So, I hooked up with a girl last night and we had fun and swapped numbers. When I left she said she'd text me. Haven't heard anything yet (I appreciate it's not been very long) and I wondered if I should text her.
I know with straight people the girl usually waits for the guy to text. Is there a similar principle for us lesbians? Like maybe she's waiting for me to text and I don't know... I don't want to scare her off by seeming overly keen though.
(PS In case you start having a go, I'm not a curious or fake or anything, I've just not had this situation before as all my exes were friends of mine.)
2006-11-06 02:52:04 · 17 answers · asked by Anon-y-mouse 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I don't know why it matters, but we'd probably both be classed as femme.
I'd love to wait and see how long she leaves it before texting but I think I'm too impatient! Lol. I might give it til 8 tonight and then text.
2006-11-06 03:01:12 · update #1
If you are truly attracted to her, then at 8 tonight (if she hasn't contacted you by then) send her a text that says "Hey sexy/gorgeous/sweetie (something of that nature.) I was wondering, what are you doing tomorrow night? Would you like to go out again?"
Or something like that. I'm sure you know how those things go. But anyway, you say that so you have a reason to get ahold of her WITHOUT seeming impatient or desperate. If she's really attracted to you, she should reply shortly and probably accept your invitation to go out again.
Good luck with this - have fun!
2006-11-06 03:22:29 · answer #1 · answered by Momma Jette 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't matter if she is femme or butch--its the 21st century..... I guess, some would consider me femme. However, i always make the first move-- especially with something or someone that I want!!!
Maybe, she has changed her mind... you're not gonna know unless you txt her though.lol
the only ettiquette i can suggest: you text her, when she replys- leave it a while before you respond(a couple of hours). if she asks to go on a date, then you should CALL her--okay....
dont worry, you will be fine. just do what makes you happy within the situation.
2006-11-06 05:02:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she doesnt want to come across as being to keen and scaring you off? If you have swapped numbers then she is obviously interested in you.
I would send her a text, if she likes you and vice versa im sure she will be pleased to hear from you! Just say that it was good talking to her and you'd like to see her again. She may well be at work all day anyway today and a lot of companies dont allow you to have your mobile on. Good luck!
2006-11-06 02:56:42 · answer #3 · answered by Lottie 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Oh just call her. Girl - Girl relationships are no different then guy - girl. I have no problem if a woman wants to call me. In fact I think it is terrific and it makes me more attracted to her. I like the fact that she is willing to admit she is into me. Also call... don't send a text. Text msgs are such a cop out. It's like I care, but not that much.
Good luck I hope she is the woman of your dreams!
2006-11-06 03:22:02 · answer #4 · answered by Patrick B 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't see any reason why you shouldn't text her.
I'd keep it short and to the point, but personal.
I wouldn't put any real expectations on this whole thing though, just to protect your feelings a little. If it works out for you, great!
If not, I'd hate to hear that you were all disappointed.
I'm glad you found someone you like.
Good luck!
2006-11-06 02:59:39 · answer #5 · answered by michaelsmaniacal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah i wud just wait maybe her fone broke or sumthing like that! well im not a fake either but i have never been in a lesbian relationship, i want 2 be but no 1 around here will hook up with me :( lol welll yeah just give her time, if she reallly loves u then she'll right.
2006-11-06 05:24:04 · answer #6 · answered by Amber B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would so exactly as you are doing. Wait a little bit then drop her a text. Keep it casual, "Hey! How are you?" or "Just wanted to say Hi!" That way you aren't being to aggressive, yet you are showing interest.
2006-11-06 03:07:28 · answer #7 · answered by Nicki 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have this same problem sometimes. Sometimes i know how to approach the situation, other times i dont. A..n..d.. there's lot's of game players out there, so it can get vey tricky. Love to hear from women who have good ideas about this. Great question
2006-11-06 02:56:54 · answer #8 · answered by st.uncumber 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-21 08:49:43 · answer #9 · answered by lagrone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it! Make the first move! What's the worse that can happen? If we don't put ourselves out there for possible rejection, we will never know : yes or no?
2006-11-06 03:12:16 · answer #10 · answered by auntgnu62 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋