ok..i started dating my friends brother about 1 1/2 month ago...but we didnt tell anybody about us..we wanted to see where our relationship would go..and finally 2 weeks ago we told his sister..who is my bff...and she was fine with us..now we told all of our family and friends and now my friend is acting all weird when ever im over at their house to hang with her brother...i dont know if she is mad that im hangin' out with her bro and not her or what? so is this normal when you start dating a friends brother???
2006-11-06 01:53:46 · 13 answers · asked by *~Angel_Eyes~* 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I would guess that she's probably fine with the actual relationship you have with her brother. When you go over to their house is it the 3 of you that hang out? She could be wondering if you're coming over just to see her brother all the time. It's good to have times when it's just you and your guy but I'd also make a point to reaffirm you're there for her too. Again she's probably fine with the relationship itself but feels a little thrown and confused as to where she stands in your life now. When you're over at her place shove your boyfriend aside every once in a while and do things with her that you would've done before. It'll make her feel important and keep the 2 of you on good terms.
2006-11-06 02:03:39 · answer #1 · answered by Angela G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in this situation before. I can tell you from experience that she is probably feeling left out and jealous. Make sure that you also set aside some time for her, too!!
It's a very awkward situation. My relationship didn't last long, but I was like 15 years old. She was very immature. So, maybe it'll be different for you. You have to decide who is more important. In the long run, friends are usually more important. I wish I had just stuck with my friendship with her. I think it ruined it for awhile. At least until I broke up with her brother. And then she was fine.
But yes, it's normal. She's just feeling left out and maybe jealous. Just make time for her, too. Good luck and hope it works out. Hope this helped!!
2006-11-06 10:11:50 · answer #2 · answered by Jenna 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never been in that situation but would imagine it would be AWKWARD until everyone got used to the idea. The way I see it you have 2 choices. Confront her about the way you're feeling. Maybe it's YOU and she's perfectly fine with it. Second option is to wait awhile, see if time takes care of the uncomfortable feelings. Good Luck..make sure he's worth a BFF!
2006-11-06 10:00:22 · answer #3 · answered by N0_white_flag 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She may think that you just used her to get close to her brother. Also the things y'all use to talk about she may be scared it will get back to her brother, and it makes her feel uncomfortable. She is just adjusting to the change in the relationship you use to be her friend now you are her brothers girlfriend. Y'all should still make time to do things together, or double date with her and her boyfriend. Just don't include her in any of the problems you have with her brother, that will make her have to chose sides.
2006-11-06 10:01:39 · answer #4 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It's because she has lost her best friend (or at least a lot of your time) to her brother. She's feeling left out. Very normal way to feel.
Rule of thumb: if you keep seeing him she will get used to it. But, don't discuss your problems with her. She was his sister first, so she will be loyal to him. Find another friend for that.
2006-11-06 09:56:32 · answer #5 · answered by tarro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your friend could be a little jealous, take time to spend with your friend away from your bf as im sure she feels like the third wheel also she might feel like she has lost her friend to her brother, even if you have tried to be there for both, spend separate time with each person as well as together!
2006-11-06 10:02:34 · answer #6 · answered by missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually this kind of situation is taboo. You never date your friends' sister or brother. It can actually sever relationships if it doesn't work out. What happens if you and her brother don't make it for whatever reason and her brother is hearbroken, then she'll be mad at you for hurting her brother for whatever reason.
(do you get my drift ) :)
2006-11-06 10:08:35 · answer #7 · answered by stella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres a rule u no u dont date a friends brother
2006-11-06 09:57:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
YES! Really, she is, but try to make time for your best-friend also! Who knows she could be your sister-in-law someday? Wouldn't it be awkward knowing that she was once your best-friend?
2006-11-06 09:59:15 · answer #9 · answered by *+* Miss NATION*+* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not and you should just try and speak to her, she mightbe jealous thinking that she does spend anymore time with you that your brother does!
2006-11-06 10:15:34 · answer #10 · answered by Nobulungisa M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋