every morning at my bus stop there is this mean/rude lady that is always yelling at her kids(2 sons 1 daughter all in middle school).this morning she made her youngest son cry by yelling and calling him pathetic and a retard b/c he triped and dropped his books. and she does that type of thing to all her kids everday.standing out there makes me very uncomfortable.can some1 plz tell me something i can do?
2006-11-06 04:52:35 · 24 answers · asked by Simply Me 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
call CPS/DSS on her. find out where she lives and relay that info to CPS/DSS. this should not continue, and some thing has to be done.
2006-11-06 06:44:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This definitely sounds like verbal abuse. Makes you wonder what goes on out of public view.
As a proper answer: You should contact the school, as since this is at a bus stop, the school bus is the beginning of the school day, and this sort of thing would never be tolerated in the school.
Now for the underhanded, yet usually more effective tactic... Do you know the woman's name? Can you get her address? If you can, you can mail her several anonymous post cards or letters (make it look like from different people) and simply state something like...'Why are you so mean to your children at the bus stop all the time?' That will reveal it came from someone else at the bus stop, but not exactly who sent the post. Or, you could make it more generic yet pointed by saying 'why are you so verbally abusive to your children in public?'
No matter what, you do need to do something. If you do nothing, your actions are a silent endorsement of such abuse (and it is abuse), and the children (all of them at the scene) will think this behavior is acceptible, and may repeat it with their own later in life.
What I really want to say is smack her up side the head, but that is immature, inappropriate, and most likely illegal. But hey, it would be a heck of a smack.
2006-11-06 07:16:34 · answer #2 · answered by Hurricane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confronting her can no longer do something to assist the situation. This sounds drastic, yet call the toddler's help Society, and record her. tell them precisely while and the place this happens so as that they could be conscious, in the event that they choose. probability is, if she behaves this way in the direction of them in public, she is being the two harsh or much greater harsh, interior the confines of her residing house the place no person else sees her. you need to determine she's on her maximum suitable habit while she's out in public, and if this is the main suitable she has, then pity the youngsters! in case you enter a criticism with CAS, they could do an interview along with her, and which will placed her on observe that somebody is paying interest to the way she treats her youngsters. you is basically no longer in touch, and she or he won't understand the place the criticism got here from. you won't be in a position to tension somebody to be a sturdy mom, yet you may preclude them from being an abusive make certain. sturdy on you for irritating. Too many human beings might basically forget approximately a situation like this.
2016-10-15 10:53:39 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can befriend those children. You see first hand what they go through. Imagine what is done at the home. Encouarge them. Tell them you like their shirt or shoes. Make conversation. Also invite them over, so they can see how parents are to supposed to show love. Also began to play sports. Sports can take someone mind off of their messed up life. Also let the mother see or hear you doing something nice to her children. Maybe she do not know how to show love. Remember things of this nature are usually passed on from generation to generation. You can show them a new way, and start a new cycle. Later
2006-11-06 06:48:06 · answer #4 · answered by long leggs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to report this to your school- just call the office and ask to speak with the counsellor. That sure sounds like emotional abuse, or maybe just a very stressed household that needs some help getting back on track. The counsellor can hopefully intervene for the sake of those poor kids. I hope you do step in and help, it would be a great example for your children as well to see their mom stand up for someone in need and help another mom.
2006-11-06 04:57:23 · answer #5 · answered by Erin C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know someone exactly like that. it became embarressing to go any where with her. if your a adult i would maybe remind her there are others and we dont need to here your business. chances are shes going to be rude to you to. so just be prepared but i would at least tell her to calm down first thing in the morning start the kids day on the right foot.place a phone call to social services. tell the school councelor. someone can make her listen. just someone has to start the ball in motion.
2006-11-06 04:59:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think having your mom or dad wait with you and witness it is a good idea, if not just describe it to them. Then you and your parents can talk to the principal or child protective services.
FYI in many places you are legally obligated to report suspected abuse. I know it can be hard and even adults have trouble doing it sometimes but better safe than sorry.
2006-11-06 07:04:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In secret tell your parents, teacher or principle. Let the adults handle this. Don't say anything to the mom because as strange as it may sound her kids may not appreciate anyone mistreating their mom. Also, not to mention that if she could treat her own children like that, she won't have any respect for you. Be safe and tell someone you can trust.
2006-11-06 07:30:54 · answer #8 · answered by April L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your mom or dad to come and stand with you for a couple of days so they can hear this so-called mother( shouldn't be a mother if she treats her kids like that). And have your parents report the problem to DHS! That is verbal abuse! And it's just as bad as any other abuse if you ask me!!!
2006-11-06 06:42:15 · answer #9 · answered by panda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, thats seriously messed up. Definetely tell the school principal. Also if there are other kids besides you and them, have thier moms come to the bus stop (or maybe your mom) and they might be willing to help out.
Thats really wrong, tell someone. now.
2006-11-07 02:26:42 · answer #10 · answered by trainboy765 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm at a loss. As mean and unfair as it is, there is not much you can do to help them, unfortunately. I doubt CPS would get involved for verbal abuse, but if you see her physically abuse them, you might be able to do something.
Can you talk to the principal of the school maybe?
2006-11-06 04:57:03 · answer #11 · answered by Nada Chance 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋