The issues are between my ex husband and me, not with our children. Although they are of age that they are considered adults, it has never been my intention to make them choose between us. There is enough crap in our family that sugar coating it is impossible. He is how he is. He will always be their father. But the lies that he continues to tell them is putting them in a position that they must choose him or me. I have never and would never put conditions on my love for eithr one of the girls. They are perfectly aware of the person their father is and they are desperately trying to continue a relationship with us both. He, however, is threatening to end all ties if they continue a relationship with me. What kind of parent puts conditions like that on their children, no matter what age they are?
2006-11-06 04:12:43 · 10 answers · asked by rivergirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As long as you show your daughters love and care, they will always be close to you, don't worry about your ex husband, he is being immature and stupid, in the end he will end up alone!
2006-11-06 04:21:29 · answer #1 · answered by wantstoknow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you say they "are perfectly aware" of his character. Since they are adults they can make their own decision with regard to this "choice". Which really is emotional blackmail. It shouldn't surprise you that he would stoop so low. Just be the mother that you have been and be there for them always. They will soon see thru him and cut him out of their lives on their own. His plan to hurt you thru them will backfire. That doesn't prevent you from calling them, emailing, mailing letters, visiting etc...
He's wrong and you are lucky that he is no longer your husband.
Bravo to you for getting out of that one.
2006-11-06 12:37:36 · answer #2 · answered by AVA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your children are considered adults, then they should realize that their father is being the biggest jerk ever and he should never ever say that about their other parent. Let the children make the choice, they will make the right decision.
2006-11-06 12:20:11 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ღαмαиdα♥ღ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like an a--. Why would he be threatened by his children having a relationship with their mother? That is just insane! Let them choose you (they will!)
2006-11-06 12:15:54 · answer #4 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the situation you find yourself is quite normal, in most divorces the children are played by one of the parents. i suggest you do what i did with my children when their mother and i split up. they knew that she did not speak the truth, and what she was trying to do to me in the divorce was not fair , or honest. it was so bad that she tried to prove in court that i had physically abused her. and used falsely obtained medical records to back her up, a Dr's letter blew that away. she threatened to end her relationship with our kids, but i always told them this, what she is saying she is saying out of anger and frustration, your relationship with her might change but it will all work out in time, and do not take sides in this situation, but know that we both love you and want the best for you. my kids took my advice and told their mother that if she wanted to end her relationship with them because of me, then that was her choice, but she would be the one that paid for it in the long run. when she found out from the children that they would not allow themselves to be used as pawns in her game it stopped and stopped fast .
2006-11-06 12:23:57 · answer #5 · answered by redsyoungstud 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your children are old enough to figure this man out. Very soon they will be tired of his garbage and choose to break ties with him.
2006-11-06 12:18:04 · answer #6 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if the kids are of age then they see right thru the crap and lies. and do not worry if they love you then they will see that. I guess there is a reason you are not with him so don't worry your kids will make the right decision.
2006-11-06 12:53:12 · answer #7 · answered by twinki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See His little game wont last for long and give some time the girls will see that he is a liar
2006-11-06 12:33:53 · answer #8 · answered by dncnlksh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An assshole parent!
2006-11-06 12:14:47 · answer #9 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you already know the answer to that one...a poor one. continue to take the high road.
2006-11-06 12:15:23 · answer #10 · answered by David B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋