What do you do when you are with someone that makes you feel like you are the most amazing thing in their lives and treats you like a princess (50%) of the time. Yet the other 50% of the time make you feel like you are not tryinghard enough, in the wrong. Constantly question your love, your motives, and faithfulness, when reality is when things get tough and there is a row you spend hours on the phone to friends talking about the guy you are so desperately trying to love, is it a case of loving a guy that does not love me back? Same **** different person? stay or go? I know everyone has ups and downs but this is getting ridiculous, so many times I sit there and feel like a failure, yet I not the one that is not prepared to talk things through, yet then 2 days later I get flowers a meal cooked and rose petals covering the bed! confusded....... springs to mind, where is the consistancy, and I don't mean constant flowers just a bit of non roller coaster action. How can I reassure him?
2006-11-06 05:10:27 · 15 answers · asked by Girl of Spirit 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
True love is entirely a matter of the heart.
"The heart has reasons that reason does not understand."
"I have loved to the point of madness;
That which is called madness,
That which to me,
Is the only sensible way to love."
2006-11-06 05:41:13 · answer #1 · answered by Bender 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
spirit: The problem is when your heart gets bigger than your head, you are in trouble. You are supplied for life - a heart to pump blood throughout your body and to your brain then, a brain that fits inside your head. The brain is the computer and the heart is the signal receiver from the brain. Obviously, your brain is sending your heart a message in this case. You are going out with Mr. "sweet & sour" it appears! Extremism is a sign of underlying emotional issues, which require addressing. Your guy needs to get into counselling or YOU get away from him. This extreme behavior will confuse the hell out of you and cause YOU to have problems of your own. No girl (woman) should put up with being on the end of abuse (emotional) . Staying with him should he decide NOT to seek counselling "spells" T-R-O-U-B-L-E for you and ultimately him. He may never change and should you decide to hang around, you will have to tolerate the carnival ride on the "mood swing" with him. True love should leave you feeling up-lifted not down-trodden all of the time. He is insecure and wants to tie you down; therefore, he showers you with grandiose actions. Why would you want to be with a guy like that when you can have a guy who will love you like you need to be loved? (That question is for the brain part of your anatomy!)
You can do better ... Good luck to ya "Girl" !!!
2006-11-06 05:36:27 · answer #2 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being treated like a princess is great, but only 50% of the time? Not so great. He almost sounds like a Jekyll and Hyde character. I'd run, find a guy who treats you like a princess 100% of the time, all the time.
2006-11-06 05:18:15 · answer #3 · answered by F 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
HOw long have you ben with him. If this has been going on for some time. Get out now. Mind games arent fun. Why is he always questioning you, have you thought about that. Guilty one usually suspect the other. Be careful and GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-11-06 05:14:17 · answer #4 · answered by crazzzy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
dont reassure him. last friday when i got home from work my then bf had candles lit and a bubble bath with rose petals in the tub waiting for me....a week later he told me he had been lying to me for the last 2 years and had a baby on the way by another woman. bottom line...if u feel like something is wrong...it probably is.
2006-11-06 05:23:20 · answer #5 · answered by MsNic 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
hear on your head . i stumble on that the midsection now and back does no longer make experience and that i accompanied my coronary heart until eventually now and that i've got been given harm . The recommendations is greater efficient . common experience might tell me to %. the 2nd of the two . sturdy success
2016-10-15 10:54:26 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to sit and think about what you are doing if you love him and he love you back then stay but if you feel in your heart that he don't love you like you feel that you should be loved then leave him alone and wait til that special one come who would treat you like a queen 100% of the time but guys in general will always question your love for them no matter what and us as women we love harder then men and were extra emotional so guys are not always on the same level as us.
2006-11-06 05:16:48 · answer #7 · answered by Mz.Tweety 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he loved you he would not make you feel like this and note what you said, "the guy you are so desperately TRYING to love". You shouldn't have to try to love a man!
Do some soul searching for this one.
2006-11-06 05:17:36 · answer #8 · answered by spirit filled 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
follow your heart ,that's one thing you need to take good care of it can be broken just like that and to mend it, it will take 10 times as much so take care and make the right choice.seems like yr men is doubting u he might have his eyes on another somebody
2006-11-06 05:46:37 · answer #9 · answered by funkyspice 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your head hun you should feel wanted and special all the time not like a failiure get rid
2006-11-06 10:41:13 · answer #10 · answered by becca b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋