Would u leave your husband?

Question

I have no proof that his having or has had sex with this person. All I know is that so girl texted his phone. I'm really pissed because I had no idea of this person. I called and talked to her she said they are just friends, I asked if he ever tried anything with her she said no. I asked him the same the question he said she tried to kiss him, After she tried that he stopped talking to her. He said he told her to stop calling him, but she text him anyway. I know for a fact that they have no spoken since well aleast not on his cell phone. I check it every month. My question should i let it go or let him go. Married 7yrs 1child, never caught him in a lie before.
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Answer 1

Anything worth having is worth fighting for. Stand up and fight for your man! Seven years and a child is a lot to invest and even more to lose over some silly jealous moment.

Answer 2

If you didn't have a child, I would say dump his butt, he's cheating. But since you didn't catch him in the act and there is a little person involved, I would give him another chance, but keep your eyes open to the signs of cheating, and don't be one of those blind women who ignores the signs because she doesn't want it to be true. If it happens again, then I would say at that point you would have to decide if you want to spend the rest of your life wondering if the man you love is going to cheat. Also, I think it is better for parents to seperate when the children are young enought that they don't see the pain that the parents are going through, because they will feel guilty when they are old enough to understand. So basically, I am saying, keep your eyes open in the future, be skeptical, and if he calls you paranoid just remind him that he gave you a reason to watch out.
Also, I think that when you are married, there should never be a new friendship with the opposite sex. Even if they are telling the truth and nothing happened between them, he was wrong to give her his number in the first place, and if she tried to kiss him, he had to give her some reason to believe it would be acceptable. Friendships between married people of the opposite sex are sometimes considered emotional affairs, which most of the time leads to a physical affair.
Good luck with this one!

Answer 3

They're both lying. My husband has had an online/phone affair with a woman for over 2 years and he tried telling me that they were "just" friends. It's bull. BTW, they both know you're checking his cell phone so they're most likely using other, more safe, modes of communication (emailing/phoning from work, etc.). There's absolutely no reason for another woman to be text messaging, emailing, calling, or having any other communication with your husband. None! I'm going to play devil's advocate here, but if your husband loved you then why didn't he come to you and tell you all about this woman? Because he's been, and may still be, sneaking around behind your back doing this. It's not done in front of you because he knows it's wrong and you'd disapprove. I told my husband that if it's not something you'd do in front of me then it's wrong to do at all.

Answer 4

I would give him the benefit of the doubt. But I would really be upset that he was talking to another woman behind your back. Why didn't he tell you about there friendship when it first started? Since he's been a pretty decent guy in the past, I would give him another chance but would have to rebuild trust in him. Have her number blocked on your cell phones and home phones. If she continues to try to get in touch with your husband, put a restraining order against her for harrassment.

Answer 5

Just sit back and chill. It could be nothing as he said. Don't ruin a 7yr marriage over a fluzzy. There may be many more to come. Morals are very low these days and married men are targets of many women. Trust your husband, but keep your eyes wide open if you know what I mean.

Answer 6

You need to find out how he knows this girl, how did they get each other's number, if you never so the text message was he never gonna say anything to you?? he might not be having an physical relationship with her but an emotional one. Why are they talking, he should be talking to you.

Answer 7

Where did he meet her? He should have told you about his 'friend' before it got to the point that it has ... but if he truly stopped talking to her because she tried to put the moves on him, at least that means he is honerable .... for now. Maybe you two should really sit down and talk, maybe get some couple's counseling. I hope things work out for you.

Answer 8

there really isn't enough information here. apparently you talked to him about it.... so who is she? is she just a friend? did he or she explain how they knew each other, or when they hung out, or under what circumstances she tried to kiss him?

kinda hard to say what i would do in this situation without really knowing if what he did was wrong. Just getting a text isn't that big of a deal, but depending on the relationship between them, it could be.

hope that make sense.

wanting to help,
♥

Answer 9

let it go... lots of women flirt with married men, just to see if they will take the bait.
He needs to get a new cell number - blocking her number isn't good enough for me...since she knows his number and can call from another phone... so if she calls the new number then you can surmise that he's up to no good.

Answer 10

I agree with other ppl on here . Let it go for now if you find proof later on go see a divorce attorney and make sure you name her as the reason for your divorce . embarass her publicly and she might not do it again. you know the 7 year itch might be happening. good luck and god bless. Happy thanksgiving.