My best friend's stepdad tried to molest her 4 years ago.The man who is now her husband walked in on her fighting against her stepdad as he was trying... When they both went to her mother and told her, her mother divorced him. A year later, her stepdad was killed in an accident. The anniversary is tomorrow and her mother wants her to be there for her but my friend can't bring herself to grieve for a man she hates. What should she do?
2006-11-06 04:13:52 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
There were others who weren't as lucky to get out .... his own sisters ....
2006-11-06 04:22:47 · update #1
She should not be forced to go. The man was a predator and she could easily have been a victim. There might be others out there who weren't as lucky. I definitely would not go and if I was a mother, I would never even be involved in any way shape or form of this person's anniversary of his death. I am sorry, but there is no good molester in my eyes, and forcing her to go would be sending her the wrong message... I would contact a grandparent or aunt and stay with them while the mother has gone. Sounds like the mother needs to get her head straightened around.. this is her child... she owes nothing to this man.....least of all respect......
2006-11-06 04:20:44 · answer #1 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best friend needs to be honest about her feelings. I applaud her mother for divorcing her stepdad, because his actions explained what kind of monster he really is. Action speaks louder than words! Your best friend and her mother should sit down and talk about it. Good luck to you, your best friend, and her mother!
2006-11-06 12:20:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should be honest about her feelings. If her mother supported her enough to divorce him, then she should support her now. Your friend and mother need to talk. There may be a reason the mother wants her there.
2006-11-06 12:16:44 · answer #3 · answered by Confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want to say be there for her mother..but I dont get the mother even ASKING or EXPECTING her daughter to even care. I wouldnt go. I would tell my mother it hurts me too much to go and that I hope she feels better and understands.
2006-11-06 12:17:15 · answer #4 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU CAN'T GRIEVE IF YOU DON'T MISS. I SAY INSTEAD OF GRIEVING CELEBRATE, NOT THE DEATH OF HIM BUT THE FACT THAT IT WILL NOT HAPPEN TO HER OR ANYONE ELSE ANY MORE.............
2006-11-06 12:32:56 · answer #5 · answered by littlegoober75 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh that is sad. Just explain to her mom how she feels... hopefully she will understand. she should!
2006-11-06 12:24:00 · answer #6 · answered by JACKIE M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she probably wont want to go...i sure wouldnt
2006-11-06 12:18:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋