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2006-11-06 03:18:29
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answer #1
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answered by Christabelle 6
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Been writing long?
Geez, you need a lot more information before anyone will be able to give any advice:
1. Is the father a drug dealer?
2. Is he a stripper?
3. Has he been convicted of child molestation?
4. Is he gay?
5. Is he a cross-dresser?
6. Is he NOT their natural father?
Give details and people can help with your dilemma.
Here is a similar question for YOU that I would like YOu to answer for ME:
"What should I do about her after the letter arrived?"
2006-11-06 11:23:03
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answer #2
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answered by Mr. Curious 6
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It really depends on how old the children are. Let it go is my advice. When the children get older, they'll understand EVERYTHING -- I know this from experience. When I was divorced from my son's father, my son told me, "I can't wait til I'm fourteen because then I don't even have to come and visit you. I can just live with dad all the time." Ironically, when he turned 15, he left his dad's house and now lives with me! He visits his dad sometimes once a month. Kids aren't stupid; just give them time to figure things out on their own - they'll appreciate THAT and the fact that you never really talked "bad" about the other parent.
2006-11-06 11:21:49
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answered by teacherhelper 6
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My mom let me grow up and love my father as a child should she never told me why the got divorce other than they didnt work out. She made it clear to me and my sisters that it wasnt our faults. We got to grow up with two loving parents she was friendly to him when ever they had to be together. When I got older I learned the truth and was mad at my dad for what he did to her but I am still happy to have those memories of him from my childhood. So dont tell them its between you two, just love your children and try hard to big a good sport for them when you must be in each others company.
2006-11-06 11:41:06
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answered by d2347 2
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I think you should always tell your children the truth......I believe if they are old enough to ask the question they are old enough to receive the answer........
Now if you are saying should you give the children your opinion of their father.....I would say NO! The children can make decisions about their father and his character. You should never talk bad about children's parents to them. After all you are talking about a part of "who they are" and many times children hear bad things about their parents and place it upon themselvess........."If dad is this way or that so am I" .......Please don't let you children feel that way about themself.....
I guess my best advice is if your children ask a question answer it honestly....Without bias......If they don't ask......keep quiet and let them draw their own conclusions.
2006-11-06 11:28:48
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answered by Littlebit 6
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As long as your children will not be alienated from their father by learning the truth. I know many kids who have fathers that are not that active in their lives but they are still their hero's.
2006-11-06 11:21:04
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answered by crazylegs 7
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You need to tell them the truth.., or maybe you should just do whats best for them. than hurting them.., Fellow your heart. theres always going to be questions in your mind even when you get all these answers that even one may be enough but simply it wont be. I really hope you find many reasons to tell them the truth or the best one to conquer them all is.. To keep it from them.. all of this really relies on you.. its your children. its your Descion that matters the most.
2006-11-06 11:20:58
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answer #7
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answered by Jewelz 2
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There's really not enough information there to get at your meaning. However, you should always tell your children the truth, but do so in such a way that you don't "bad mouth" their father. They will come to the realizations of his character on their own.
2006-11-06 11:18:55
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answered by sassybree1979 5
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It depends on their age and whether you think the are mature enough to handle the truth. Some kids need to know and other don't .It also depends on if it will help or hurt the situation .
2006-11-06 11:19:22
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answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7
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Why do divorcing, divorced, or fighting parents always want the kids involved. This is between YOU two, not them. Try to keep them out of it as much as possible. Sound's like your already adding turmoil to their lives as it is.
2006-11-06 11:20:11
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answered by Common Sense 5
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I don't understand your question, but your children should always be told the truth, but depending upon their age you may have to simplify it to a level they will more easily understand.
2006-11-06 11:19:18
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answer #11
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answered by Steven S 3
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