Is it possible to grow old and be happy alone?

Question

Is it possible to grow old and be happy not having found someone to share your life with? I've been forced to contemplate upon this.

Answer 1

"no man is an island" it's a saying everyone longs for companionship.. but some aren't lucky enough to find one.. but if they know acceptance and satisfaction.. it would be possible..

Answer 2

Loneliness a terrible price to pay for being independent.

You can be old and alone as long as your not lonely, they are two very different things.

My mum thought she was happy when she lived alone, doing her own thing, coming and going as she pleased, having friends around for dinner. For years I begged her to come and live with me and all I would get is 'I could never live with you'. Until one day she went out and fell over, cracking a rib. She was 80 years old then. When she was sent home from the hospital I took care of her, and when I bought a new house she asked if there was any room for her. That was 2 years ago and she now lives in a granny annex attached to my house.
She still has her Independence but I'm here so she's not lonely. Her health has improved and she feels safe knowing there is someone next door to check in on her.

So, no, I don't think you can. I hope I am never lonely when I'm old, it's bad enough feeling that way now while I'm still young.

Answer 3

It is possible.

The issue is: loneliness versus solitude.
Both are the sequels of alone-ness / the state of being alone. But they are different reactions to it. In loneliness, you face your aloneness with some degree of despair. In solitude, you face your aloneness with peace and confidence in yourself.

Any "solution" takes into account that as humans, we crave company. Not having a significant other does not mean that you necessarily will be lonely. It's up to you and how you handle it. How? Buy staying involved with humans. Volunteer, work, or join a club. If you are becoming aged, hopefully you have planned for your care (a retirement community? a home for the aged?)

This is just a short answer, but I hope it helps.

Answer 4

Not in my opinion.

In our country family life is very inportant part of thios is due to religion. Muslim woman and men dont like to intermingle without a proper relationship like marriage hence the need to commit before any physical contact is necesary. This is the main reason we get married b/w 20-30 ususally....
Whether this be arranged or love.

Its hard to spend life without someone and especially if the other sex does not intermingle with u.






Apart from anything else ....two brains are better than one..also children are the best gift of all that come with the marriage bond..

If ur not too old...I beleive u still have hope..like ur name says ..Hope for the best :)

Answer 5

Why not? Just because a lot of people find happyness by spending their lives with another, why should that not mean that others cannot be happy by spending their lives as single?

Just because there is pressure out there to say that you should grow old with someone does not mean it is necessarily right for all, or impossible for those of us wanting such relationships to still find happyness alone.

Answer 6

I don't think you could. Life is about finding that special person, making a life together and leaving your legacy behind. Without leaving your legacy behind, no one will ever know you were ever here. You can have kids and not be with anyone but really who would want to grow old by themselves? I think you need some type of companian, being a best friend or a significant other. You can't go through life without love. You'll be misrable.

Answer 7

I've been desperately and alone when I was in relationships. I've also been really happy when I'm single so it depends on how you are inside. Imagine being married to someone for 50 years and they suddenly die, leaving you to face your remaining years alone? Is that better that being single for 50 years and living an enjoyable single life knowing you can face anything? You have to decide.

Answer 8

Oh I am so glad someone finally asked this question!!! Of course you can be happy that way! I have been married 2x (on my 2nd now) and there are plenty of times I want to knock myself in the head for ever getting married again! I could most certainly live without a man and be very happy alone.

Answer 9

i believe that it is possible for some people. for me personally, it would be hard. i enjoy sharing my life. but i could grow old alone. i like to be happy with other people but not have my happiness only in those other people.

Answer 10

I think so. Whether you are single or have a partner the first most important person in your life is YOU. There are a lot of married people who are lonely. I think it's important to have friends. Don't isolate yourself, but there's nothing wrong with living alone. We were born alone...we die alone. Stay true to yourself.

Answer 11

Yes I think so... but you need an interest of your own!

When i was younger I helped out an old man who was a musician... never had a wife, kids or supportive family, but music was his love and he lived into his 90's and was happy as larry.