Have you ever had a boy who was bad for you and you knew it, but he just had this power over you that kept you coming helplessly back for more? I know I'm not alone here - so many of us girls have been through it!
I thought I was immune - I've always been very strong and dominant - the Queen B*tch my friends have always called me ;)... but now I'm with a guy who I know is a bastard, but whenever he looks into my eyes or strokes my hair I melt like a schoolgirl...he just knows how manipulate me, to push my buttons, to make me do anything. I can't resist. How do these guys do this to us, and how do we break their spell?
2006-11-06 01:31:22 · 9 answers · asked by Amazon Karen 1 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
I hate to say but we females can ask all the advice in the world abt this until we are blue in the face. Fact is we wont stop it until we are totally fed up and we have high tolerance to bull**** so sometimes it takes a while. WHY do we do this? I think its a challenge for us.( not saying it justifies anything) I think we romanticize into the whole bad boy image turning good because ( the ultimate love story) "they love us so" so we keep hanging on until we come to our senses. :/ We are women and our flaw is that we don't love easy but when we do, we love hard.
2006-11-06 01:43:47 · answer #1 · answered by melissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got over the "bad boy" crushes when one of them beat me and eventually became a serial murderer. After him, good character qualities in a man became more important than his ability to make me melt. Which I eventually discovered was not mutually exclusive.
2006-11-06 10:13:46 · answer #2 · answered by silver2sea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is playing you. All you have to do is play back. He messes with you because you let him. Its call grooming. Your options are, let him and deal with it. Drop him and deal with it. Or play him back. Some bad boys can be straightened out. If you ask you a question answer with a question. If he replies negitively to yours, throw on the pout and decline his. If he cares for you at all he will start meeting you in the middle. If not, he is just playing to be playing and should be avoided or burned at the stake which ever is easiest for you to deal with. My man and I were both players put together by our "friends" just to watch us try and play each other. Once we realized what was going on we found it was much more fun to meet in the middle.
2006-11-06 12:51:06 · answer #3 · answered by Becky 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You better not get soft because apparently that is not what he was drawn to he likes your dominate side breaking the spell is as simple as wanting to keep looking into his eyes Be Real
2006-11-06 11:28:02 · answer #4 · answered by shellbell 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your in a very sticky situation, stop and wonder, what makes me stick around? its hard to say no to certain type of men yet the first person you should worry about is yourself...look inside u for that inner b%$ch and kick him to the curb...your worth more than that
2006-11-06 09:42:24 · answer #5 · answered by sophia's mommy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can be immune to it. Just walk away. Make him chase you for a while. If he doesn't. His loss.
2006-11-06 12:58:04 · answer #6 · answered by jessica a 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep on melting...
Good Girl!
2006-11-06 14:17:45 · answer #7 · answered by spyblitz 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you have to move on for your own emotional health. someday you might be tempted to do it to a guy so go easy.
2006-11-06 09:39:04 · answer #8 · answered by blackratsnake 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
strengthen ur own mind girl. give it up.
2006-11-06 10:06:40 · answer #9 · answered by A.R 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋