would you buy someone a christmas present if they didn't get you one last year?

Question

personally i think presents should be bought because you WANT to buy them a present, and not based on whether or not you think you will get one back of someone in return. that would be more like a swap rather than a gift

Answer 1

I wouldn't

Answer 2

I agree with you, but at the same time you should know the intention of the other person. I had a friend (now ex-friend) and I was friends with her for years. Every year I gave her gifts for Christmas and her birthday, I always tried really hard to get her gifts that were personalised for her and something that she liked. We became distant and I was still getting her presents that I knew she'd love, and I got a soap/cream set from boots, and she got my sister a watch. I didn't get text messages or anything like that either.

Anyway the point I'm trying to make is, its purely a personal preference. Does the person deserve a present from you? If it makes you feel good to give the present, then give it? Personally I enjoy giving far more than getting ... except when the gifts aren't appreciated.

Merry Christmas

Answer 3

I agree with you! You've basically answered your own question so you obviously feel that it's better to do the right thing! I think it depends on what the person means to you! Do you cherish their friendship? Did they omit buying you a pressie last year because they're tight with money, or just disorganised? Think about the intent of the person and how much you value their friendship! This year some of my friends and I are just going to meet up for a nice lunch rather than buying each other presents because we're all trying to keep our spending down and it will mean a lot more to us to give each other our valuable time than just to buy a token present! You could try this tack!

Answer 4

I suppose, but then you dont want to embarrass the person by giving them something. They will feel bad for not getting you something. Over the past few years I've been caught out that way so I always buy a few spare presents that would suit most people, such as wine or nice chocolates etc and wrap them up so you've got something to give the person if they land round with an unexpected gift !

Answer 5

I've bought certain people presents for the past 8 years without getting one in return. Now and again i do but like you say, its a time for giving. I love seeing their faces when they open their gifts x x x

Answer 6

It is not about the gift, but what is inside your heart. You are right, it is not about buying gifts just to be buying, or getting gifts in return.

I started my shopping early this year, instead of waiting till Christmas, I saw a few friends with particular needs, and I went and saw to it that their needs were met. It was a wonderful feeling to be able to give before Christmas, and they so appreciated the need being met.

Christmas has lost it's meaning with all the commercialism, we should all step back and remember what Christmas stands for, and it is not about out spending the neighbors.

Answer 7

I agree with you. A gift is not dependant upon prior receipts. Yes, if the person is someone I care about or want to express something to, a gift is definitely in order. Gifts are not always tangible: sometimes the best gift is simply making eye contact and smiling and telling someone they are gonna be okay.

Answer 8

i might think of it somewhat is risk-free to declare, in no way purchase something for the residing house on your wifes' Christmas promises, until eventually you extremely comprehend for particular, she needs' it. a girl desires to value particular that element of the twelve months. it somewhat is an afternoon while she feels her husband will tutor how he feels approximately her, with something meant basically for her in my opinion. notwithstanding if it somewhat is a advantageous cologne, or a heavier physique spray, or a advantageous sweater, and matching pair of slacks. Or a chew of rings that ought to be along with her birthstone or a diamond. underclothes is stable too, if she's into female issues for presents. a modern-day cer- tificate to an afternoon spa may be welcome fir a undeniable take care of. complete with a pedicure and nail trimming to precise it off. a modern-day of stable Asti Spumonti, some chocolate roses, and a visit to a condominium warm bathtub, could be only what's mandatory to spark up the trip for her and you besides. Romance and the Spirit of Christmas, many times flow hand in hand, this time of twelve months. So save that throughout suggestions, once you opt for the perfect present she'll consistently bear in mind.

Answer 9

if it was someone i'd known that well, then yeah! likewise, last year i bought presents for one of my university lecturers and although she didn't buy me anything, she complimented me and said thank you. and in them saying thank you to me shows how considerate they are as people and why they deserved those gifts in the first place. if i buy a present for someone and as long as they say thank you to me, then i wouldn't mind at all if they didn't get me anything. besides, some of the people i know have no idea what type of things i like and so i purchase them myself.

i don't worry that much about not getting a present from people of whom i bought presents for. a thank you from them is good enough for me.

Answer 10

Yes, I get a joy out of giving to others. I don't care if I don't recieve anything. That is not what Christmas is about. Making people feel good is a great present in itself!

Answer 11

Well last year i brought my sister a gift and her son , and she gave me nothing , i was hurt because she talked about how she gave other people gifts (nice gifts) but din't even give my 2yr old a gift, so this year I'm not getting her a drink of water. if she wants to give something go ahead, cause that was low.