right im in a situation im 10 weeks preg and happy im having a baby..but my b.friend is really stressed and he wants to end it cause he said he feels hes being trapd in2 something he dont want to, cause he dont want the baby..i love him loads and i dont wanna lose him..its really putting me down him feeling this way..im only 17 and i already feel like im on my own..any1 got any advice please..x
2006-11-06 06:18:28 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
have the baby then you wont be alone....abortion is MURDER
2006-11-06 06:20:15 · answer #1 · answered by michael b 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
This is a difficult decision. Even though you feel like you're independent, you should talk to your parents about it. It takes 2 to raise a child, and it's a lot of work. Hence, there are numerous sources on raising children. Tell your parents about the situation, and ask them if he left you, if they would help you raise the baby, at least to some degree. If you feel like an abortion is the right choice, I'm not stopping you. But, you might regret it later and wonder what this child may have been like. Look at how a baby is going to impact your education and college plans. Think about how long it will be to get your life "back on track" for any further education and career plans. The other option is adoption...if you don't want to destroy your fetus, you can always give birth and then put your baby up for adoption. There are plenty of couples out there who would love to have a baby.
This is not an easy question, and I'm sorry if I couldn't help you very much. In the end, it's your decision and your future, which will impact at least 3 lives.
2006-11-06 14:27:40 · answer #2 · answered by TomServo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he really loved you like you love him he would stay by your side, when I found out I was pregnant at 16 by boyfriend of a year dumped me and did not want the baby and it hurt a lot but the baby was more important to me then him, a baby will always be thier unlike a man will ,he can walk out at anytime where a baby can not.
You need to see a doctor and should join the WIC program which will get you some free food and drinks each month.
Do not worry about him , it is his loss and he is the one going to be missing out, you need to worry about you and your baby and maybe in time he will realize what he is doing is a big mistake and he will start being a man and want you and the baby, being 17 it can be scary having a baby but after a while you get use to it and elarn to cope with it.
Ceck out justmommies.com and go to the teen pregnancy and teen mommies forum, the girls thier are great to talk to and helpful, they can cheer you up.
2006-11-06 14:24:34 · answer #3 · answered by Diamonds_Glow 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you want to keep the baby. Do not let him convince you to get an abortion. Having an abortion is not going to keep him with you. He could change his mind about you in an instant and leave you anyway. If you really want to keep this baby do it without him. You do not need him. Ask your family for support if you can. If you do not have anyone else to help you with this once the baby is born then consider adoption if you do not think you can do it alone. But, please, do not get an abortion because he feels trapped. It will make you feel guilty in the end.
2006-11-06 14:24:17 · answer #4 · answered by momofmodi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump Him. take him to paternity court, and get child support, and then find someone who actually wants to be a father to a child... this realationship will go nowhere, he already has these feelings, they prolly wont go away.. there is a remote chance if he is there as the baby is born that he may suddenly fall in love with the baby.. but not likely...
sounds like he didnt mind placing the order.. but now he wants to back out.. you deserve better and so does the baby... dont give up there are plentt of real men out there that would love to date a woman with a child...
best of luck
2006-11-06 14:23:22 · answer #5 · answered by Jonny B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your parents or gardian. Be serious about this. At 17 you are in no way able to make the decisions needed to take care of a child on your own. Who will you live with? How will you support this child? Where will you get the funds and means to feed shelter and clothe this child. The people who will be helping you with all this are the ones you should talk to.
I know a young girl who is having a baby this week. She has no means what so ever to take care of her child. Her friends' parents, her grand parents and the tax payers of the state will be meeting the needs of this child. Think about it all before you make an emotional decision. As a potential mother - think about the best interests of the child you may possibly bring into this world. Talk to grown ups.
2006-11-06 14:35:14 · answer #6 · answered by Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he didn't want a baby, he should have used protection. Be happy that you are having a baby. He may or may not come around, so in the meantime, get the support of your family and friends.
It probably won't last between the 2 of you, but never choose a guy over your baby.
2006-11-06 14:22:37 · answer #7 · answered by ht_butterfly27 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey, I feel for you. The only one who can make the decision is you. It's your body, your baby. If you are DEFINATLY keeping it, then you need to tell him to wise up. If he's making you depressed, that is not okay. It's his kid too, and it would be unfair of him to pressure you into doing anything you don't want to do. However, both of you should SERIOUSLY consider what this baby means to your lives. Especially you mommy. Go an visit with some other teenage moms. Again, only you can make this decision. I hope you choose the right one!
2006-11-06 14:24:34 · answer #8 · answered by lizette811 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I say always keep the baby. I wouldn't want to get snuffed out if it was me in there.
But there are two other problems. You are 17, which means you're underage. What were you thinking?
Also, you didn't check with your boyfriend first to see if he WANTED a baby. So again, what were you thinking?
Of course he feels trapped.
I still say keep the baby, but you might have to do this on your own, except child support. Prepare for a life of headaches.
2006-11-06 14:22:21 · answer #9 · answered by fesspoint 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Follow your heart, dont let him bully you into a termination. He should have thought of that before you got pregnant and used a condom! He has a financial responsbility to the baby and you have a right to say you want to keep it. If he is truly against the baby then there isnt much of a future for you...unless he changes his mind after the baby is born, but dont bank on it.
2006-11-06 14:21:46 · answer #10 · answered by huggz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is that ready to leave you, he pobably would evend if you chose to end the pregnancy. Keep the baby and finda new support person(a friend, a parent, a friend's parent ect.). If you are still in school, talk to your school counsellor, she may be able to give you some resources for teenage moms. Good luck
2006-11-06 14:32:02 · answer #11 · answered by dreamlesssweetheart 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋