i lost my husband at his age of 31 years old{i am only 33},we had 2 children together ages 8 and 10,i have also just turned to another man for comfort,and am now pregnant with his child,i have not told him yet,but he has made it clear that he does not want any children of his own,so do i keep the baby and rise it by myself or get not have it and pretend nothing has even gone on?keep in mind i am 33 years old but in very good heath.
2006-11-06 06:15:46 · 13 answers · asked by wendi d 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You should have the baby and tell him about it. He needs to be a man and deal with it.
2006-11-06 06:19:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that at any age, a woman should be responsible. You have brought a life into this world, and until it is born, you are responsible for it's outcome. We harp on young women so much about being responsible, but this type of situation shows that at any age, this can happen. If you do not want the child, go through with the pregnancy and find a loving home. If you do, the man should have been aware that sex can lead to a baby. You both need to be responsible adults. But, this can only be said as advice, you will make your choice. But just know that you are holding someone's life, (your child) in your hands. Do not make a hasty decision.
2006-11-06 14:20:56 · answer #2 · answered by distortdthoughts 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I feel for you, but you have put yourself in a very bad situation. This man has told you he did not want children of his own, and you allowed yourself to get pregnant for whatever reason. I would take it very seriously, and tell him because he does have the right to know, but be prepared to raise the child yourself. I'm not sure what you mean by "not have it", but I would caution you that there are emotional consequenses of certain decisions. If neither of you wish to have the child, then I would suggest there are thousands of Americans willing to adopt and would persue that option. Best of luck to you.
2006-11-06 14:21:35 · answer #3 · answered by favrd1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
33 years old is fine to have a baby! Keep the baby and raise it. It is your child. Can you imagine not having your children. Can you imagine ending your pregnancy when you were pregnant with them. Millions of women raise children on their own. BUT, he obviously had sex with you so he knew the risk of getting you pregnant. I wouldn't let him out that easy. That is his child. If he didn't want a baby, he should have kept his pants on! Good luck!
2006-11-06 14:18:49 · answer #4 · answered by #3ontheway! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you get an abortion you will feel the guilt for the rest of your life & always wonder what type of person that child would have been.
If you give the baby up for adoption you will always wonder what type of family the baby is w/ & if they
treat the child lovingly.
I say keep the baby & pray that the Dad of this child will
change his ways once the baby arrives, if he's man enough to make a baby then he should be MAN
ENOUGH to be it's DADDY !
2006-11-06 14:29:24 · answer #5 · answered by start 6-22-06 summer time Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at the 2 kids you have. Why would you want to terminate this one. This man may suprise you and be supportive. If he isnt then make him pay support. You both need to own up to your responsiblities here. It takes 2 to make a child. The child shouldnt suffer.
2006-11-06 14:24:43 · answer #6 · answered by parrothead2371 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do YOU want the child? If you do, then you have to tell him and let him decide if he wants to continue with the relationship.
Be prepared to raise it yourself if he isn't happy with the situation.
Just be calm when you tell him and say that you didn't intend for it to happen, but it did.
It takes two and he was a participant. He might surprise you with his response. You never know what guys like that will say.
My husband was 42 when we had our first baby. He didn't think he was ready until I told him I was pregnant.
Best of luck.
2006-11-06 14:21:08 · answer #7 · answered by stocks4allseasons 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is completely your decision. However, you should tell him, as long as you feel you would not be in danger doing so.
Men and women have said they didn't want kids, but then changed their minds after being faced with reality. Give him a chance to see if he really does not want to be there for you.
If he does not, then the decision is still soley up to you.
Best wishes!
2006-11-06 14:20:17 · answer #8 · answered by brokentia74 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you seek advice now?
I think women that try to trap a man by getting pregnant deserve what they get by doing something so stupid.
Tell him. He's going to find out when you drop the bastardo anyway.
2006-11-06 14:24:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So.....Do you commit murder or do you live up to the responsibilities of a situation you put your self in??
I'm sorry for your loss, but you shouldn't terminate your child's life, it deserves to live.
2006-11-06 14:18:42 · answer #10 · answered by Laura R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋