I don't know for sure if my 16 yr old daughter is having sex,should I put her on birth control to be safe?

Answer 1

Shes old enough to make the decision for herself, just talk to her about it!

Answer 2

All I can say is, even putting her on the pill is no guarantee that she'll actually take it day to day at the right times. Even as an adult I've had a few scares because I just plain forgot to take them for a couple days. My mother always thought I was having sex at 15, and I wasn't. But she didn't exactly have the best bed-side manner if you know what I mean. So if you have a good relationship with her, the talking will be a lot easier. God be with you, it's a tough time for her as much as you.

Answer 3

Hello there. First of all I have to say that it really makes me sad to think that you can not sit down with your daughter and ask her if she needs to be on birth control. It is sad also that evidently she does not feel comfortable coming to you and telling you that she needs birth control.
Maybe I am expecting too much but this is the way it was handled with both of my daughters.
I do not believe that you should "put" your daughter on any medication that she does not need, especially not one with all the possible side effects that birth control has.
Sit down and have a very non-judgemental talk with your daughter. Tell her that you love her and that you are not judging her, that she is not in trouble, tell her you only want to help. She should respond in kind and tell you truthfully whether or not she needs the medication.
Have a heart to heart talk with her, it is the best way to handle it.
Love and Blessings
Lady T~

Answer 4

Talk with your daughter - ask her if she's having sex. It may not be the most comfortable conversation for either of you, but ...

If she's having sex, you need to discuss what, if anything she's doing for herself to keep herself safe from STDs and well as pregnancy. There is no fool-proof birth control, except abstinence, and many birth control methods do not protect from STDs. If she's had unprotected sex, you may want to take her to the doctor for tests.

If she's not having sex, be grateful and try to keep the communication lines open between you.

Answer 5

Yes Its always better to safe than sorry,,, I was on birth control way before I ever needed it and so my mom told me to stop taking it and as soon as I was off I got pregant.. So I think its good to have in case of accidents or if she ever gets taken advantage of by some stupid boy .. If she is having sex the best thing you can do is not to judge her cause it will push her farther away, and love her through it I wish my mom did that for me and if she would have It probabley would have been alot easier for my to take her advice..

Answer 6

Talk To Her!! And give her all the information you know for her to be prepared and birth control isnt a bad idea. I started at 16 and im happy i did. my mom was very open with me and i with her. Just keep the communication open with her and if shes doing it definetly put her on birth control. and dont think your praising the behavior by getting it for her, you just want the best for your kid and thats not having a baby at 16.

Answer 7

At 16 she is old enough to participate in her own medical decisions. You could go together to speak to a doctor about the risks and benefits about different forms of birth control. Offer to pay for it if you think that is appropriate.

And I would tell her that two forms of birth control are better than one, and that three are better than two. Because pills are forgotten and condoms break. Condoms are a must because of STDs though.

Answer 8

You need to talk to her. Go out for a girl's day and get your nails and hair done, go out for lunch and have a good talk. Tell her that you are concerned about the possibility that she is having unprotected sex and tell her that if she is that you want to take her to the doctor for an exam and to get her on birth control. Also make sure that she knows that the pill will not protect against STDs so she should also use condoms and if her b/f refuses to use them then he does not respect her and she needs to dump him.

Answer 9

question: do you mind her having sex? if you don't want her to, then don't put her on the pill. that tells her that it's ok, and that she doesn't have to take responsibility doing something that can potentially alter her life, better or worse. (i'm 16, if my mom thought i was having sex and put me on the pill "just to be safe", that's DEFINATELY the message i would get from that) ytou don't want her to have sex, tell her so. and also tell her of std risk and that you can't tell if someone has an std just by looking at them. and tell her about the fact she could get pregnant. She thinks she can do just what she want's, she's going to have to pay for it, along with the potential child she may get from just living irresponsably.

But if you don't mind at all that she's having sex, put her on the pill, and show her that you don't care. and if something does happen, (the pill is NOT 100% reliable) she will blame you.

Answer 10

Good afternoon.

Personal i think that as a parent you should protect your child. A young 16 yr old girl is going to be interested in boys.

But before you put her on the pill please talk to your daughter about sex and protecting her self.
The pill isn't a quick fix for someone her age.
she also needs to know about ST D's and protecting her self form those as well.


Be open and be approachable to her. Let her know that she can come to you with anything.

Best of luck

Answer 11

Yes, sit down and discuss with her that you are not ready to be a grandparent, how it may interfere with r relationship, how the pill is to prevent unwanted pregnancy,and you may need to oversee her take the pill.. because of her needing to finish school, needing to mature more without ruining her life as she knows it....Tellher you don't want her to think you are giving her permission to have sex, You should know who she is with all times anyway and where and when........My 15-16 year old only got to go when there was a group of friends for a show, eating out, a play etc........keep in touch with other parents...If daughter says she want to go to kathys house after school tell her it is ok, and besides you have to talk to Kathys mom about something and you will call her. If she looks shocked, then she wasn't going to Kathys. Teenagers are a pain and you need to keep 1 step ahead of them...It is stressful.going through same thing...She needs to baby sit someones baby 6mo to 1 year to see what it is like ..............Try and talk to someone who is 20 years old now and they will tell you how much they lied to parents..