant other. Crying is a normal thing for this type of situation.

I missed her so much when I was gone, and she missed me. I would cry on the days I really needed her. She did the same. Whenever I got the chance though, I called or emailed her. We were still both sad, but it kept us from going crazy. When I returned though, we were both crying, but it was a happy cry.

To sum it up, enjoy your time with him. He'll miss you just as much you'll miss him. It does suck when he leaves, but make sure that's he knows that you love him. It'll keep his spirits up and make sure that's he's determined to come home as soon as possible.

Answer 5

Try to enjoy the time you do have with him when he is home. You need to be strong for him. When he is in Iraq, he should have memories of happy times with you to keep him strong. I know it's very sad and hard to deal with, but if you cry the whole time he is home, he'll just worry about you when he is Iraq. He needs to be able to stay focused on his tasks, and know that you support him and love him. Happy memories are what keep soldiers strong, thinking positively, and get them back home! Good luck.

Answer 6

All I can tell you to do is when you see him give him the best s e x you can offer and try not to think about it. When he'd gone all you can do is try to get over it. Think of it as a business trip and then you'll be alright. I mean they do come home for the holidays and he may call home. As long as you have faith then everything should be alright.

Answer 7

I am so sorry. You need to be strong and supportive ( I know it must be difficult for you) I am sure your man is not happy with the situation either but he needs a lot of support from you because he has a job to do and must be free from worrying about you! The best of luck to the both of you!

Answer 8

Don't cry the entire visit, be strong for him, he need you to do that for him and that is your job as his wife. If you think you are sad, think how he must feel knowing he is going to be in harms way. Be strong and pray.

Answer 9

bless your heart mine is leaving end of Dec. for 4 month so kinda in the same boat. I try not to think about it we know it's coming. He's already started out processing working on his will and all the stuff that goes with it. hey if u want to talk email me [e-mail]

Answer 10

Not married, but I just wanted to say it is wonderful to hear of a couple in love and that your husband is so brave.

Make every moment count when he comes home...and we are all praying for his safe return!!