2006-11-06 05:51:56 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Traditionally yes, but in today's society it is becoming more accepted. Of course, if you are a teenager then that is a different story. I have no plans on marrying the father of my children, and never did. I have never wanted to be married, but I wanted children. My children will never know what a broken home is. Their father and I have the best relationship, and couldnt be better parents together. We just have no desire to become married. You have to know yourself, and your values. However,If you want the "traditional" family, and you plan to marry then you should just wait to have the children after you are married.
2006-11-06 06:03:58 · answer #1 · answered by j3572h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a personal choice. If you are in a position to raise a child, and want a child then it is your option to either find a willing partner, or visit a sperm bank. The most important thing is that you provide a good, safe, loving home for any children you may have. And while being a single parent isn't easy, being married is no garuntee that it will be any easier. Besides, you could get married, get pregnant and then your husband could die/leave and you would be right back in the same boat.
2006-11-06 13:55:19 · answer #2 · answered by danl747 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I myself had planned it out to get married and have a baby. However, I had the baby first. I have still not gotten married. Some people tried to put me down saying that having a baby out of wedlock was wrong, but I don't feel that way. Children are a blessing from God, no matter when you have them. Having my daughter when I did was the best thing to ever happen to me. In a sense she saved my life, and there is no one else that I love more. You need to reflect on your situation. You have been chosen to have a child for a reason.
2006-11-06 13:58:17 · answer #3 · answered by Danielle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think it is bad to get pregnant before you get married. The times have changed and people are a lot more understanding of stituations. My only advice is do not marry the father because of the baby's sake, marry him only if you truly love him. I know too many people that just married because they felt that they had to and not because they were truly in love.
2006-11-06 13:56:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got pregnant before I got married, and we are all living happily now. It's not advised, because the guy could run out on you (some do, some don't...it's all a game of Russian Rouellette). The Bible speaks against having premarital sex, so it is wrong. It can be fixed by asking God for forgiveness. You'll still be pregnant, but you'll probably be happier (as happy as a pregnant woman can be, anyway...lol!).
2006-11-06 14:01:38 · answer #5 · answered by teeney1116 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, if you have the baby before you get married, the government and all of us will pay for it. If not you will get no help Our lovely government here in the USA taxes higher for married people and only will help single mothers so really, unless if your rich it is better to get pregnant and have the baby before you get married. B/C that seems to be the only way to afford a baby here. I don't know about else where. It just seems stupid to me. there seems to be no reason to get married it just screws everything up. I'd say don't ever get married just live together.
2006-11-06 13:56:32 · answer #6 · answered by Lovely Lady 27 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
that's up to you. my husband and I waited...(and still are until he's done school). Had we gotten pregnant before our wedding I would have loved the child just the same. It''s 2006...don't let the religiuos freaks scare you. If you are a good person with love to give then being married or not does not matter. One thing I can say for sure is - DO NOT MARRY SOMEONE JUST BECAUSE THEY ARE YOUR BABY"S FATHER. Both of my brothers-in-law did this and they are both divorced.
2006-11-06 14:11:53 · answer #7 · answered by autumn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, the creation of an human being is never bad. But, the reason why the pregnancy accurred, other than the caring, loving, supporting from the individuals involved, the mother, the father for the child-baby is.
2006-11-06 13:57:16 · answer #8 · answered by jjewelzs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not bad, as long a you intend to give the child a two parent household. I'm sure the baby would prefer you being unwed and pregnant then aborted.
2006-11-06 14:01:08 · answer #9 · answered by carly h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no. You need a million man hours to raise a baby in a way that is good for the baby. And you need two people to commit to it. You should wait to be married. Its easier for the baby . and easier NOT TO HAVE A BABY DADDY. visits child support and all the comes with it is sooooo hard.
But .. if your in the position .. and are pregnate... get ready to do the million man hours your self. but its okay the best of us have done it and survived but If I had it to again..... I would have waited. I love my kids but it was so hard. WAIT if you can... wait for marriage and all the help and joy. its no fun alone. .. if you can help it .
2006-11-06 13:59:49 · answer #10 · answered by zachs mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋