2006-11-06 01:04:28 · 27 answers · asked by smiley 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh how I can relate! My husband is 32 and I am 23. We have been together since I was 16 years old. We are now married with 3 beautiful children and after almost 8 years are great. I think it depends on the maturity of both couples. I think people have a predestined idea that age is so important. I am sorry but I have seen people who are 25 not be able to handle having a baby while an 19 year old can, my point, maturity. If you are able to willingly work on your relationship then there is no reason why you cannot make it last. You also need to believe in yourself and make sure you know what you want. It is your decision and your's alone and no one can tell you what is best for you but you.
2006-11-06 01:12:36 · answer #1 · answered by carmadsmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think age gap can cause much trouble if it is not more thne 8 or 10 years and when you are both young enough, but I don't think that 18 years is a suitable gap. He will grow older very soon, when you'll be in your late 30s you'll see that you are not with the person you wish to be. Most of all there would be a lot of troubles to accept each other. So, it is a very hard tast for a couple to work things out in such situation. There's a very small possiblity that it might work out.
2006-11-06 09:07:29 · answer #2 · answered by GLADIATOR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't specify the ages in your question. The ages can make a big difference. Technically, anything 18+ or 21+ doesn't matter, and if it works for you two, well then great. But a 20 year old and a 40 year old may not have as much in common as a 35 year old and a 50 year old. And it also just depends on the people. I've seen it work, and I've seen it not work. It just kind of depends on where you are in your life. If you're 25 with a 40 year old, you want kids, and he doesn't, it probably isn't going to work. If you're 30 with 3 kids, and he's 45 and doesn't want any more, but accepts yours, then you might be doing ok!
Good luck
2006-11-06 09:08:53 · answer #3 · answered by AnswerMom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously too big could be a problem.. but the older you get the less an age gap matters...or at least the less everyone else cares about. In teen years 1 year is a big difference to most people.
2006-11-06 09:11:35 · answer #4 · answered by Aaron 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not just a number. Peoples wants are different in 20's 30's 40's etc. EG>The one in 20's will still want to socialise and the one in their 30's will be more focused on housing and work. The older of the couple will think the younger is less experienced and therefore inferior. Priorities change and affect the relationship. Believe me - was married to guy 15 years older.He is an old man now and I'm in my prime. I got mighty sick of hanging with the elderly. Now I have dated a few younger and they are twits.
2006-11-06 23:12:30 · answer #5 · answered by auntynoall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think as long as the two people have genuine interest and love, it shouldn't matter. Now when some divorced 50-something has a 20-something token floozy girlfriend, then that's when I have a problem. But with the big age gap, you do have to deal with the fact that the older person will most likely pass away long before the younger and that can be hard to deal with. As long as both parties aren't blind to that possibility and have taken steps to cope with it when it happens, everything should be fine.
2006-11-06 09:12:24 · answer #6 · answered by Nasubi 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My boyfriend is 10 years older than me, and their are pluses and minues all around (but I guess the same ones from any couple). Him being black and me being white comes up more often. My Dad is 20 years older than my Mom, and while I was blessed to have parents from different generations (more viewpoints on history), I think it was a major reason for their divorce. But, I can't say that stops me now. Bottom line: Love is a many-splendored all shapes colors and sizes kinda of thing, just watch out for STDs
2006-11-06 09:09:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you consider major age gap. In Korea, I often heard that if the guy is four years older than the girl, it is perfect for marriage! (i must admit women are more mature mentally, so 4 years makes sense to me. ) In reversal: women age faster than men, so if the woman is much older, it will be to her disadvantage in the relationship in the long run
2006-11-06 09:08:25 · answer #8 · answered by jkjkjkjkjkjkjkj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is 11 years older than I am. We have been together for almost 5 years now and things are still great. I think that the key to this is just like anyother relationship--you have to communicate and be willing to work out any issues that you may have.
2006-11-06 10:29:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has its share of hurdles to overcome.
Assume that the age difference is 20 years. It's okay when one is 32 and the other is 52. But when the younger one is 52 the other could be dead!
2006-11-06 09:06:00 · answer #10 · answered by kja63 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋