husband not in the mood?

Question

okay I'm 21 and my husband is 20(I know too young whatever) anyway when we first got married we would do it all the time, but lately he don't want to, he say he don't get the urge too and that he can go months without, I don't believe him I think its me, but he tell's me its not and that he may have a problem(I THINK ITS HIS MOTHER, SHE HAS PUT IT IN HIS HEAD TO ONLY ONCE A MONTH) anyway I want to alot you know cause we are young I guess it's normal to have a high drive at our age. i get so tried of him telling me no and I don't want to cheat on him what to do........ he also got a dry skin at the base of his penis is this normal?(we only had sex with each other for a year) his penis is starting to discolorate he asked his doc and he said it could be due to the acidity of my vagina (the discoloration) just help someone

Answer 1

First, he should wash after sex and use lotion. Next, some men don't have a high sex drive. Why do you even bring up cheating on him. If you really love him this would not even be an option that you'd have thought of. Yes, you are too young but there are people younger than you married so- give him some space. Lots of men when they are stressed out have a hard time even thinking about sex. Communicate!!!!!

Answer 2

Dear Young 21 year old, I'm a middle aged male in my 50s. This is hard to believe. When I was your age I would have been in heaven too have had a women like you. But on the other hand I feel that something is very wrong. Don't know what I'd do but I hope the best for you.

Answer 3

I dont think that is too young to be married, im getting married and im 18 only gonna be 18, if you love someone and can commit yourself to love, who said there has to be an age limit? Maybe he would like to experiment as far as your sex life and try new things, but he doesnt quite know how to tell you, maybe what you guys are use to doing doesnt excite him as much anymore so he doesnt get excited about sex, talk to him and see if there is anything he would enjoy trying and maybe once he ssee you're that interested inwhat he wants to do, maybe he will get in the mood to try something new with you. the dry skin could be a result from acid of your vagina, as your doctor said, or it could just be dry skin, like you're hands, they get dry but that doesnt mean there is something nessasarily wrong, or if he masturbates without lotion that could have some effect, but i hope this helps you, and good luckl!

Answer 4

I have to agree with the first guy, he should have a stronger sex drive. Even if your wow period is over because you guys are married. Once a month is kind of crazy. Have you tried giving him lots of oral? I know sometimes i am not in the mood and my girl will just force her self on me with oral. and the next thing I know we are doing it. more oral also offer him anal. Some nights try being more submissive , or trying be domineering. I like my girl to change it up. It keeps me turned on

Answer 5

I dont want to sound harsh but maybe he doesnt want to with you because he is getting it somewhere else. I mean 20 is young to commit to anything, even a car payment.
Good Luck

Answer 6

He really needs to see his doctor. There's lots of different reasons this could be happening.

This link has some great info:
http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/sex_relationships/facts/lackingsexdrive.htm

Answer 7

If you think you want it now wait till you hit 28 you really gonna want it.

Answer 8

HE IS SHARING HIS PENIS WITH SOMEONE ELSE HE HAVE LOST MOOD FEELING FOR YOU AT THE TIME, TURN THE TABLE AROUND IF YOU MAKE OUT WITH SOMEONE ALL THE TIME OTHER THAN YOUR HUSBAND YOU WANT HAVE SEX MOOD FOR HIM EITHER.

Answer 9

You need some stim cells

Answer 10

i dont think he want to have children just yet so he is waiting! and he's afraid that if u guys do it alot then you will ask him "when can we have kids?" and i dont think he's just ready to have a family