help im only 16 and im pregnant?

Question

ok well. hes used a condom and so i have no idea how i got pregnant......but im not getting a abortion bcos i dont think its fair.sohow am i going to tell my parents?!?!?!!!!they wud kill mee!! help please xx

Answer 1

There is no easy way to tell. Trust me I have experience! Just prepare yourself. Understand that this is hard on them also. They will get mad and might say things they don't mean out of frustration. Parents usually feel they have done something wrong and that's where the anger comes.

But if you approach it calmly hopefully when the dust settles everyone can look at the situation maturely. The longer you wait the more mad and hurt they will be. And the more emotional you will be with pregnancy hormones.

maybe you need to have a plan and reassure your parents that you will finish school and tell them you need their love and guidance to get you through this.

remember it is like a band aid rip it off quick! Also the stress of keeping the secret can be bad for the baby.

Answer 2

Do you have a teacher or a friend who's parents you trust? Talk to them first, ask them to help you tell your parents!

You need to let your parents know AS SOON AS POSSIBLE!! You need to get to a doctor and get good prenatel care.

Usually kids think that their parents are going to freak out over everything! You may be worried about nothing! Either way, you need to tell them SOON! Just as abortion in unfair, so is not getting the proper medical attention! Give this baby every chance possible at being healthy!

I wish you the very best of luck! Your life is about to change, drastically! You can do it, you will be ok! Just do everything you can to educate yourself on having a new baby, and then when the baby is here, try really HARD to be the best mother you can be!! That baby will have to come first - above everything!!

Remember, adoption is always an option. I'm not saying that it is the best option for you, I am just reminding you that it is an option! Take care of yourself!!

Answer 3

Condoms aren't 100% effective. There's still that small chance that anyone could get pregnant. If you don't want an abortion then definitely don't get one. Don't let anyone talk you into doing something you're uncomfortable with. I would first start off by talking to someone in a women's clinic who could explain some of your options. From there talk to them about how you could best break the news to your parents. You won't be able to hide your pregnancy for too long so you'll eventually have to tell them... I know it's scary and it's the last thing you want to do. It won't hurt anyone for you to take a few weeks to digest everything before you say anything. I had a cousin that got pregnant at 16 too. She was afraid to tell her parents but in the end they still loved her to pieces and supported her. You'll be okay, it'll all work itself out.

Answer 4

Tell your parents. They may be upset at first but trust me by the time your baby is born they are going to forget all about it. My mom was the same way. I was 18 when I got pregnant and my mom was mad but when she calmed down she was excited and now she loves my two kids to death. They are her favorite grandbabies and she doesn't care about admitting it. Anyways, don't stress. Your life is not over, you just have to take a different path in life to get to where you want to be. I should know I have 2 kids under 2 years old and I'm 21 married and have a high paying job at a car dealership. So don't let people pressure you to have an abortion and tell you that your life is ruined b/c of your baby. My two kids helped change my life and if I had the choice to redo that moment, I'd still live my life the same. If you need someone to talk to or you have any questions with what's going on with the changes your body is going thru or with your baby, please feel free to e-mail me at [e-mail].

Answer 5

if you TRULY fear your parent's reaction, the i would suggest you tell an adult (one of their contemporaries) that you trust to go along with you. This can be a teacher, advisor or whatever. You also need to consider all of your option, so you can have some sort of game plan when you confront them, and thus be able to stand your ground if it goes against what you want.

If you haven't already, you need to tell the father about the baby. Again, if it's easier, you can bring everyone together (both families and him) with that adult for when you break the news.

Being 16 and pregnant is no joke. There are a lot of difficult decisions you need to make. Trust me, telling your parents will be the easy part. If you decide to go thru this pregnancy, weither you keep the baby or put it up for adoption, you're going to need to "man up" and get some backbone. take a deep breath, draw in some confidence, and do what you need to do.

Also, you'll hear a lot of different sides about the abortion debate (perhaps even from your parents). Do your research. Though ending a life is a hard decision to make and shouldn't be made lightly, nor is having a child you don't want, or are unwilling to care for. Trust me, being the product of unfit parents and then then going though the foster care system is NOT FUN. if you keep the child you're going to have to figure out how to best care for it, and begin thinking about some long term goals. If you decide to put it up for adoption you're going to have to brace yourself for that. Also, you might also have to brace yourself for the notion that the father will flip out and may not be as there for you as you need him to be. If your parents flip out, there are homes for teen mothers and other options.

Anyway, good luck.

Answer 6

Sometimes condoms can break. Or there could have been contact with pre-ejaculate before he put the condom on. Whatever the case, you'll have to talk to your parents about it so you can get the medical care that you will need. It's a hard thing to do, but it'll be worse if you keep it secret. Good luck.
Not getting an abortion is your choice, but your parents will probably have to deal with taking care of the baby while you finish school. Would they be willing to do that?

Answer 7

Well let me start off by telling you i became a mom at 16yrs old,and i know where you are coming from,I would tell you to sit them down(maybe start with one,like with me i told my mom first and she took it way better than my dad did,and i let her break it to my dad in her way)They cant make you do anything you dont want to do -you have decisions on this issue.I wouldnt come off mean or nasty or have an attitude with it just tell then you dont feel getting an abortion is right,and that you care about the baby(you are going to need them ALOT in the future,they will get over it ,understand it will be hard ,but you are their daughter they will stand by you in the end)I also want to tell you abortions are very scary i had one too and was the worst decision i have ever made,and i told myself when i walked out that office that day i would stand against it and if ever the time came when i could give advice i would ,And by the way you can get pregnant from foreplay or anything that semen had came in contact with if it gets in down there,(for future advice ).I hope i have helped .Good luck!!

Answer 8

Find a quiet time when you are sure to have their complete and undivided attention without any distractions. For me that would have been after supper. Then tell them, "Mom, Dad I have something important to talk to you about." Get them to sit down in a place where you can have a long talk. Don't do it with them standing up in the kitchen.

If they are like my parents would have been, it's going to be a long, emotionally exhausting talk. They're going to be in disbelief. There's probably going to be some screaming and crying. You need to stay as calm as you can be during that phase. They need to go through this phase before you can get down to real business. The thing to keep in front of them is that the deed is already done and lectures are useless at this point.

You've got a lot of decisions to make, and none of them are going to be easy. Good luck; I'm praying for you.

Answer 9

Do you have a close family member that you can talk to first and maybe they can help tell your parents. Or do you know of a therapist or Dr. that is in your school, they can also help you. Maybe they can arrange to have your parents meet with you all together so your not alone when you tell them. You need the support. Maybe you can ask your friends parents if you are close
to one of them. I know 16 is young but having a baby is wonderful, you will be ok. Talk to someone asap. Good Luck :)

Answer 10

I'm around your age and I dont know what I would do. I would get an abortion. It would be hard taking care of your baby. It wouldn't be fair to you either. You're young and you should live your life not be taking care of a baby. It would be harder if you're parents wouldn't be behind you either. Try to avoid telling them and get an abortion if that is possible. Or just break it to them slowly. Talk to the nicer parent first. lol... If you decide to have this baby you need your parents support.