We have not dated for about 9 or 10 years now. I am currently in a relationship for 4 years. However, both of our current partners are very insecure people. My ex and I just have a unique connection, but unfortunately when we dated we were young and dumb. I do not want to lose his friendship, but I do not want to cause problems for either of us.
2006-11-06 01:20:02 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
YES its ok to still be friends you shouldn't have to give that up you 2 were there for eachother long before your current partners and they should respect that, and if they don't then they don't trust you and thats not a good thing.
2006-11-06 01:23:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with Lt. You definitely have a right to be friends with anyone you wish. However, your current relationship should have priority. Maybe the 4 of you could spend time together, become friends as a group, so your partners wouldn't feel left out. Good luck.
2006-11-06 01:25:50 · answer #2 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have a right to choose your friends but you must decide whether risking your current relationship is worth the friendship. Sometimes it's not. Good Luck!
2006-11-06 01:22:22 · answer #3 · answered by Lt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with remaining friends with an ex. I have been friends with many of the men I dated in my younger years, most of them have been married for quite sometime, however their spouses are very secure in their marriages, in fact I am good friends with their spouses as well.
2006-11-06 01:24:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is anything wrong with it. Provided that it is just a friendship and you know the boundaries. I also think that it is only fair that your significant others are aware of the occasional communications the two of you have with each other.
It shouldn't be a secret.
2006-11-06 01:21:34 · answer #5 · answered by shughes2000_2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation....I had an ex boyfriend that I dated when I lived in FL and we kept in constant contact. I moved after dating him for 4 months back to WI. I met a great guy whom I have been with for 4. 5 years. We would talk all the time and I would travel down to see him and some other friends that I met while living there for 6 months. My current boyfriend was fine with it until I went down and cheated on him while on Spring Break vaca. Not a proud moment and was drunk and current and I were only together for a month. I have tried to cut ties. My current knows that we are ONLY friends. But the ex told me he never wanted to speak to me again because his current fiancee didn't like me (we never met) and he wanted to make sure they were going to last (which I understood). He called me on Dec. 28th, 2004 to tell me that he never wanted to talk to me again. (we never have had a fight). I was devasted. I gave him all the space he wanted and never talked to him until I took it upon me to call him in June 28th of 2006 and we talked for an hour. It had been like a year and a half, and time never skipped a beat for us and I wanted to make sure that he was happily married but he never got married. I even went as far as to finding his wedding date and all. I would have never shown up, but I wanted to know if he was for real and getting married. Maybe to close the doors on our friendship? I didn't want to let go because his friendship meant so much to me. I was never going to move to be with him but I wanted to make sure that he had someone else and that he would be taken care of. I don't talk to him much now....but I would if he would return phone calls. He was my best friend and I would tell him EVERYTHING. The moral of my story is that is does hurt others on the each side and people just need to know that you are just FRIENDS. My boyfriend knows that. If I had wanted to be with FL I would have been there by now. I just don't have many friends and to lose that one, it was really hard. I am okay now, but there are tough times that makes me want to call him and talk. But it is part of the growing up process. I would just let everyone know that you are friends and that there would never be anything between the 2 of you. Get to know "her" then and hang out with her so that she can get to know the reason why her husband is friends with you! Good luck!
2006-11-06 01:55:07 · answer #6 · answered by Peek A Boo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The best thing to do is try to become friends with her too. If you can act the same with her around as when she's not, then she will see that you are no threat. In the past, I haven't liked my guys' friends to act all flirty with him when I'm not around, but then barely speak to him when I'm there. That just makes you look suspicious even if there is nothing.
2006-11-06 02:12:44 · answer #7 · answered by Green Eyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are both mature enough to be friends and keep it at friends, then no, there is nothing wrong with it. however if you are just holding on to each other in the hopes that one day you two will try again hoping you are older and wiser now, then you are all just going to get hurt.
2006-11-06 01:28:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it makes your significant others uncomfortable, then its a problem. You need to prioritize. Whats more important, thier happiness and security in your relationships, or your friendship?
2006-11-06 01:23:44 · answer #9 · answered by JC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please let go that childhood and boy meet girl days. Please reason well before you do great damage. We all have our childhood dreams which for us to be tagged grown ups, we have to let go. We smile at those age and days.
Relationship is sacred and a big deal, so dont just go into one- with your eyes closed. lOVE IS NEITHER BLIND NOR SENTIMENTAL, BUT HAS EYES AND BRAIN. gOOD LUCK ELSE WHERE
2006-11-06 01:37:18 · answer #10 · answered by mikail 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋