Is abortion a bad thing?

Question

Im 19 and going to school a have a part time job, but i dont know if id want to have an abortion or not, my boyfriend of 3 years said that if we do get pregnant then its my choice. and my best friend has a year old son and shes so happen, but wished she could go back to school i dont know what to do, and also how my father would react.

Answer 1

This is a personal question and is up to the person who wants an abortion. An abortion is safer then pregnancy itself. Even though many take responsibilities in contraceptives, pregnancy can still happen. One out of 3 women will have an abortion sometime in their life. Most who unfavor abortion are men..but then again they arent the ones that go through pregnancy and can walk away from the responsibilities. You really need to make this decision on your own and think about how you will feel about it. Its a tough decision. Some will recommend adoption but will you be able to carry this child and then be able to give it away. Will it bother you knowing you have a child out there that someone else is raising and are they okay or happy. As for as how your father reacts..face the consequences...dont do the abortion just cause of the fear of your father. You need to some real hard soul searching here. Dont be scared to go thru w/the pregnancy..everyone gets scared of the responsibility but the rewards are wonderful to have that child look at you and give you a hug. There is no other hug like the hug from your own child.

Answer 2

I think that abortions are bad. Here's why: a fetus and an embryo is still a human child, it just doesn't breath air like we do. I mean in the first 3 weeks there's a heartbeat. 5 weeks it develops eyes, nose, and a mouth, hands. 8 weeks every organ is correctly in place, it can turn it's head, and move it's face, can suck it's thumb and you can see on an ultrasound breathing movements. 12 weeks you can really start to see bones in the arms, and fingers. 17 weeks a baby has fingernails. 18-20 weeks you can feel the baby's kicks. Then before you know it, it's almost time for the baby to arrive.

So by the first 12 weeks the baby has everything we do, it just need to put on some weight. So in my opinion having an abortion is killing an innocent life, that didn't ask to be created in the first place. If you choose to have the baby, "which I hope you do", you can always give it to a family that can't have the luxury of having their own child, or you can put it up for adoption. At least you're giving your child a chance at life.

I hope you make the right decision.

Answer 3

this is not a subject you can answer on here or anywhere else. I am glad your boyfriend will support your decision but if you protect yourself you won't have to make that decision. I am only 23 not much older than you and have wanted a child for a while now. I have had 3 miscarraiges. I wouldn't have an abortion after what I've been through no matter what my situation because I have been unable to have a baby I couldn't destroy that blessing if I did get a chance to carry to term. However, it is an individual decicion based on what's best for you and the baby. I am christian and should tell you absolutely not but I won't do that because it's a personal decision that if you let someone else make it for you, you may regret it every day for the rest of your life. You're father will be mad whether his baby girl gets knocked up and has the child or knocked up and has an abortion. Either way he'll likely be disappointed. So if it happens, show him your character and do the right thing. Good luck.

Answer 4

Having an abortion was like the best thing I ever did. At the time it was a big deal and the night before I went in I felt some pretty strong emotions, and I acknowledged the fact that I was making the choice to prevent a life from happening. (Murder or not, you are at the very least PREVENTING a life). Afterwards I felt relief. And to this day, I don't think about it that often (I didn't even think about it on the 2 year anniversary this year) and if it does cross my mind, all I really feel is relief and I feel blessed that I was able to not have that kid. Not everybody who has an abortion feels bad about it. It doesn't haunt you for the rest of your life and it shouldn't.

So my advice to you is: Finish school, that's the most important thing. If you have a kid before you finish school, the chances are you won't ever go back are extraordinarily high. The percentage of teen mothes who have ANY degree by age 30 is 1.5%. So PLEASE finish school and go on the pill.

Answer 5

How can you even ask that question? You're talking about a human life, of course "abortion" is a bad thing!

I was a year younger than you when I became pregnant with my first child. I was engaged to my childhood sweetheart at the time (also a three-year relationship). I was in my first year of college. I was also terrified of what my father would say, but it never once entered my mind to "abort" my child.

I choose to have my son and when I look at him now, (he's 39), I thank God everyday for him. He has a successful job, a loving wife and a beautiful 5-year old son. His father and I never married because he was killed in Viet Nam when our child was four-months old.

Your father might surprise you, mine did. There are other options besides "abortion" and you need to seriously consider all your options before you make a decision.

You need your parents to help you with this and I urge you to talk to them. Our parents love us and you need their love and support now more than ever. Talk to them.

Having a baby doesn't mean you won't be able to finish school. It doesn't mean you have to get married and it doesn't mean you have to raise your child. You can always give your child up for adoption. I was also "adopted" and I thank my birth parents everyday for their decision to "give me up". I had a beautiful childhood and a loving family. I have been happily married to my husband for 35 years and we have three children, he adopted my son.

I'm not telling you this is going to be "easy", life seldom is. But, it is possible for you to have your child and continue on to have a happy and successful life. I know because I've done it and you can too.

I wish you all the best. My prayers are with you.

Answer 6

First of all, if you're choosing to have sex, use precautions. Secondly, a baby didn't ask to be concieved, and in my opinion abortion is murder. Even though a baby hasn't been born yet, it's still alive and has a right to live. When you have an abortion, you are ending the life of an innocent person. If you have doubts about how your father would feel, talk to him. Be honest and open, and if he loves you, which I'm sure he does, he will be more than willing to sit down and talk to you, adult to adult. I hope this helps, good luck. Also, think about all the childless couples who can't concieve, and would love to adopt. They could give a child a good life filled with love.

Answer 7

If you are not already pregnant....DON'T GET PREGNANT. If you are considering abortion and you haven't even concieved, you had better stop having sex until you are PROTECTED. This is a life you are talking about, more than one life really...yours, a baby's..your family...DON'T get pregnant!!!
As to your general question...it depends on who you ask. I think it is wrong. I have a very firm belief on that. The real fact is, that despite what your belief is....it is something that WILL affect you for the rest of your life. Even women who have this done and feel fine with it, usually end up having emotional issues with it down the road..as when they get pregnant with a wanted baby..or if they are TRYING to get pregnant with a wanted baby..or they have kids....it is just a lifetime decesion. NOT a decesion to be taken lightly, and NOT a form of birth control!!! GET SOME birth control and don't go off until you are emotionally, finacially and just plain mature enough for a child.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

I think that it is wrong. That's killing a baby. Your child could be the next Einstein or Mozart. You do not know who you could kill. What if your parents aborted you. Can you even imagine, not existing? It is the scariest thought to think about. But, regardless, of whether or not you agree with me, that baby is a part of you. And hurting the baby would be hurting yourself. Further more, I heard that some abortions are gruesome for the baby, and the mother. I suggest adoption. I hope the best for you and your baby. Children are a blessing.

Answer 10

Abortion is a choice that only you can make. Many women have been able to successfully balance school, work, babies and non-supportive friends and family fine. You have to think about it. If you truly have questions and doubts about it, then don't do it. Have the baby if it comes to that. I know that I could never have an abortion myself, but I do support a woman's right to choose.