This is sort of a an interesting situation. My ex-husband and his new wife are thinking about moving to Ireland and they want to know if I will let the kids visit them out there. I am a little concerned about them not letting the kids return, but the kids are 12 and 9 so I think it would be okay. My biggest concern is child support and health insurance. I had child support issues in the past. He spent a couple of nights in jail and has has been better since, but in Ireland it will be harder to regulate and make him pay if he doesn't want to. Also, Ireland apparently has public health care so he would have to get individual coverage for the kids (since I don't have group) which is not as good of coverage and there is also the issue of me having a harder time enforcing the divorce decree with him out of the country. What would you do? Does anybody know anything about Ireland as it pertaints to this situation?
2006-11-06 04:00:08 · 8 answers · asked by MJL613 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm not sure I would be willing to risk losing my children in the event that he decided to keep them. And Ireland is way too far away for me to send my kids.
Maybe you should tell your ex that it's in the kids best interest for him to remain close for the next 9 years.
2006-11-06 04:16:02 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can stop him from moving to Ireland, but I can tell you that you probably will have problems with child support and the health insurance. When he moves, he won't see the kids as much and he will get used to not being around them and eventually his new wife will probably give him what he wants and maybe kids as well and he will place your two kids on the back burner, I would just let him know that he is risking in losing their love and trust, but you can't stop him from going. Maybe asking him to open an account in each of their names just in case he doesn't send the money that you would have an access to and be able to help your kids.
2006-11-06 04:10:25 · answer #2 · answered by wantstoknow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you should do some research on inner country guidlines. I would make the kids wait until they were 17 or 18 to go and see their dad because it could happen that our laws don't work in that country. It seems that you are in a very sticky situation and you should look into everything, contact your lawyer and see what they say. I am going thru custody issues right now and the dad wants to take them out of the country but he was ordered to surrender his passport so just be very careful. Good Luck
2006-11-06 04:07:01 · answer #3 · answered by twinki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously if moving to Ireland is what he wants to do he will do it. As for letting the kids visit, I would say that they are too young to visit on their own unless you feel very secure in your ex's ability to take care of them. I would also let your ex know that seeing the kids will be dependent upon how things go. If he continues to provide as required by the divorce decree and makes and effort to stay in touch with the kids then maybe in a year they can visit him. He also needs to realize that this yearly visit is not a given and that he has to prove himself deserving of seeing the kids, plus all expenses are his to take care of.
2006-11-06 04:05:26 · answer #4 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm based on your question, I don't think you have a choice. Your divorced. If he has joint custody of the kids, he has a right to see them regardless of where he chooses to live.
Guess that you won't decide to get married again and move right.
Think about this fairly, if your that worried then release him from his parental rights and support. You have sole custody etc. Past issues aside here, maybe he did have problems paying support in the past but he is paying. He is no dead beat dad so to speak and they are his kids just as much as they are yours.
International custody law varies like it does from state to state, province to province. You cannot use the children and their support to force him to live where you want. No more then he can you.
Sounds like if he wants them to come and visit, is willing to pay the air fair what is the harm.
2006-11-06 04:56:25 · answer #5 · answered by SRC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for the pickle your in, I wish I could really help. My ex went to live in Germany with his new wife and our son. Our daughter lives with me...that in its self was hard, but we worked on everything very hard and made sure communication was open at all times. The hardest thing I had was that children under 14 are not aloud to fly unaccompanied overseas without an adult. In your case your kids would have to fly back and fourth with him. And since you know he cant really afford support I'm sure he isn't going to be able to afford plane tickets round trip for 3.....
2006-11-06 04:12:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-21 08:55:22 · answer #7 · answered by freudenburg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want him to go, I will be more than happy to send my ex-husband in his place.
2006-11-06 04:17:20 · answer #8 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋