she has stopped because i have stopped buying them for her because i don't agree with the whole thing. the reason she has stopped buying for me however, is because she is not getting anything in return. does this seem a liitle bit selfish of her . if she didnt want to buy a present she should have stopped doing so a long time ago, surley? or am i being petty?
2006-11-06 04:26:23 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yes, you're being petty
2006-11-06 04:28:10 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If you don't buy your mother a present for birthday or Christmas then why should she buy you a present?
You say you 'don't agree' with the whole thing. What do you mean? That you don't agree with showing your loved ones affection and being polite?
Buying a gift for a person doesn't necessarilymean spending a lot of money, a small, thoughtful gift can make a person very happy.
Your mother might think that you would be offended by a gift from her because of your apparent beliefs.
You are being selfish, not your mother.
2006-11-06 04:34:54 · answer #2 · answered by Fluorescent 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, are you old enough to get a JOB? And to me it sounds like your mother is selfish, It's better to give then receive.
If your old enough to go to work, then if you can afford at least
one present that would be fine. I have a daughter 22 and when she was younger, I always bought her a least 7 presents for
Christmas and as she got older the amount got smaller. Now I
try to buy her at least a few presents. As for her I didn't expect
anything from her when she was younger, a though she had a part time job when she was 16 yrs. old. Now that she has her
own family, I don't expect nothing from her. I expect that she
does buy something for my two grand-daughters. So like I said
it's better to give then receive, if you have extra cash then at least try to buy one present, it the thought that counts. Have a talk with her to find out if she is in fact selfish because she is not
getting any presents from you. You don't have to ask if she is
selfish, just ask if she is upset with you because you haven't
bought her anything for a while.
2006-11-06 04:38:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your being petty. If you don't agree with the whole thing then why does it bother you that she's stopped? Facts are simple a parent isn't required to GIVE a gift. Frankly if you were my child and you stopped giving me gifts because you didn't agree with the whole gift giving thing at Christmas and so forth I'd stop giving them to you. Kinda a double standard don't you think? You don't agree with giving gifts yet expect them?
2006-11-06 04:34:53 · answer #4 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If u don't beleive in the whole thing then u shouldn't be bothered although i think ur mum is wrong i give presents cos i want to not because i expect something back a gift is a gift not a exchange!
2006-11-06 04:29:54 · answer #5 · answered by sassy! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey there
Your mum might be feeling stubborn,
i am not sure how old u are, but if you are a teenager, she might be trying to teach you some rules in growing up
if not she mosely likey is being stubborn about it
how about you buy your mum something?
why have u stoped by your mum things? is it a lack of money?
maybe discuss Christmas and birthday and see if you can do something special 2gether x
2006-11-06 04:33:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are being petty and selfish. You only suppose that this is her reason.. did she tell you this or did you decide that was why.
A gift should be given with no strings attached and it should only be given from the heart. If it is not your belief system to do this, why would you want something that disagreed with your way of thinking.... You don't run her life, run your own, you don't tell people what they should do, tell yourself what to do.... You are too self centered.... give her a call and tell her you love her.....
2006-11-06 04:31:11 · answer #7 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i have not have a b/day or christmas card or present from my mum she stopped doing them when i was 14 she say she had no money to get me anything but mum and dad work ,12 years on i have had three kids and she is the same with them.Ever christmas,b/day and mums day i sent her a card from the kids and i.So what i am trying to say a card is better then nothing i card is to say i`m thinking of you all the time.
2006-11-08 00:16:19 · answer #8 · answered by leanne w 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't agree with buying xmas or birthday presents for others. then that should also apply to be on the receieving end. of course you shouldn't expect others to keep buying for you if you don't agree with or buy for others.Usually in life you get back what you give.
2006-11-06 04:30:03 · answer #9 · answered by cin_ann_43 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats a good way of getting out of buying cards and presents, to say you dont believe in it. I think you sound tight and selfish.
2006-11-06 04:34:22 · answer #10 · answered by hayley a 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
In my family only those under the age of 16 get presents.
2006-11-06 04:30:15 · answer #11 · answered by Kat Moonsstar 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋