My GF & I have been dating 2 1/2 years. I moved to a foreign country to be with her & when we first began dating, she said that she would like to move with me to America. But a year ago, she began a new job that she really loves & then she changed her mind about moving. At first, I thought I should just be patient and wait for her to change her mind again. But since it had been a year, I decided to talk to her about it the other day.
We used to talk about getting married & having a family, but we also haven't talked about that for the past year. The other day, I asked her if she still thinks we'll get married & she said she didn't think so. Then she told me that we are just too different. Also, she stopped saying "I love you" a few months ago, & would only say it if I said it first. But since we talked the other day, now she is showing me much more interest & she told me she couldn't sleep last night & was crying when she thought about me leaving.
What should I do?!
2006-11-06 05:13:44 · 7 answers · asked by Bob 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if you really love her, sit down with her again and ask her where she sees herself in 10 years. let her know the same. if she sees her life different than yours, leave on good conditions. she might be to scared of a big change if you split since both of you have been together for over 2 years. if that's the case, if you feel comfortable, stay good friends and give love another chance when you are ready......
2006-11-06 05:26:33 · answer #1 · answered by superwoman4774 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i imagine absolutely one of you needs to make your ideas as a lot as a replace of position of abode. till now you get married and performance young children possibly you may want to livee at the same time for a year or so. have you ever considered him with young children? did you comprehend his stressful habit? i imagine your speeding this relationship in accordance to some visits. I also ask your self if he's an finished significant different in this relationship. If he's dedicated to both of you why is he not vacationing an making prolonged journeys to confirm you? i imagine you want more effective time as a pair till now you provide him an ultimatum. in case you at the instantaneous are not prepared to position in additional effective time, i'd end it now and locate someone close by who can foster this kind of relationship you want.
2016-11-28 20:25:37 · answer #2 · answered by plyler 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
problems brewing here...this is just the tip of the iceberg...i think the only reason shes afraid to leave you cuz she might not be able to find someone like you who's willing to do everything...including moving to another country to be with her...she's the type of person that cant be alone...once again...its not about you and her as a couple...she's thinking about herself...quite a selfish person...you need to find someone better..who will love you and not take things for granted...the way this gf of yours is doing....in my opinion..you need to not be a wuss and draw the line....
2006-11-06 05:23:09 · answer #3 · answered by nfocuz00 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
y'all need to sit down and have a serious talk because it kind of sounds like y'all are growing apart...let her know how you feel and what you want from this relationship...then ask her the same. good luck
2006-11-06 05:18:18 · answer #4 · answered by *KiM* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move back. Don't allow yourself to go through this crap. See where it's gotten you so far?
2006-11-06 05:17:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's already told you that she doesn't want to marry you. I'd start packing.
2006-11-06 05:20:59 · answer #6 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gosh, I don't know. It sounds like you and her need to talk some more.
2006-11-06 05:16:39 · answer #7 · answered by his_scarlett_ohara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋