To go to my house and pick him up. I didn't know what else to do. He tries to skip school almost every day. And I finally had to go to work, so I got to work, picked up my phone, and called the school. I told them what is going on. I am a single mom and I already have my hands full. It is about a million times harder when I constantly have to beg my kid to do homework, get up in the morning, go to bed on time, etc.
But I still feel guilty. I keep thinking about him being hauled to school by the police and it makes me sad. Did I do the right thing?
2006-11-06 03:02:27 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The police officer works for the school. I did not call the police department and bother them, I called the school, and this is how I was advised by the administration at the school.
2006-11-06 03:18:28 · update #1
Tough love may hurt you, but it'll certainly help your son.
Hats off to you.
2006-11-06 12:16:14 · answer #1 · answered by Ceajae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You absolutely did the right thing and stop feeling guilty about it. You may have to go to the distrust court and file a "child in need of services report." He'll have to report to a probation officer. The school will do it if you don't so you do it...because if not it makes you look like you don't care and are neglectful and they'll haul his azz away if he breaks with them.
This is tough love and you must be firm and consistent about it. Single mothers really have a tough time of it and the courts already know this so they are on your side mom. Go for it.
2006-11-06 03:08:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think it was ok. Those kids can drive you crazy for sure. Have you tried to actually talk to him about it? Is there some reason why he is avoiding school? You need to find a time when he will most open up to you. Have you tried to find something that motivates him? Is he in any recreational classes? Some schools have mentor programs that work really well where an adult will come to his school and hang out with him for a bit. How about getting him a Mentor through Big Brothers and Sisters? You can always talk to the school counselor as well for options. You need to find something to get that motivation going.
2006-11-06 03:11:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing.. He will learn when he is on his own that if you didnt force him to go to school he would be nowhere. he is just trying to get off the easy way, and if he keeps doing that, he will be a bagger or a cashier for the rest of his life.. Not saying anything is wrong with that, if you choose to make that your life. But if you don't choose that life, and its all you can do cause you didnt graduate or whatever, then you lose in the long run. Mom, you did the right thing and he will thank you one day. Maybe not today or next week or year.. but you will get a thank you..
2006-11-06 03:07:01 · answer #4 · answered by sshhmmee2000 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you did the right thing. Not going to school when your 15 is against the law and if you don't follow the laws you will have to pay for it. I don't think you should feel bad about what you did if anything feel proud of what you did. Better you take action now and teach him to do right now before he messes up big time and ends up sitting in some prison and you feel you failed as a mom.
2006-11-06 03:08:11 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple answer yes, if you have spolied him or he is use to getting his own way hen in years to come he is going to end up in prison or worse still be able to do nothing but look for mummy to bail him out, the answer here is tough love, he should know that life is not easy and full of massive hurdles and without an education he will be a no body, he will never fall out with you and if he says it he wont mean it, and most of all you have to live your life too. am a single dad of two girls and a son, but tough love will teach them that my life and there is are seperate, they know i would do anything for them but they to have to respect my life and if i did not work then they would not eat healthy, and do the fun things my oldest is now 16 years old and is starting college next term but she also raised her little brother at 9 years old.
i feel for you lady and wish you all the best
2006-11-06 03:19:02 · answer #6 · answered by azmondo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the only thing you could do. HE needs an education and in most states, IF the parent does not make their underage child attend school, you can be arrested for it.
You dont want or need that so yes, you did do the right thing. As hard as it is on us, tough love sometimes works miracles.
2006-11-06 03:06:42 · answer #7 · answered by kimmi_35 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If all else fails, send him to boot camp for kids. That'll straighten his @$$ out in a heart beat. They actually do turn alot of bad kids around. You could threaten to put him into special ed classes to get him moving. Hopefully his friends don't have him involved in drugs. Thats usually a big sign of neglegance towards education. And if you do still have suspicions, buy a home use drug testing kit. I know lots of peers who have been in his shoes and that type of attitude usually stems from smoking alot of pot, he may have a girlfriend distracting him, or just trying to be a hard@$$ in front of his "boys". Get him some help.
2006-11-06 03:26:38 · answer #8 · answered by VDub 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he does need his education so it was right. But have you ever bothered to talk with him about why he doesn't want to go to school and why he is acting out? You never know what could be running through his mind he is a teenager with lots of things going on in his life.
2006-11-06 03:05:56 · answer #9 · answered by Nikki C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie you are not a lone in this case. My brat sister inlaws never wanted to get up and go to school at all. Their mother never gave them the encourgement to go to school. Finally the school called threated the mother to be put into jail and the kids would be taken and put into foster care. So yes I prais you b./c you care enough about your son to want him to go to school. Just offer him more encourgement about going to school. I am sure you do fill guilty but maybe he will thank you later for showing him you care enough about him.
Keep your chin up and good luck
2006-11-06 04:05:36 · answer #10 · answered by Sarah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you sure did do the right thing. You might also inform your son that if his behavior keeps up they will put him in a home for difficult children.
Maybe a counsler will be able to help you find out why his behavior is the way it is . Could it be his friends or is something bothering him
2006-11-06 03:06:12 · answer #11 · answered by mamayer6 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋