The worst of alI have left my husband once to she if things would change but they have'nt the best of all she go a lawyer and she was tring to take my son away from me. I leave next door to her what do I do?
2006-11-06 02:06:07 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Girl, I feel so sorry for you. Your husband should stand up for you! Was he helping her try to take the baby away from you? This is what you need to do before it's too late. Be really nice to the mother-in-law act like nothing is wrong to your husband too. Go to work, get a good job, save up money that he doesn't know about and get out. If you have your own place and own income you will be almost guaranteed your baby since you are his mother. You have to play this just right or you will lose your baby. They are a bunch of freaks trying to take your baby away. And your husband is just a mama's boy.
2006-11-06 02:15:52 · answer #1 · answered by tina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mom's are hard however they can be defeated. Sometimes as women our opinions are a little on the heavy side. We tend to want all the attention and don't want to share what little attention we get with anybody. Because once women marry we become second to everything.
You have to put yourself first. Excel in your job. Be creative with the way you treat his mom. She probably has a hard time receiving attention elsewhere and your husband happens to be the best at giving the attention your mother needs.
This decision between you and his mom is not about you. It is about him. He needs to let go of the security blanket mom provides for us all. He needs to see the security blanket you provide comes with benefits mom can not fill.
You have to be confident in that. He sleeps with you. Sex- you find the things which you can only provide and excel in them. Hi mother, don't focus on her so much because that is what he is doing. When you go to see her be nice. Be sweet and allow your mind to let go of your heart and just find the warmth he sees too.
It is not a battle you will win. She is important to him and so are you. Equally. None more than the other. But, to be strong is to also show humility and respect to the one who brought him into the world. Find the good qualities. Let her get to know you and be confident you are the right one for him. Because mothers are skeptics with there sons and no one is ever good enough. I am a mother of two sons and no one will ever be good enough until they treat my sons the way they deserve to be treated. But, mom is mom. And you are his wife. That alone is a battle.
Good luck. Pray, and be encouraged God loves marriage and He understands moms.
2006-11-06 10:15:41 · answer #2 · answered by jbseminoles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Secretly save up your money and move closer to your own family...Leaving him again and not being under his or his mothers thumb will make things a bit more clear for you. Be responsible and be a good parent and don't give her any more ammunition to use against you than she already has. Use the excuse that you are taking your son to visit the family. Pack only his best clothes and such...you can even mail toys and such ahead of time without your husband knowing...also don't forget to hand carry his medical and school records...it will save you time...Best wishes to you.
2006-11-06 10:13:29 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your husband hasn't grown up and his mother hasn't allowed him to grow up. So you are stuck with a little boy who jumps when mama says to. Go see a lawyer and move on. Move if you have to. She can't take your son if she has no reason to prove you are an unfit mom.These women are sick individuals.
2006-11-06 10:14:36 · answer #4 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haven't you ever watch "Everybody Loves Raymond"? MOVE! MOVE! MOVE! with or without your husband. Your marriage will never work living next door to her so tell your husband you're moving and you want him to come with you and if he doesn't, well, he's got "mommy" issues too big for you resolve or your marriage isn't what you thought it was to begin with. In any case, have the life you want. Good Luck, Sweetie.
2006-11-06 10:11:40 · answer #5 · answered by N0_white_flag 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get very uncomfortable when people ask questions like "why doesn't he 'need' me.
Do you want to be a mother to your husband? If he's a healthy, confident (not arrogant), well-rounded male, he's probably wanting a partner and not another mother.
2006-11-06 10:11:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband takes his mother side, then you should leave him and find another place as far away from her as possible.
2006-11-06 10:11:58 · answer #7 · answered by trushka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should find another place and move away if he wants to come then you know he loves you if he wants to stay with his mom let him..be a momma's boy! and find yourself a real man
2006-11-06 10:09:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to work it out with your husband and he has to let her know she need to butt out . if they don't listen find a lawyer and boot their behind
2006-11-06 10:08:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋