Self Esteem?

Question

I have a really really low self esteem. i just basically hate myself. and ppl dont really help i get called fat, i get called ugly, i want to feel good about myself.
if it helps at all im almost 16, 5'1, 115pounds, i have glasses and contacts, shoulder length auburn hair, and brown eyes

the auburn isnt natural. its dyed, im a natural brunette

Answer 1

first of all sweaty, your to young to be fellin like that,and u should never care about what people think of u, usually when people talk about u its because they're not happy about somethin thats going on with theirself, secondly u are not fat babygirl 115lbs is not fat at all u wouldnt imagine how many people would do anything to be that size,plus noone can make u pretty but u,if u dont like ur hair a certain way just simlply change it, if u don't like the clothes u have get a whole new wordrobe and if you hate ur ways get a different style,and start doing things get more active"you always feel better when u get out more" go to the movies and start doing things for ur self U ONLY LIVE ONCE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

When teenagers call other teenagers fat or ugly - it is usually because they are feeling bad themselves. Try not to take it to heart as it will turn you bitter. It is tough being a teenager and very few have an easy ride. You are learning resilience. You are probably very lovely but just don't know it yet. Your time will come. Don't hate yourself - you will only generate negative vibes which others will pick up on. Instead - use your energy tp do the things that make you feel happy and healthy. Listen to good music. Exercise. Make healthy food choices. Study hard. Play fair. Be nice to everyone - including those who are not so nice to you. At the end of the day - good looks don't count for much. The playing field becomes more even with the passing years. It's the person you are inside that will make all the difference to the kind of life you make for yourself - not your looks. YOU are the most important person in YOUR life. Don't rely on others to approve of the way you look. Approve of yourself. Learn to love the skin you're in.

Answer 3

People call u fat and ugly? First of all, don't let people walk all over you. Stand up straight, look people in the eye when you talk to them. Also maybe it would help to know that this is how you will feel sometimes since you are at that age, cuz i felt just like you when i was almost 16, its an adolecence thing sometimes. Well let me just say that im not a therepist, and i don't have the exact correct things to say, but because of your position in life right now, the circumstances are making you a humble person, and that is more beautiful than any perfect face. Because your personality at the end of all of this crap is really what people will learn to appreciate. They don't know it now, and thats because they need to catch up with you and get on your level, which is way higher than theirs. So just keep on goin, and press on, you will make it through, dont give up or give in, ok? You'll be alright :)

Answer 4

Don't let anyone define you. And where did anyone come up with 5'1" and 115lbs being fat. I don't know your frame structure but at your height and even with a small frame, that is a great weight. You may not be Twiggy ( yes I show my age) but you are not fat!

At your age and 5'2", I wore the glasses, contacts, and weighted a little more than you. I wasn't part of the "in-click" cheerleaders, etc. but I had my friends. I took pride in my attributes and didn't let them determine who or what I was going to be. Twenty years later, it didn't matter. Do something for you that makes you feel good. It does get better.

Answer 5

The best way to build self esteem is friends. There are always going to be people that are gonna make fun of you. One good friend can go a long way to help you feel better about yourself. If you dont feel like you have that one good friend, get out there and join a team or club. The more people you meet the more confidence you will have. And with confidence comes friends and self esteem.

Answer 6

Sam, throughout your life you will find that there are ppl out there who are just REAL BIG JERKS. I went through some of what you are feeling right now...I am 35 years old now, but when I was 16...I was a total nerd. I had one friend in high school, I stayed to myself, I was a bookworm, and I always got picked on, called names, made fun of, etc. Please realize, Miss Lady, that the idiots who are making all of these negative remarks to you or about you are just trying to make themselves feel better by putting you down. They need to feel like there is someone worse off or that there is someone who is a much worse person than they are just so they can feel like they are better than everyone else or at the top of the heap.

Miss Lady, do NOT let them get to you. I was that skinny girl with glasses who everyone picked on. Have faith in knowing that we "nerds" or, we "targets" ('cause everyone likes to pick on us), are the ones who grow up to be the HOTTEST people on the planet. All the ppl who used to make fun of me look run down & beat up now. They all peaked in high school. They all looked soooo good and thought they were the **** back then.

But now, when I see them in a store/getting gas/taking their kids to the same school as mine go to, they look TERRIBLE. They're the ones who look all jacked up. They were in their prime back in the day, but now their times have passed. They see me & say, "Dang, girl!! You look GOOD!!! I never thought you would have turned out this way!!!" I take those compliments gladly.

So you see, this period you are going through right now is just that...a small period of time where you are growing, your body is adjusting & getting ready to be fabulous. Find comfort in knowing that in the end...all those ppl who are making fun of you now....when they hit 25, 30, or 35---they will look like they are 55. You, on the other hand, are a late bloomer and will still look FABULOUS at 25, 30, 35---heck, even 55!!!

So don't sweat the small stuff....work with what God & your mama gave ya'. 'Cause big changes are right around the corner for ya'. I hope this helps. If you need anything else, I have an e-mail...With warmest wishes & highest regards for the late bloomers.....Toni....Blessed be!!

Answer 7

I know what you mean.
Do stuff that you enjoy. That helps me feel better, and also running it give me a chance to clear my head and gets the blood pumping.
You should stand up to those mean people also
If those people are your friends I would go get some new ones.
Just don't because they call you ugly or fat doesn't mean it's true.

Answer 8

YOU AIN'T FAT!!!! People envy you because you are slim, damn I wish I weighted 115 pounds. Don't put yourself down, there is plenty of people out there who wish they were slim. Think as yourself as a healthy person and those people will one day wish they were in your shoes.REMEMBER, the pretty one always wishes she has what the ugly one has. That means they don't like you because you have something that they don't have. There is no girl that is ugly in this world. I know how you feel like because I have been there too.

Answer 9

it is the way YOU feel...
i think anyone can be beautiful if they feel good about themselves
here's what i suggest:
if you're a couch potato, get off the couch and do something you enjoy
watch how others dress and put on makeup (go for cute not slutty), it doesn't help if you're one of those people who never wash their clothes
change your facial expression if you look sad all the time...instead putting on a happy face
trust me, once you put on a happy face you'll start to feel good about yourself
how much you weight or how pretty your face is don't really matter
and finally, be nice to people and people will treat you nicely and you'll feel good

Answer 10

Self esteem is something that is within yourslef and affected by your environment. To build your self-esteem, do a survey on what things you dont like about yourself. Evaluate these...are these things you truly dont like about yourself or things that your thoughts are influenced by the environment? If they are truly things you dont like about yourself, come up with a realistic plan to changes these items. You have to be happy with yourself and then the environmental and outside influences will impact upon you less.