I met someone , a gentleman and I gave him my numberphone. he shows me for the begining that he likes me and he said it to me and I love him. meanwhile an other man ' ready for marriage ) wants to marry me and he is gentleman but I do ont know him, I do not even see his face, I ve heard that he is good guy. I m confused, the first guy likes me but he is not ready for marriage , should I wait?, and I m not sure of his feelings towards me, I m afraid if he is lying on me, and he wants to pass time with me (just words). and I do not know who is the good one for me , the one who i can liv e happy with him. simply, should I wait the first one if he is really wants me or marry the secnd one' I do not like him and I do not want to know him' ?.
2006-11-06 04:52:08 · 7 answers · asked by gentle whisper 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I m 25 years old, the first guy is 26 years old , the second guy is 32 years old.
2006-11-06 06:41:15 · update #1
I believe you have answered the question yourself. When you say that you don't like the second guy and you don't want to know him then he is basically not a choice anymore.
However, since the first guy is not ready for marriage, a good way to test him would be to tell him that you have been proposed by someone else and since he is not ready for marriage so you are confused about this relationship and ask him for a definite answer.
In the meanwhile, I would suggest to at least meet the other guy once. As far as I know seeing is believing. You never know what good may be waiting for you there. No need to give him your contact number or anything else in the first meeting just keep it to the introduction and to general topics. If he tries to advance too fast then obviously he just trying to get into your pants.
Think I have written enough. Will be good to know your decision and progress.
Take care
2006-11-06 05:04:38 · answer #1 · answered by snip3r_scorpion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you shouldn't consider marrying somebody you don't know. Second, if the first guy isn't ready for marriage and you love him and he loves you, it would be worth hanging around for to see where it goes. The second guy could be a serial killer as far as you know and may be saying things just to entice you into meeting with him. You have shared your vulnerabilities with him and he knows just what to say. Maybe you should disconnect from both of them for a while and try to meet new people. Good luck.
2006-11-06 05:09:23 · answer #2 · answered by leigh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely it can, but it is not a guarantee. Whatever may cause the mind to drop habit and business as usual has a good chance of deepening the path between heart and mind. The heart is pure only when not sentimental. The mind is pure only when it stops taking itself for reality. Sorrow asks such deep questions, such unanswerable questions, that the heart/mind find a natural affinity for each other in just being present as a purified version of bare awareness itself. This, I realize ,is the greatest understanding of mankind, because it is the one birthright of all.
2016-05-22 04:25:41 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont marry someone just for the sake of getting married. marriage is a longtime commitment. if the man who you are physcially dating is the one you feel stronger towards then wait. maybe with time he will change his mind. if not then do the commitment with the one you have not had the same kind of relationship. but really only get involved in the relationship you really want in your heart
2006-11-06 05:01:36 · answer #4 · answered by lasalle_1986 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok this one is simple. If you want to get married right now then marry the guy that wants to marry you now. If you would rather wait and marry someone that you love and want to spend the rest of your life with, then date the other guy and see what happens.
2006-11-06 04:56:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
the one who wants to marry you and you don't like ,don't marry him,cut the relationship off right away,you never give your self to some one you don't love,even if the love doesn't work out at least you were willing.the one who doesn't want to marry you and wants to wait,cut him off and don't have sex with him,if marriage has to wait then sex has to wait,don't let him use you then throw you away instead of marrying you.
2006-11-06 04:59:58 · answer #6 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! I would drop both of them for now, tell them you need time to think, pray and ask God to help you.......take care
2006-11-06 04:57:27 · answer #7 · answered by Bert 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋