i have a daughter who has a b.f. i dont know him or what they do when they go out. help pls.?

Question

can my daughter be pregnant or have any infections?

Answer 1

It's called be a responsible parent. Find these things out.

Answer 2

You don't give enough info to get a good answer here. Number 1, how old is your daughter? If she is over 18 there isn't much you can do. Is she pregnant? Well, Is she having UNPROTECTED sex? Any infections? Again UNPROTECTED sex.
YOU need to put you foot down. You MUST meet this boyfriend is first and foremost. Then you have to set some rules. If she is under 18 she'll have to abide by these rules. IF she wants to see this guy again anyway. Now IF and this is IF she is over 18 and is still at home you can still set some rules in place. And if she decides NOT to follow them, well this might be a little hard but there is the door. DON'T come back. This is tough but your house your rules. Then again you can have someone have a little heart to heart talk with this guy. Speaking of which How OLD is he?

Answer 3

Why would you let her go out with someone you don't know or somewhere you don't know doing something you don't know about? I assume since you are asking this question she is under 17 and lives with you. Then you need to get hold of the situation and meet this guy. Invite him over for dinner, secondly don't let her go anywhere they would be alone and could do anything. Thirdly, she should have a curfew and check in with you and if you think she's lying then you should go to where she's suppose to be and make sure that's where she is. If not ground her butt! However, if she is over 17, then you should have already had the talk about protection and diseases and she has to live her life now. You can't do anything about anything after 17years old accept give loving advice in a nice way.

Answer 4

One thing you don't want to do is go snooping around to see if she is....I've heard of people doing that and all I've seen is terrible things.

Talk to her in a caring manner and tell her about the dangers that are out there. Have a good parent daughter conversation. Take her to a restaraunt or for coffee or something. Take her out shopping while you talk to her. Make sure she knows you care. Just don't sit her down on the couch to talk to her right after you find out something bad happened. That is THE worst time to act. Act now, in advance. And don't do it in an angry way. You must show that you care about her. And be fluent on what you speak about. Perhaps do a little studying yourself on some statistics websites or something. Do a little reading up on the subject from recent material. If you can find stuff like that in fashion magazines (its rare) that would appeal to her, get it there. There's tons of stuff on the internet that would cover this sort of thing. There's nothign worse than a parent instructing thier kid on something they themselves dont know anythng about. Beyond that, not much is in your control other than to tell her to break up with him but I sooooo do not recommend that. I still have a grudge against one of my parents for trying to do the same thing and they know it. That was a very long time ago. Almost 10 years.

Either way, in the end you can't prevent her from making her decisions and force will only cause destruction and pain. She will respect you tons more if you talk to her. I still wish my parents did. I'm 25 now and they never once talked to me about anything concerning this sort of thing....probably because they were afraid. I don't know. Just talk to your daughter. You are obviously a caring enough parent to seek advice...

Answer 5

You should sit down and talk to your daughter. Just a shot in the dark, because you didn't really elaborate, but it seems like you two don't have much communication going on between you. That happens sometimes, but even if she won't talk to you, you should be sure that she does have a responsible adult that she feels comfortable with and that you trust for her to confide in. Pregnancy and infections are big concerns and there are a lot more things out in the world too. Try to provide support for your daughter. Accept that sometimes you won't be the person she comes to for that support, but be sure that the supports are in place whether she realizes she needs them or not.

Answer 6

How old is she, pregnancy and std's are always possible. You will never know exactly what she does but if you establish good two way communication and LISTEN to what your daughter has to say you'll have a better idea. Perhaps invite the young man over for dinner etc. Even parents who think they know everything about their son/daughter really only know what their sons/daughters want them to know.

Answer 7

I'm dreading this exact same situation. I've got about 10yrs up my sleeve I think. Perhaps you can try and do some activities together such as go to a sports game or something that he would be interested in. If it's a small group of people it won't be so intimidating and you can then ask others in the group what they thought of the b.f.

Good luck!

Answer 8

You sound like my mother, but you need to talk to your daughter. Try to be like her best friend, tell her that she can count on you on anything that is bothering her or if she has questions about anything. You should also talk to your daughter about sex, if you haven't. It could be hard for a parent to talk about that subject but it's better she hears it from you than from someone else. Tell her to be real careful of who she likes and you need to find out if she has a boyfriend or not. I have a great relationship with my mom and I can basically tell her anything that is bothering me. She worries so much about me as any mother should worry about her daughter.

Answer 9

my mom and I have talked about when I was a teen and she allowed me to go out and stuff... if you trust her, then just trust that she's doing the right thing. If you don't trust her, then know more, make her tell you where she'll be, what she's doing.. and make her check in regularly. If she is sexually active or you think she might be, get her to a gyno, get tested, and put her on birth control or buy her some. If she wants to have sex, she is going to... so better safe than sorry.

Answer 10

First of all, how old is she. It is never a good idea to let a girl, or boy date someone without getting to know them or their family. Invite him and his parents over for dinner sometime. If you think that they are having sex you need to sit down with her and talk about birth control options...especially condoms. Just telling her not to have sex is not going to work. Just make sure that she has an open line of communication with you so she can come to you if she has questions.

Answer 11

Your daughter has a bf and you don't know who he is or where they go / what they do!?! It's called being a responsible parent...if you don't know the answers to these questions, then I suggest you start asking them. Who / What / Where / Who is goning to be there...etc. You can't just let her run wild or yes she can get pregnant / infections...be exposed to drugs / alcohol...etc!