My sister is married and talking to this guy on the phone and on the net. She hasn't told her husband. She lies to go call this man, talks about how he touches this place in her that she thought was gone, he makes her happy, and etc...She also plans to meet this man in Arizona after X-mas, but she's buying a house with her husband this year. I feel that what she's doing is way wrong and he should be told. Cheating is cheating..HELP!!!
2006-11-06 05:15:36 · 17 answers · asked by geminiblue26 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In reference to all the people who says that blood is thicker than water and that I need to mind my own business----She made it my business and got me involved. I didn't ask for that and I told her that I didn't want to hear about it anymore. Blood? She's screwed with so many people's life's and done so many people wrong, she's selfish and self-centered. She's wrong damnitt!! I didn't want this on my mind and have to talk to my brother-n-law like i know nothing. She should have kept her dirty little secret to herself!!!!
2006-11-06 06:24:17 · update #1
It sounds like your sister has already given up on her relationship with her husband if she is openly talking to you about this other guy. I would sit her down and tell her that she should try to find out what happened in her own relationship to make her so unhappy and get counseling. Tell her if she decides to divorce it will be harder to split assets with a house together. It isn't your place to tell her husband although you feel you should. It would never end well for you. Tell her how bad it makes you fell that she is deceiving her husband. If things are so bad she should get a divorce first and look for another man second. Maybe you could tell her that if she doesn't tell him before they buy a house together you will.(Even if you won't) Maybe that will make her think twice and she will either tell him or not tell you the dirty details from now on. Good Luck
2006-11-06 05:44:42 · answer #1 · answered by smile4u 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want to get in the middle of all this? I mean, she is your sister, and do you feel it is really your place to destroy her marriage, and it will. Just because she made plans to meet this man, doesn't mean she will. And if she did change her mind, and you have already put your two cents in, did you help? I mean, you should talk to her, and tell HER that you feel this is wrong, and you don't agree with it. You should not involve yourself in someone else's marriage. She VENTED to you. Don't start a family affair, over something that truly has NOTHING to do with you.
2006-11-06 06:49:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I agree with the fact that what she is doing is wrong. Her behavior is considered cheating in my book, and is a direct violation of her marriage vows. That having been said, you are her sister! Your loyalty should lie with her. You should speak to her about it, but you have no right to speak to her husband. It may bother you to see him treated like this, but you must stick by her side. If the roles were reversed, and your sister's husband was the one cheating, then you it would be your duty to tell your sister. Think long and hard where your loyalties lie.
2006-11-06 05:22:25 · answer #3 · answered by Bill 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
That is your sister and that is your sister's business what she does, why would you want to hurt her marriage. To be honest your poking your nose where doesn't belong, if the situation was reversed would you want her to tell on you. Blood is thicker than water and this communicating may just be a passing fantasy. It's best to just stay out of it, find yourself something to do other than spying on your sister.
2006-11-06 05:35:03 · answer #4 · answered by Nicki 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You need to sit your sister down and put it on the line for her. She is emotionally cheating and ready to physically cheat also.
If she won't own up to her BS then tell him. He has a right to know before buying a house with her.
2006-11-06 05:22:15 · answer #5 · answered by SRC 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What she is doing is very wrong, but it's none of your business. You can tell your sister that you don't like what she is doing and that you're going to limit your involvement with her because of it, but don't get in the middle of their marriage.
2006-11-06 05:18:58 · answer #6 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
honestly her husband needs to know especially before they buy the house cause if he finds out after they could split up and things could be seriously ruined. She needs to tell him cause with her lieing now who knows what she will lie about to him in the future especially after she meets her mystery man.
2006-11-06 05:21:51 · answer #7 · answered by Crazy ace 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have you tried talking to her? If it were me I would let her know I'm hip to her game and try to point out how it's a bad move and let her know that if he asks you anything about this, because he suspects something....you will not lie for her.
2006-11-06 05:24:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dont tell her husband....I would talk to your sister and let her know how you feel. Cheating is wrong!!
2006-11-06 05:18:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
She's wrong, but you'll be even more wrong to get in their business. After you discuss it with her, if she refuse to stop, I would recruit another sibling or parent to help me convince her that her emotional infidelity is wrong and may lead to physical cheating.
2006-11-06 05:23:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋