My fiance and I have been together for eight years on and off. He has a close female friend who he considers family. He's known her since grade school. He tells me how she was there for him and everything. Okay... I let that go on for a while, but now I am finding it a little unfair, since he doesn't want me to talk to my male friends. When I look on his phone I see he calls her (vice versa.)
I have to admit, at times I do feel a little jealous. I'm not keeping score or anything, but I've done more things for him then she has ever, and he only tells me once in a while that he apprectiates it. Furthermore, other times I do feel that if she would give him a chance he would leave me since they've known each other longer.
Maybe it's my insecurities playing a part in this, but I do find it unfair that I can't have male friends, and he can have female friends.
Should I leave it alone??
2006-11-06 01:38:23 · 10 answers · asked by Seventeen1985 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I don't know anything about this girl, more or less seen her.
He wanted to prove that nothing was going on at one point, so he put me on the three-way on the hush hush to listen to a conversation between them, and it was innocent.
While, on the three way he did tell her he has a woman, which I was surprise about... I thought everybody knew about me since we've been together for so long.
You all are right. As soon as I get out school I am going to make my point today.
2006-11-06 02:23:48 · update #1
Watch the movie "Basketball Diaries". You'll know what to do after that.
2006-11-06 01:42:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This can be tricky. First of all he should understand that what's good for the goose is good for the gander, and he has no right to set double standards if he can have female friends, then he cant limit your guy friends. Second, men and women can be purely platonic friends, as long as neither of them ever had any feelings for the other. Especially the female in question. Women can be very manipulative, and if she decides she wants your guy, most guys just dont have the willpower to say no. I have lived this. Above all a relationship is built on trust, and if he cant trust you, or you feel you cant trust him, then you have some deeper issues to work out first.
Good luck :)
2006-11-06 01:59:58 · answer #2 · answered by Goddess Nikki 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not unless you are prepared for more of the same. Be up front with him and tell him that you have grown tired of the constant phone calls that he makes to his childhood friend, and for him to be prepared for you to have guy friends also. I do not think you are being insecure about this, I would be hurt as well. And engaged for 8 years and you have put up with this all that time without either breaking up with him or giving him an ultimatum. He is the one who is immature and insecure if he will not let you have male friends, and he has a female friend. I think you have handled it beautifully, but enough is enough.
2006-11-06 01:47:24 · answer #3 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs to understand taht you are entiteled to male friends. On the seperate note, I have had a guy friend for 8 years and all of his girlfriends see me as a threat....I am not, I am very happy in my current relationship, and I want to shake these women and say if I had wanted him, I would have made my move before he met you. That he is just a good friend, and a male opinion when I do not want to tell my signifigant other. The same I am sure is said for him.
2006-11-06 01:42:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Friendship is & always will b stronger than any relationship & that's b/c there R no lies between friends. U should trust him unless he's proven 2 lie 2 U, otherwise Ur relationship won't work. Tell him he can trust U 2, there's no reason Y U can't have male friends.
2006-11-06 01:46:33 · answer #5 · answered by ♥less 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First he cannot tell you you cannot have male friends. He is not your boss. I would tell him I am sick of him talking to her on the phone all the time and why can't he call you instead of her if he needs to talk to someone. Does she have a boyfriend??? I would not put up with it if I were you. There is nothing wrong with calling to invite someone to an event of something like that but I would tell him she needs to find another source for support. You are his girlfriend not her. If it continues I would call it quits and see if they start dating. Good luck!!!
2006-11-06 01:56:05 · answer #6 · answered by angie a 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no you shouldnt leave it alone. Me and my bf had this same problem before. It was me who thought it would be cool to have a male friend since school, but i always told my bf not to have any girls as friends. So, we came to this agreement...no friends of the opposite sex, no matter what. You guys need to have this agreement, or it wont work.
You gotta always let him know how you feel...no matter what it is.
2006-11-06 01:44:52 · answer #7 · answered by yagurlbubblez 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-21 08:46:03 · answer #8 · answered by lagrone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit him down talk to the man tell him exactly how you feel tell him your ok with him having that friend you just want friends of your own as well
2006-11-06 01:44:57 · answer #9 · answered by I am smart 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
not if you want male friends, otherwise yes.
2006-11-06 01:39:55 · answer #10 · answered by David B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋