When I was younger I always went after the guys that weren't right for me. The realtionships were intense and passionate and also unhealthy and troublesome. But in the bedroom, they were amazing. I grew up and realized what I wanted in a man and then found him. He is my best friend and extremely kind and loyal. We have been together 7 years. If we work at it can we keep the passion in our relationship indefinitely? If you have a similiar experience please share your opinion/story.
2006-11-06 04:07:50 · 12 answers · asked by Angela 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was a hula dancer and needless to say there wasn't ever a shortage of attractive men for me to date or who just wanted to be with me whether they were married or not. It taught me to look to the character of a man and also to think about what it was that I wanted from a relationship. I wanted someone who was honest, ambitious, funny, compassionate as well as passionate about me and life. I needed someone who knew how to keep his word and who would be loyal. I found that person and I spent 3 years dating him. We married and I found that no lover is ever as good as the one who loves you with every kiss and touch. Anything else is just going through the motions w/o a promise of respect and caring. I married that man and will be married 21 years this year. I have never regretted it. He is my best friend and their isn't anything that I can't talk with him about. Our sexual relationship is better now then it was in the beginning. There's something to be said for being "one" with a person; heart,body, and soul.
I wish you the same success.
2006-11-06 04:27:42 · answer #1 · answered by AVA 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen to the other person. If you can, have a clear understanding, empathy of what he/she is really saying. Enjoy and praise one another, appreciate each other and be glad for the strengths and weaknesses, all the good and the bad. Be glad for some problems... you learn problem solving skills, which is a GOOD thing. I have been married over 30 years, and I think it helped to keep busy working at the house, kids, work outside of the home, and each other. What I mean is that I didn't have idle time to get into trouble. Having little goals helped. I didn't have the luxury of having a lot of extra time on my hands. I am sure that I could have gotten into mischief ,( over spending, addictions to alcohol, prescriptions to medicines, tv, eating, talking on the phone, complaining all the time, etc.)
I think there are challenges given to us each and every day. My biggest challenge now is setting down boundaries, because when your are retired, you are faced with a lot of time together, and some not productive to having a good relationship. Good luck is finding a special person, and remember, it is not always finding the right spouse, but being a good, and loving spouse.
2006-11-06 12:25:03 · answer #2 · answered by KATHERINE 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been with my husband for 16yrs and married for 12yrs two months shy of 13! Yes you can! As long as the love grows! I truly love my husband! Yes we have had some HARD times but we work on them. You can keep the passion as long as you both work on it! As you should know! Didn't you say you have been together for 7 yrs! That is not exactly a short time if you ask me! If you've been able to do it for this long I'm sure you can hold out! Good Luck and have a good marriage!
2006-11-06 12:25:57 · answer #3 · answered by panda 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As someone with 25 years of marriage under her belt, the answer is yes! And you already know the secret - working at it. It's not just about passion, it's also about keeping the lines of communication open.
2006-11-06 12:45:38 · answer #4 · answered by Tammy B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When ever you feel the passion start to slip then grab a Cosmo magazine and try something new in it. Try date nights and romatic evenings. My husband comes home on his lunch hour and all of our kids are in school this year so that can lead to some exciting lunch hours. Or just have a picnic on his lunch hour.
2006-11-06 12:20:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men always came after me my whole life..first time marriage was more than 25 years.. Since hes your best friend that sounds good....why wait though? He shouldve proposed 6 yrs ago. Yes passion can be kept alive
2006-11-06 12:15:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely! I've been married for almost 42 years, and our relationship is stronger and more loving than ever. Why? I think respect for each other, trust, honesty, and talking through good stuff and bad has worked for us. Life hasn't always been easy for us, but we cherish each other and our bond. Passion doesn't disappear unless you allow it to happen.
2006-11-06 12:20:09 · answer #7 · answered by shellergal 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unles you give up,your passion for eachother can and will last a lifetime!
2006-11-06 12:10:41 · answer #8 · answered by gibbyguys 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think the passion will be there for as long as you guys keep it
2006-11-06 12:18:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am now married to a man i have known all my life.....we have been mates for years....but marriage to anyone is something that needs input from both sides....if you love each other then yeah it will work
2006-11-06 12:13:53 · answer #10 · answered by elshadon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋