How do you reignite and move forward in a relationship after having major problems.
2006-11-06 01:19:25 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Both agree to pretend that you have first met eachother - start again.
Go on a first date and move on to other things as you would. Go to places you dont usually go and just try new things.
New experiences will help you...it's the key to findoing out new things about eachother.
Also spend time together and other couples too. You nee time on your own but you also need to socialise with others. This helps you feel more 'as one' as a couple.
2006-11-06 01:23:13 · answer #1 · answered by Chazza xx Baby born 7/11/09 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first thing you both need to do is sit down, talk things through and only move on when you both have agreed that you want to give this a try
the best thing to do is not go too fast,
*the best way forward is*
no digging the past. you should both agree with each other that even if there is a bust out of anger due to whatever reason, that person will not blame / call names to the other about the past problems or remind what happened and what was said.
once you are at that level, you should carry on your normal life, go to work etc and spend evenings together, show her appreciation by keeping a meal ready when she comes home or something and when things lighten up a bit, discuss about going on a holiday
once you both are relaxed then going on a holiday to a romantic place will reignite the passion by spending lots of quality time together, reassuring each other that you have strong feelings.
remember dont go too fast - no surprises or decisions without consulting each other or it would all stir up again
good luck :)
2006-11-06 09:26:49 · answer #2 · answered by GorGeous_Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on what the problems were, and if they are ongoing or truly resolved. But first and foremost you have to be honest, open and define what you both want in the relationship now and moving forward. I had a recent major problem with my man and we both said ok the past is gone and now we start over right now. But you have to start fresh and new and not bring up the past for it to work. So far we have and made a point to do things for each other like we did before any problems. Our love is strong but the confidence and faith we have in each other is a step by step process one day at a time.
2006-11-06 09:55:25 · answer #3 · answered by Sassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sort of depends on what the problem is really.
I guess you have to both have got past what the issue is and then ensure that it's not going to be mentioned in arguments, etc in the future. You have to mean that you're ready to move forward rather than just saying it.
Maybe go on holiday together or have a nice weekend away or just do something special together that you both enjoy and don't do every day. You need to do the courting thing again and learn to appreciate each other. Go for nice means and make an effort to dress up. Just go on dates together and don't get stuck in a rut of sitting in front of the tv every night.
2006-11-06 09:23:49 · answer #4 · answered by Wafflebox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
Why don't you try getting away from the same old same old and go somewhere the two of you can relax, yes i mean a holiday!!!
Enjoy good food, a few drinks, go for walks, let her get the point that you are trying! It might make a big difference
If you can't get time off work or can't really afford it, just do things where the two of you spend time relaxing, and enjoying each others company, even if it is a night at home watching a romantic movie snuggling on the couch
2006-11-06 09:46:29 · answer #5 · answered by missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Major problems in a relationship is difficult to solve...but just remember that every problems we encounter we learned a lot from it, and that makes us strong, matured. and responsible person...! Move forward by accepting your faults dont let your pride be the top, you learn to forgive and how to forgive, like undestand each other and try to find solution in every problem without hatred. If you think you cant make it anymore then forget and go on for your nextlife. Life is full of surprises just be wise and smart to appreciate.
2006-11-06 09:29:38 · answer #6 · answered by jacky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well once its been discussed and resolved - you're better off to just forget about the offending incident and move on.
Start afresh - book a table for dinner - or something nice like that - go out - make a pact that what happened happened - move on from it and try not mention it again.
Wishing you luck! xx
2006-11-06 09:53:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember what it was that attracted you in the first place. You pursued her relentlessly when you wanted to go out with her. Why stop now that you're together. Keep sight of the problems that almost drove you apart, but move the earth to make sure she knows how you feel.
2006-11-06 09:33:21 · answer #8 · answered by Matt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be hard but accept that the past IS past.
Put it down to experience and determine to learn something from it. Then move forward.
2006-11-06 10:22:40 · answer #9 · answered by alan h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is it you want? What is it she wants? What are the long terms goals of the relationship as definied by each of you individually?
Comminication is #1, comprimise is #2 (you also need to be a good listener).
2006-11-06 09:24:39 · answer #10 · answered by whymewhynow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋