Some of my guests have told me that the mother is NEVER supposed to throw their own shower. Because of the variety of friends and family coming and their locations, the only other person "capable" of throwing the shower would be my husband. (and even then, I would be doing it anyway) Also, no one stepped forward to volenteer. I wanted this to be special because it's our first, but now it seems i've stepped over the invisible guidelines. What should I do?
2006-11-06 06:08:01 · 16 answers · asked by lizette811 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
its not tacky or selfish. everyone else gets a baby shower and its for ur child and not u and i believe she deserves one to get a head start in life just like other babies. and if someone ends up throwing u a surprise one then have that one too. many people have more than one shower. my fiancee and i had our own shower because my cousin wanted to throw my shower but where we wanted to have we felt was too expensive to ask someone else to throw it. we had it at incredible pizza (a kids place) we had all our friends and family and their kids there and payed for everyone. it was great i bought the cake i wanted i got to do what it wanted. i think i had more fun playin the games and hangin out with the kids than anyone else. dont let these backward thinking mothers make u feel ashamed for throwing ur own shower. u and ur family deserve it.
2006-11-06 15:44:12 · answer #1 · answered by asia may 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, no matter where you are at now your friends and family should have got together and planned something. With that being said, If I were you I would wait till after the baby is born and have your self a lil something like an introduction of the baby and it could be considered the baby shower. Only because what if they are planning a surprise baby shower for you. Give it some time and If they don't then that's when you would throw your baby shower/ introduction of the baby. I know that its hard to wait but it seems logical to me. That's the only thing I could come up with. Good luck Hun!
2016-05-22 04:45:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you don't have your own. It doesn't mean it can't be at your home, but you should not be the hostess. That could be your mom, your mom-in-law, friends, coworkers, etc. If no one is coming forward to do this for you, that's just how it goes sometimes.... I never had one - I had just moved to a new city, away from family and friends and had my baby four months after our move. So I didn't have a baby shower, but family and friends gifted us generously.
Don't be hung up on the present thing. Outfitting a baby is really not that expensive!
2006-11-06 06:18:05 · answer #3 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Instead of throwing myself a baby shower because no one else would do it for me, I had my daughter a welcome party when she was two weeks old. It worked out great that way. She is now five months old and I bought her first pack of diapers this week. I have only bought her like three outfits for special occasions, and she has a closet and a dresser full of clothes. People bought her a lot more knowing how big she was and what she needed because she was already here.
2006-11-06 06:21:21 · answer #4 · answered by deliannathaniel 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can! My mother and I did mine together, but I did most of the work becasue I am so picky about party's and things. There is no reason why you cannot host a party and invite your friends to celebrate the gift of a new addition to your family. If you are uncomfortable about throwing it yourself, have a "Welcoming Party" to introduce people to the baby after s/he arrives. If people want to "shower," they will.
2006-11-06 06:21:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course you can throw your own baby shower if no one wants to volunteer. I think throwing some one a baby shower is special and if no one wants to throw it for you then, do it your self; and have a friend or sibling host it. Good Luck :)!
2006-11-06 06:12:39 · answer #6 · answered by miss_villegas_2005 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't see why not. If you don't have any family members or friends willing to. Make it a luncheon or a BBQ to celebrate the coming of your child. There is nothing wrong with that.
2006-11-06 06:12:29 · answer #7 · answered by Sari 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. Come on - throwing yourself a baby shower is just asking for gifts.
A baby shower (or bridal shower or whatever) is friends who are thinking of you and decide they want to do something special for you. (decide this on their own - not cause you tell them to) If no one "steps forward", then just buy yourself the gifts you want and move on.
2006-11-07 06:09:15 · answer #8 · answered by Baachan Linda 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Do you have a close friend or relative who could act as the host for the party even though its at your house?
2006-11-06 06:10:25 · answer #9 · answered by family_matters 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no - that's greedy. Comment to a mother,sister,friend that if there's a shower in the making you have a list of invites you'd like to be on it. Plus - how do yo know your husband's not already in cohoot's?
2006-11-06 06:16:04 · answer #10 · answered by autumn 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋