all it seems to do is stir up a load of anger from homophobes and gays alike.......does it really matter who is or isn't, their private life is their private life after all.
2006-11-06 02:13:35 · 19 answers · asked by flossy 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Me and my partner are quite open about who we are, we don't advertise we just act as naturally as possible, if someone asks, we tell, if they don't obviously it's not that important. Just be yourself
2006-11-06 05:21:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it doesn't matter who is gay or not, then w hy do heterosexuals wear wedding rings? Talking about what position you prefer in the bedroom IS discussing your private life. Refusing to hide that you're gay IS NOT. And I've never seen a heterosexual person who felt they couldn't afford to admit being heterosexual and said, "It's my personal life, which I don't discuss."
Some people might need to remain closeted, and that's their business. Some times, they have a genuine fear about losing their jobs or losing custody of their children. On the other hand, sometimes it's just a big cop out for people who need to grow a backbone.
2006-11-06 03:55:15 · answer #2 · answered by Angry Gay Man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Different people have different reasons for not wanting to be seen with a gay person.
IF YOU were attracted to a person, wouldn't YOU want to know if that person was gay or straight? Why put a LOT of time and money into something you think may develope into a marriage only to find out the "other" person is gay? Good luck. Pops
2006-11-06 02:50:38 · answer #3 · answered by Pops 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
because some people do not like hanging out with gay people-makes them look gay? This is not true though...just because you have gay friends doesn't mean you are gay. Just means you look past something that shouldn't matter in a friendship. just like I think religion shouldn't matter, race shouldn't matter, etc....makes you a more beautiful mature person to be able to accept others. And yes, I know, it does stir up a lot of anger. I am straight and am currently angry at my boyfriend because of his intolerance and hatred to gays.
2006-11-06 03:03:35 · answer #4 · answered by zombiefrog 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Too true, I mean it's not as if I walk around saying to friends "you know *whoever*, well he's straight".
It really bugs me that society demands if you're gay you have to come out. What about those people who either don't want to or just want their life to remain private. When someone found out I was in uni (she was from my home town) she went back and told practically the whole town.
It's amazing how many people's life are that boring they need to discuss yours.
2006-11-06 03:30:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
One important aspect that all straight people do not understand, is that when you grow up gay, you desperately need gay role models. When the majority of society criticise and denigrate homosexuality, it is really important for popular and successful gay people to be in the public eye, to offer some affirmation for those coming to terms with their own sexuality.
The straight world is full of role models...we need ours too.
One thing I will always respect, is a person's right to privacy...and I never agree with public 'outings'...it should always be a choice to 'come out'.
2006-11-06 04:56:51 · answer #6 · answered by Mr Glenn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mostly I agree with you. I screen people before I disclose my orientation to them. It is my business.
In the case of the Reverend Haggert, although I feel an immense amount of pity and empathy for him, I am glad that he was outed in the way he was for gay people as a whole. This was a man trying to stop gay marriage but then turning around and having gay sex. Not only was he hurting gay rights, but he was putting his lawfully wedded wife in harms way for aid and other std's.
I've said it before, I'll say it again. Our worst enemies are not straight people - but the gays that won't come to terms with them selves. They are the ones who become the most hateful homophobes so that they can appear to be straight themselves. Gay homophobes will get a whole crowd of religious fanatics or tough acting straight guys mobilized against "out" gays.
2006-11-06 02:44:30 · answer #7 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think it's all to do with the general obssession with celebs really. Everyone seems to want to know who they're dating, what they're wearing, what they're eating, etc, etc, etc. I think that celebs these days are well aware of the consequences of being famous. They pretty much become public property and everyone wants to know everything, and the media has a rather clever way of getting to that information - usually with a bit of help from a large cheque and a celeb's 'friend'. If they don't want the attention they could always get an office job!!
2006-11-06 02:20:30 · answer #8 · answered by Wafflebox 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There will always be people who are overly curious about the private lives of others. We owe noone an explanation about our particular sexual orientation, practices or partners. Governments, society in general and your neighbours in particular have no place in the bedrooms of the nation.
2006-11-06 02:17:58 · answer #9 · answered by Jo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It not only stirs up trouble with homophobes and the like; it stirs up trouble with homos as well. They can be just as nasty, as a lot of them have caused trouble for poeple I know who are NOT gay. They seem to feel everyone hates them because of it which is, of course, not true at all. People should stay out of one another's personal lives, period!
2006-11-06 02:17:43 · answer #10 · answered by hopflower 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I agree. I mean who cares? It only matters if you are looking for a lover. I mean, friends come in all persuasions and so keep life more interesting. I think it is either an expression of homophobia or someone looking for more acceptance and a push out of the closet.
2006-11-06 03:07:03 · answer #11 · answered by MUD 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋