Why is she so shallow??

Question

right my mother is how u say incredibly shallow and a control FREAK, just recently i stared seeing a guy from college who is lets say on the big side, hes lovely thou and v respectful, if a little clingy. I see him everyday, but kept it secret from the shedevil, however, she sent my brother and cousin out to spy on me and when she got the news back, shok, horror she learnt that he was a fat man and did fat things like u know eat!! shes driving me crazy, she told me i was a **** and easy, not picky and i suld have picked a nice looking boy she also hates that he works in a supermarket. i knew a guy who was a bum last year and had no respect 4 me bt she was fine with him cos as she put it "hes ok but his ears are too big" arg

Answer 1

Funny you should say this. When i took my new man. now my husband, to see my parents four years ago - afterwards my mother said 'He's very overweight'. I felt sad that she was so shallow as to just see the big tummy, and not the man.

Your mother doesnt sound very nice. I dont know how old you are, but if i were you i would tell her calmly 'I like him, please don't criticise - you dont know him'

Or, if you feel like being bitchy, take him home and when he's gone and she starts saying how he's fat, or he's this or he's that...... you can say 'Do you know when i showed him out, he said that he was surprised you are so plain as you have such a pretty daughter!'

Answer 2

It sounds like she is the teenager and you are the adult. What you should say to her when she makes another remark, is, why are you so shallow and bitter and twisted, Say it with a serious face, watch her be dumbstruck for words. Deep down she MUST know she is like that, but wow, at such an older age you would think she would try and be kicking that sort of opinoin outta you not the other way round. Tape her when she goes on play it back to her, and say "i showed it to my bfriend, " she what colour she goes.

Tell her from an 18 yr old in london, she needs to get a grip and to stop being so judgemental, or one day, she will have an accident and people would rather look at a back end of a bus than her sorry ars!!

Answer 3

she sounds very bitter and twisted to me....she's jealous of your happiness...she's getting old and your still young...don't let her snotty remarks hurt you...if you like this lad then stay with him, and if you catch your bro and cousin spying on you again, slap the pair of them, it's none of their business, and tell that nasty so called mother of yours that your happy and don't care what she thinks...no parent should call their child names like that...i find that disgusting ...never ever take him home to meet her, she will make him feel terrible...this lad sounds lovely...just because he works in a supermarket don't make him a bad person, and just because he is slightly overweight don't make him bad either he's go a job and he's good to you, that's whats important...stay with this lad...don't let anyone get to you about his weight, if this lad is good to you them F your mums opinion.....she will end up being a sad and lonely old lady if she continues to treat her kids like that...what goes round comes round my dear...be happy with your fella..he sounds lovely...rise above her ugly mouth remarks, she's scum...be happy and dontlet that nasty little creature drag you down to her level...you are worth a million of her....

Answer 4

Tell her to mind her business and keep her trap shut if she cant say anything positive. Also, let her know SHE doesnt have to like the guys you choose to date YOU do.

Answer 5

Who know why she's so shallow?
Just as long as you don't take after her, you should think yourself lucky. Good luck with her, and please don't stop seeing this lovely guy just because of her x

Answer 6

all mums are like that

Answer 7

id kill her