what do i do when my parents are fighting and my dog is getting taken away??!?

Question

my parents are divorced, and so my dad got a girlfriend.hes a truckdriver and he was lonely on the road, so he got a cute dog. i love this dog so much.anyway, my mom wanted my dad back and she was jealous so they fought and finally he came back. they fight more and more, and my dad expects me to do something about it, but i cant. my mom over rules me. but today i found out that my dad was giving his cute dog to my stupid uncle, and every dog he got got hit by a car and died. i cried, and my mom said to my dad'why wont you get rid of your self instead!?' and now im ease dropping on what they are saying, and it is bad. i need help. im freakin out, my mom thinks that that dog is his ex girlfriends, and she thinks all this crap. she even broke my dads phone because she thought that ex gf bought it. but... im scared, and my dad threatened suicide... my mom threaten to call the police... i dont know. please help me.

Answer 1

Try and find someone who they will both listen to .Someone older who knows the situation to talk to them. One time when my grandparents were fighting my mother was their referee and she managed to calm them both down . Thats what you need. Good luck!

Answer 2

This is a very serious situation and I think you need outside help and counseling.

First thing is to try to sit your parents down together and tell them you are hurt and upset and they are ripping your life apart because you love them both. Discuss their fighting and jealous rages and how it affects your well being because their union is all about YOU and you are the important one in this difficult domestic situation.

Tell them you love the little dog and ask them to please let you keep the dog and take care of the dog. However, the dog may be better off if you take it to the Humane Society and get it out of the house because one of your parents may take their rage out on the dog.

If this does not work, then I suggest your go to a guidance counselor or teacher in your school. Tell the teacher what is going on in your home and that you are scared and upset. Teachers are professionals and they are taught how to deal with these situations and help their students. Teachers are also bound by the law to report domestic issues that may harm their students and they are given training how to help a student that is in need.

If you do not get any response from the school's staff or your parents then you can call Child Protective Services in your town and they will help you.

You may have to remove yourself from the home and go to live with an aunt or grandparent because sometimes parents go on these crazy rampages due to jealousy and pent up frustrations and it can end in tragedy; so get out if you feel threatened or you feel someone is going to do physical harm to someone else.

Every State has a Child Protective Services division. I am using Texas as an example because I am familiar with the Texas system.

http://www.dfps.state.tx.us/Child_Protection/About_Child_Protective_Services/

Answer 3

I'm very sorry to hear that you are going through this very stressful situation. I know you love the both of your parents and its hard.I understand how you feel about the dog but thats really not important at all.

i'm speaking from experience when i say i think it would be much more productive,beneficial, smart, if you got your mom help. sounds like She needs it, she is very hurt too i'm sure. What you need to do is work on getting your mom to move on with her life and don't worry about what your dad is doing. If he wanted her he'd be with her right? She needs to realize that the earth don't revovle around him and there are other importnat things in life besides him, like you her son, like herself and her sanity, her peace of mind. Peace is very important if she don't find peace then it can drive her crazy. It'll be like all she does is living her life to try to get him back. Tell your mom this let her know that you want her to be happy & sane. Ask her to move on and don't worry about dad,say i know how much u love him mom but he don't love you the way you love him mom. How long is it gonna take you to realize your worth mom? Mom you are worth so much plz live your life cause life is short mom. She needs to make new friends i think and she needs to be out the house doing things that are fun and recreational.
Good Luck.
PS becareful who you go to speak to because people can call Child protective services and make your moms life even worse.

Answer 4

WoW! Your having a rough time of it aren't you? Maybe the police is the best thing for all of you. That would lead to counselling. That would be the best thing, try to get counselling if not for all of you, then just for yourself. They will be able to help you deal with these things better, or get you out. I know getting out sounds drastic, but maybe, and that's a BIG maybe, if they see they will both lose you if they continue, they will work out some kind of compromise. Doing nothing or procrastinating too long could be disasterous. Get help now.

Answer 5

let your mom and dad fight it out - its not your problem... as far as the dog goes, if your mother already has it in her head that the dog is the x-girlfriends then you probably wont be able to talk her into letting you keep it ( even though the dog doesnt care who it belong to, you mom does..) i understand your concern for the dog if your uncle has a bad history of caring for animals - maybe he shouldnt have the dog either, but again probably not up to you.
Tell your parents to leave you out of their problems.. you have your own life to deal with... hopefully you will learn valuable lessons from their bad relationship

Answer 6

Your parents should not be putting you in the middle of this mess. Since they are treating you like an adult, talk to them like an adult. Tell them that you think they should all go to counseling, together-- as a family. You need to be able to stop worrying about adult stuff and spend your time having fun and worrying about your own age group issues!

Answer 7

Get help, you should not be dragged into this. Your parents don'e seem to have a healthy relationship. If you feel that there is danger please call the police.