i have been married for nearly 7 years and have children, but my mum in law hates me from day one she has tried to split us up and turn my hubbys family against me, i am very strong willed and speak my mind i certainly wont let her have a say in the way our lives should be as she likes to interfere and make every one do what she wants to do if you say no she will fall out with them, i love her son and we are extremely happy but she wont acknowledge this she just calls me names my husband has had enough and told her he doesnt want any thing to do with her unless she apologises, i dont want my husband to resent me in years for stoppin him seeing his mum but i dont deserve all the crap she gives me wot should i do...
2006-11-06 02:01:29 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Send her to the Boot Camp. Lol. She deserves it.
2006-11-06 02:54:18 · answer #1 · answered by tanyasiv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She hates you because you took her son away from her and she don't think you are good enough. She also see you as a Rival because you won't let her run your family's life like she wants to do. So just keep doing what you are doing, when a man gets married he is suppose to cut the apron strings that ties him to his mother. And some mothers don't like that specially if he was the youngest or the favorite son.
P.S: It is great that your husband stood up for you. No man should let anybody talk about his wife and not be put in their place.
2006-11-06 02:11:01 · answer #2 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I just had to answer this one!!! LOL
My mother in law hates me too!!!
She says the nastiest things to me and treats me like **** when my husband isn't around. She's completely two faced. I'm guessing it's because her son is grown up and she doesn't like it. She has no control over it. She does have another one that's living at home though (he's 24). So, I don't know why she still has to be that way to me, but she is. I just give it back. And you should to!! Don't let her treat you badly. It's good that your husband sticks up for you, but I don't think he'll resent you later on. He loves you. And you're right...you don't deserve the way she's treating you. So, don't let her. Good luck. Hope this helped.
2006-11-06 02:31:43 · answer #3 · answered by Jenna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is doing the right thing...standing by his wife and family. Love him for that. He wont resent you down the line...he loves you and has a strong heart and a wise mind. His family sound screwed...some mother in law's just cannot cope with seeing their precious little sons in love and so happy with another women other than themself...sounds sick I know but true.. My husbands family are also F&c%e*........ and I was stupid enough to have my mother in law move in!! She's gone now....thank god....but yes the married into family are a total pain....I just thank god I have good friends....you can choose your friends you cant choice your family!
2006-11-06 03:07:59 · answer #4 · answered by Lynne B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have done NOTHING wrong and you shouldnt be made to feel as if you have. You married a man and his mother clearly didnt and doesnt know how to cut the cord. SHE needs to get a damn grip. You been married for 7 years for goodness sakes. Its great you speak your mind and its great that your hubby has put his foot down with his mother. As long as you love, respect and nuture your hubby and take care of the kids ...his mother should be proud to call you daughter in law...if she wants to be a bit*h about a situation she cant control...LET HER! My ex mom in law disliked me tooo..the only person who lost out because of her hating on me was HER and I didnt care. Live your life and enjoy your family...To HELL with the haters...including family memebers who cant or wont get a grip.
2006-11-06 02:32:10 · answer #5 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is jealous of ur life together. You need to talk to ur husband and tell him that you need to stick together like a team. I wouldn't put his mom down or call her bad names. He will notice this! You are married to him not her. I wouldn't keep him from his mom...he might recent you later for that. Just make sure that ur marriage can stand anything and you will be fine. You guys together are stronger then his mother. I had this problem with my mother in law. Finally, we told her she would never see us or her grandchildren. Then she completely, changed. Some older ladies are so bitter and unhappy with there own lifes they don't want there own children to be happy! Don't let her lead ruin your family and ur marriage! God Bless!
2006-11-06 02:32:44 · answer #6 · answered by LeeLynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mothers are weird with their sons. With most moms its because she feels like you are taking her baby from her. In a sense trying to replace her. They don't think any woman is good enough for their little boy and that they will always know what is best for him. Be careful because men are also weird when it comes to their mommas. Don't push too much with your hubby on not seeing his mom it could explode in your face badly. I agree you shouldn't have to put up with it though but as for what to do about it that's a very tuff question with no right answer.
2006-11-06 02:31:52 · answer #7 · answered by babygirl_k2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if your mum inlaw wants to run the show for everyone, and you are not like that and do not allow her to have her way. Some people are just like that, they want to run the show no matter whos life it is. Your husband was right to defend you and stick by you. I wouldn't worry about him resenting you for it, it was his decision to stick up for you and he just may be sick of his controlling mother. You are right to hold your ground and be who you are. She doesn't like you because you do not allow her to control you and you're every move.
2006-11-06 02:31:29 · answer #8 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband should stand up for you, his loyalty lies with you especially if he sees how his mother treats you. Let the decision about him not seeing his mom be his own. Then he won't resent you. I'd just live life and not be around someone who is that negative towards me.
2006-11-06 02:10:02 · answer #9 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why she hates you. I am the same way though. (Not with the name calling). My son is 15 and he has been talking to girls for about a year now. For some reason, I automatically dislike every one of them. I just keep telling him he can do better. Maybe I will ask this question myself because I really don't understand it.
2006-11-06 02:10:09 · answer #10 · answered by Corona 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
some people in this world like to judge before they even get to know someone, it is sad but true. I wouldn't worry about her Just focus on the life you have with your husband. He can see what she is doing is wrong, I don't see him taking it out on you for her being a devious biotch.
2006-11-06 02:11:37 · answer #11 · answered by brunette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋