i have this bf and i really like him but he acts like he likes my cousin and not me. but he tells everyone that he likes me and not her what should i do should i tell him that i am gettin jealous? or tell him that it is me or her?his friend dosent even know how to help so if you can help me then it will mean alot to me.
2006-11-06 03:00:42 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If you find out it is her he's interested in, make him choose but don't say "her or me". Here's how you do it.
Start "losing interest" in him....start making it noticeable that you might be interested in one of his friends, or talk to one of your friends to set this up. Make it appear in front of him that you are losing interest in him and gaining interest in someone else. See if you can get 1 of your friends to play along...that would be safest.
Theres only 2 ways he can react. He'll either go for your cousin, if indeed he even likes her. or he will get jealous and be protective of you...and come back to you. Thing is you won't be able to keep him from going to your cousin if he does like her but if i know guys and if i know myself, I will be twice as likely to act out of jealousy and go back after you. See you are his "territory" so to speak, in guy language, and once he sees it being invaded on, he will most likely drop everything to protect what he has. Only don't be too flirtatious so as to cause him to get very angry. Just a bit of interest in someone else should spark his jealousy. But don't make him choose by telling him. I have a rule for myself........I'm never the first one to fall in love....never. This way I have a lot more control to do these sorts of things in order to protect what I really want. It will be very hard if you are already in love with him.
Some guys won't react because of fear of confrontation. If this is your man, observe him out of the corner of your eye whenever you start showing interest in someone else. If you can see he's starting to sweat it, go back over to him and stay with him and make him feel secure. Do it however many times it takes until you get a reaction. Then do it 2-3 more times after that but no more. Once he realizes that what he has is in jeopardy, you've got him.
2006-11-06 03:07:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he doesn't spend meaningful time with you, and/or doesn't make you happy/comfortable enough in your 'relationship', then I'd call it quits. Talk to your bf, and ask him straight up if he likes you or your cousin better. And make it an ultimatum- an answer, right there, right now. Then you'll see, and know the truth.
2006-11-06 03:05:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Definitely immature. Seems to me like he's playing you and lying about it. I mean if he were really into you he wouldn't be looking at your cousin now would he. Remember actions speak louder than words. Leave him, you deserve better.
2006-11-06 03:04:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think you should sit down and talk to him tell him dat u think he likes her by his actions and if he likes her and not u then he need to let u kno something tell him that no matter what happens yall can still chill.
2006-11-06 03:22:05 · answer #4 · answered by Teri S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your heart. Dont ignore the sign be careful before you get in to deep emotionally
2006-11-06 03:03:17 · answer #5 · answered by crazzzy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should talk to him about who he really likes. If he seems really unsure, it's pretty obvious he likes someone else if he can't decide if he likes his girlfriend better or her cousin.
2006-11-06 03:06:32 · answer #6 · answered by rangertech3 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him if he likes you, then you need the attention... maybe he's a little shy with you and feels comfortable talking with your cousin because you make him feel all gooey inside
2006-11-06 03:03:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ignore him and Play it cool!
Try to avoid seeming too Keen!
Let Him come to YOU!!
2006-11-06 03:03:33 · answer #8 · answered by J. Charles 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to him about it. If he gives you grieve about it or the situation stays the same, dump him.
2006-11-06 03:03:31 · answer #9 · answered by Egoli 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He sounds very immature. Find someone else who is more grown up.
2006-11-06 03:02:01 · answer #10 · answered by sheeny 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋