I just had my second child on Sept. 21. Everything between my husband and I has been fine--as perfect as it could be, until about 2 weeks ago. He is so caring and attentive to my needs, he always has been, but lately nothing he does is good enough. We can't even talk without me getting upset about something. I hate feeling this way. I know that I love him so I don't understand where these awful feelings are coming from. It's almost like I despise him and everything he does. The way he chews food, the way he drives, his opinions, the way he touches me...everything. I don't know if I'm just so stressed out that I deal with it by directing anger towards him? He did absolutely nothing wrong. Anyone else ever feel this way???? It's like I have gone numb towards him and I'm afraid if I don't do something now, our once happy marriage is going to fall apart.
2006-11-06 06:06:01 · 18 answers · asked by tonya 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thank you for all your answers. I agree that it has something to do with hormones, but I doubt it's post partum depression cuz everything else in my life is fine. I enjoy my children and i do not feel overwhelmed with the new baby. The only way I've changed is towards my husband. I'm looking for someone who has experienced this and would like to know how they overcame it.
2006-11-06 06:42:27 · update #1
Talk to your doctor about how your are feeling. Could be postpartum. Hard to believe that the wonderful man that you were married to 2 weeks ago has become the bane of your existence without some hormonal interference!
2006-11-06 06:09:22 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a transitory stage that you are going through as your body attempts to get it's hormones back in line following the birth. As I am sure you are well aware, that pregnancy and birth are both very huge physiological changes in a woman's body. Now if you were nursing and just recently stopped, your body is attempting to adjust for that as well. A woman's body is a hormonal wreck during and following pregnancy. The symptoms will manifest themselves differently in every woman and even be different from pregnancy to pregnancy. Talk with your husband, let him know what is going on and if you feel that it is not getting better over the next three or four weeks, go see your doctor and let the doc know what is going on, they can help level things out a little quicker.
2006-11-06 06:12:51 · answer #2 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never had a baby, so I am not sure if it is normal, but I know that your hormones are all over the place...I know when I am PMS-ing everything my husband does drives me nuts, even just him looking at me. So I can imagine that with the stress of a new baby, lack of sleep...and Hormones, I can't imagine that it isn't normal. Maybe talk to your doctor,he/she might have some suggestions on what the best course of action is for you...it may be going to a counciler or other methods.
2006-11-06 06:10:56 · answer #3 · answered by Nicole D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you recognize this problem as something that you need to change about yourself than I think there is hope for the two of you. You need to seek counseling asap! You could be suffering some chemical changes after your pregnancy that could be altering your mood. Post part-um does some strange things to women and each one is affected differently. Talk to you doctor right away and let your husband know what is going on in your head and that you need time to sort it out and some professional help along the way. He just needs to be patient with you and not to take anything you say to heart. He might want to be there after you've had a few sessions with your therapist and that might help both of you.
2006-11-06 06:13:25 · answer #4 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 2 children also and, yes, it is very normal to be easily irritated with your husband. My second child just turned 2 last week, and I am still agrivated with my hubby sometimes. It is also normal to have some signs and symptoms of post partum depression or anxiety. Don't be alarmed. Maybe you can talk to your doctor and he/she can give you some pointers to handle it, or maybe even prescribe something for you.
2006-11-06 06:10:45 · answer #5 · answered by Manna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what I have heard. Whenever a baby comes into a good marriage, it takes the wife away from the husband. It just needs some getting used to and some understanding. If you guys are really meant to be then you should be able to get through anything!!!!! Just keep that in mind. If you want to make it work then you have got work at it too. I takes two!!!!!!
2006-11-06 06:10:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you may have some form of postpartum depression. Mothers don't always have these negative feelings toward their children... you could be taking it out on your husband instead. I would talk to your family doctor and maybe they can diagnose you better than I just did... or you could attempt marriage counseling.
2006-11-06 06:10:22 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you need to sit down and have a good converstaion with strong listening. Find out what your feeling and WHY and find out what hes feeling and WHY.
Once this is done you'll both hopefully have a better understanding of what you must deal with to progress.
If relationships were easy they wouldn't mean as much as they do, they have to be maintained and continously improved upon.
2006-11-06 06:09:19 · answer #8 · answered by Chris H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its called hormones, sweetie. Trust me. After my son was born, he could do nothing right. My temper was off the charts. I talked to my dr and he put me on an antidepressant and that helped. Wait until you're calm, and reassure your husband that you still love him, and you don't understand what's going on, but you're going to go try to get some help.
2006-11-06 06:10:12 · answer #9 · answered by Sharon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Post Partum Depression is real and this sounds a lot like it.
Get in touch with your OB and discuss it.
2006-11-06 06:14:55 · answer #10 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋